My husband is not working, he never has money and our marriage is one big fight. I work a full time job, plus for almost 2yrs a second job. He puts out resumes' gets calls but he tells me when
he calls them they don't call him back. He is always borrowing money from me. He does sell on Ebay, Yahoo and Craigs list which he considers full time, plus tells me he can't keep up with
the house it's too much. He puts demands on me, gets mad if I
go out with my friends. One yr didn't buy me any Christmas presents because he had no money yet he made alot of money on
Ebay. Everyone tells me to divorce him, what do you think? By the way he has been out of work for 6yrs. We fight constantly, he
has called me evey name in the book plus fat, lazy and useless.
What would you do???
2006-09-21 07:43:24 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He calls you fat, lazy and useless, even though you are the one paying all the bills and doing all of the work? Sounds like you don't have a very good relationship. Only you can decide to get a divorce. It doesn't matter what anyone else tells you.
There is no reason for someone to be out of work for 6 years. He is using you and it sounds like he doesn't care very much about you. He doesn't respect you, if he did, he would pull his weight and contribute to the family.
There are too many nice guys out there to waste your life with a dud. Just my opinion. I had a dud once myself. Now I am happily married to husband number 2 and he is great.
Let's see:
Happy or Unhappy?
Think I will chose happy every time.
Maybe you should to.
:)
2006-09-21 07:48:51 · answer #1 · answered by Donna P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, first off, you need to value yourself.
He is the one with a problem,.... NOT YOU.
He is trying to play the victim so you feel bad. Think about this for one second: If you divorced him,... will anyone want him, the way he is? If they knew him like you do? Then why are you settling for less? You can do soo much better. I would get separated and live on my own,... it's not like YOU NEED him. I think he would realize what he lost but before you get back with him,... set some rules, lay down the law. Dont ever under estimate yourself
2006-09-21 07:51:54 · answer #2 · answered by Photographer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can your husband borrow money from you? When you are married isn't it a team effort, making any and all of the material items marital property? The law would see it that way and I think anyone who is truly in the marriage mind set would, too.
What happened to marriage being a relationship about love and team work and not about "what you can do for me financially"?
2006-09-21 08:04:53 · answer #3 · answered by badgoodgirl06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, he is depressed and angry because of his personal failures and inadequacies and is taking it out on you. You are fearfully and wonderfully made in God's eyes and you deserve to be treated like the royalty that you are. Make a decision about what's important to you and if you think you can make things work. Search your heart and really pray about what the right thing to do is for you. Don't trip off what other people say, they don't have to live with him. When it's all said and done, follow your heart. Be encouraged and keep you head up.
2006-09-21 07:53:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question......when you married him was he like this????
And if he was, why did you marry him?
I understand that jobs are hard to come by and sometimes people have a hard time being unemployed, but this guy seems to think that he does not even have to try. MY parents always told me looking for a job is a full-time job!
Ditch the loser! You will find someone so much better!
2006-09-21 07:52:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick his lazy butt to the curb. From the sounds of it, you are supporting the whole house hold and taking care of it, hell you can do that on your own and not have to fight with anyone if you get rid of him. Picture your life now, then picture your life how it is now without the fighting. Kind of a no brainer.
2006-09-21 07:49:01 · answer #6 · answered by momof4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, that's why i left my husband.
He has no self respect, and obviously no respect for you, from what you've said.
My husband was doing the same thing, and getting quite good at mooching off everyone else.
I would say, switch things out of your name, and quit paying his bills. If you're name isn't on the bill, it isn't your responsibility.
And whatever you do, don't have kids with this man!
I am assuming you don't have any because they aren't mentioned.
2006-09-21 07:55:44 · answer #7 · answered by LaceyPie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you already know what to do> you make the money- you clean the house- you have friends to go out with- he does what? sits on his butt, waiting for you to be his slave, moneymaker, love toy, and whatever else you do for him- Get out if no love there- you can do better! Good Luck!!
2006-09-21 07:49:29 · answer #8 · answered by sawgirl513 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You married a loser. You shouldnt have to put up with being called fat, lazy, and useless. He is the useless one. You should escape.
2006-09-21 07:49:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the piece of sh--. Do you really need advice on this ?
Get a clue already and be done with him - you should have done that years ago !!!!
2006-09-21 07:50:17 · answer #10 · answered by jarhed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋