what does it mean when you look back on your life thus far and realize that you made more mistakes than good dissions you have more enimies than friends. you're almost thirty and none of your plans were seen through with any accuracy. the only reason why your still alive is from pure luck and other people feeling sorry for you. not to mention you have bad credit. do all of these things make you a loser?
2006-09-21 07:41:59 · 28 answers · asked by Jay 2 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
No one is a loser and definitely not you. You obviously care about your life. Even the wealthy look back on life and wish they had made different decisions. Thirty is young. You have more than half your life ahead of you. Hindsight is a great teacher. It helps us to make better choices in our future. It is never too late to change things, make new friends, repair friendships, repair credit, and strive for the life you want. It may take some time to repair these things but never is it too late.
Search your soul and decide what it is you want, want kind of person you want to be and what legacy you want to leave behind. (even if that legacy is only left with one person)
Then, make it happen!
All the best!
2006-09-21 07:56:55 · answer #1 · answered by newgirlnow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only if you choose to continue on this path.
The trite old saying... "This is the first day of the rest of your life." is all too true. It is up to you and you alone what you decide to do and who you decide to be from this moment forward. There will be prices to pay... about 5 to 7 years to repair credit, time for family and friends to accept that the changes are real this time, the pain of culling and losing associates & 'friends' that don't support or outright sabbotage your struggle to make a new life... This is not an easy task, but well worth the effort.
I know. I could have written what you have 20+ years ago... I made the choice and the struggle to another way of being and a life that is now rich with love and personal accomplishment. I was 29 years old at the time. Just do it! You can if you really want to!
2006-09-21 07:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by toastposties 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you stop making the same mistakes and learn from them is a step towards getting yourself out of a rut which may make you feel like a loser . You have to keep trying and not give up . If your honest with yourself and work hard , not give up you will not be a loser. Even losers can change when they tire of it . Make today a new beginning and things can change. Good luck !
2006-09-21 07:50:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to life, these things are no surprise friend. It's just the problems we have to suffer these days. Look, are you seeing someone? Do you have a job? Do you have place to live? Do you have any kind of income? Do you have the will to make things better for you? Are you still in shape?etc. If you have half of these things then no you are not a loser. Try to think about the good things you have made, and ask yourself if it is really that bad, after all it could get worse.
2006-09-21 11:16:03 · answer #4 · answered by Faust 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are only a loser if you think you are. I have made some horrific mistakes in my life, and have chosen to fix the things I can and try harder to do the right things. However, we are just people, not gods. We are going to make mistakes. When I wake up each morning I have been granted another chance to live a productive, happy life. I'm trying. Keep working at it. That's what makes life worth living!
2006-09-21 07:47:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't mean you are a loser. It means that you have begun your real life now. Before you didn't see much value in life and now you feel you wasted it. Not true.
You now will begin going new places that you didn't go before and making new friends in those places.You will make a list of the things you want to do, and you will begin to work for those goals NOW, starting today.
Go help Habitat for Humanity and see a new life. Study rocks from all the places you can and see how many strange ones you can find.The rocks you see below grow only in Oklahoma. Why????
Start now.
Have fun and congrats on seeing before it was too late!
2006-09-21 07:55:56 · answer #6 · answered by a_phantoms_rose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every bodies life is like this no matter who they are or where they come from. Life is just hard sometimes. You got to keep on going though and someday you'll know why we had to go through all this to get to the good stuff I hope. In the long run you'll have more wisdom and you'll see that all these things really doesn't matter to much anyway. I hope you feel better about yourself. You are no Loser!
2006-09-21 07:47:39 · answer #7 · answered by SecretUser 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Things don't make you a loser. Only you can make yourself a loser. I think we all look back and feel that way at times. You are the only one that can change the way things are going. We all make mistakes. There is no way to go back and undo them. All you can do is learn from them and move on with your life.
2006-09-21 07:45:32 · answer #8 · answered by krisaquarius 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it does my life is almost the same as your but u know what i've come to realize that what ever i've don't in the past is gone it's up me to make a different in the future to not to make me a loser i gave up and some one came in my life and make me see that it's has people worst than me out there and am giving .so my advice to you is to stop calling urself a Lose andand become a winner u can do anything once you tell ur mind u can do it's time to bring up where u fall and make a different cuz no one is gonna make it for u.It's up to you now
2006-09-21 08:17:34 · answer #9 · answered by ciara 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has the power to change their life in a positive manner if they so choose. YOU have to want to be good at maintaining friendships if you want to have friends. YOU have to lay off the dope and put down the game controller and get off the couch if you want to finish something you've started with satisfaction. YOU have to want your life to change if you want more from life. YOU are only a loser if you don't learn from past mistakes and dont try to better your situation.
2006-09-21 08:00:21 · answer #10 · answered by Marc O 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋