Im married now but Im not sure if I should go cause of my feelings he dogged me but our familys grew up like blood I was with him about 3 years ago what should I do go or stay home
2006-09-21 07:44:13 · 29 answers · asked by jacci mcann 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You should definately go and pay your respects to his family . He is gone and you should let hurtfull feelings go with him . Just remember to tell his family how sorry you are for their loss . And it is a loss to them. You will feel much better for doing the right thing i can gurantee you that.
2006-09-21 07:47:30 · answer #1 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he have a current wife/girlfriend/fiance who would be upset seeing you there on top of everything else?
I would consider that first before I went.
If you feel you need to pay your last respects privately, you should call the funeral home and speak to the director about the situation and ask to view the body privately before the family arrives.
2006-09-21 08:00:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go and pay your respects. That's all. It'll be good for the family to see you and know that you cared enough to show them (not necessarily your ex) your support and condolences in their hour of need. I'm sure you won't be the only one that'll be there that didn't have that same argument w/ themselves.
2006-09-21 07:47:34 · answer #3 · answered by gretchen372002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has nothing to do with ex relationships.... it is about respect.
My mother past away earlier this year and both of my ex husbands came to her viewing and funeral. Even thought both divorces were far from amicable.
My father commented on how awkward I must have felt with my fiance at her funeral. Both my fiance and I said "with all of that aside it speaks volumes of the love and respect they had for my mother"
Definitely go to show your respect to the family.
2006-09-21 07:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel is right if you still have brotherly love for him go but if you feel like you will be uncomfortable do not go but since you guys and your family grew up together maybe just go for the family sake. But do what you feel is right for you.
2006-09-21 08:01:29 · answer #5 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should definately go and pay your respects to him. It doesnt really matter if you are married now. If he is your ex then you must have some feelings for him and you should be half way decent enough to go and pay your respects!!
2006-09-21 07:47:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hubby would understand. Hes dead, your married. No problems. You need to go pay your respects and give your last good byes.
2006-09-21 07:54:19 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Perfectly.Flawed♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has been written to let the dead bury their dead, and I don't like wasting time and energy doing things out of obligation.
However, I can see there are times when it seems that you should show your respect.
Hence, just like in preventing forest fires, "only you" can decide.
2006-09-21 07:47:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and show your respects to the family.
2006-09-21 07:46:38 · answer #9 · answered by keshia0978 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should go to pay your respects to his family at least... if not him... show everyone you are a good person with a forgiving heart...
2006-09-21 07:58:15 · answer #10 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋