My new husband and I are having Thanksgiving dinner this year and I'm excited about it. The only thing I'm not excited about is inviting his sister (only sister) to the gathering because of previous conflicts brought upon on her behalf. I don't want to invite her but at the same time I don't want to hurt my husband's feelings. How can I resolve this?
2006-09-21 07:36:56 · 11 answers · asked by hope 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just inform your new husband about your feelings & keep an open mind she is family. Explain what scares you & what you feel may or may not happen. Just make sure that all is clear that you dont want hurt feelings brought to the dinner & that all get along. Stay honest with your new husband with everything & he will see you reaching out & reach out to help you & stand by you.
Good Luck & congratulations on the new marriage.
2006-09-21 07:44:46 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely still invite her. If you don't, she will have an even bigger conflict when she finds out everyone but her was invited to a family gathering. If she tries to rehash something or argue then just ignore her, its the holidays, time to celebrate your new marriage, family, and being thankful for everything. I know relatives can be a pain sometimes but everyone else will be there and will hopefully entertain her. All you have to do is be civil for a few hours!
2006-09-21 07:42:05 · answer #2 · answered by cheerbarbie729 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should be the one resolving this issue with his sister on your behallf. After all, what about your feelings?
I know what you're going through and it's not nice. I have the same situation only my husbands sister actually lives next door and I have to stand my ground every day. If she is anyway decent she will have apologised to you by now but SERIOUSLY your husband should be the one approaching her after all it's his sister and you are or should be his priority.
Hope this helps, Good luck!
2006-09-21 07:43:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the peace with your husband at all cost. She is his family. I have found that if someone likes to start problems, sometimes by just not responding you can extinguish the fire before it gets going. Try to only say positive things to her, and defuse her negative words by saying things like, "I'm sorry you feel that way." Or, "that must be hard for you to deal with." Acknowledge her feelings, but don't affirm them.
Keep the word "Peace" in the forfront of your mind. If she chooses to start a problem, at least you won't be guilty of participating. Let your husband deal with her. Good luck.
2006-09-21 07:44:51 · answer #4 · answered by kntrygrl38 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show Your sister in law that you can be the better person. What ever happend between you and her is history. You cant change what happen nor go back in the past. Forget every thing Come to an agreement to close the book. Show her you can be the better man(lady) in forgeting and forgiving. Your husband will be happy to.
2006-09-21 07:44:54 · answer #5 · answered by mswildman2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 01:39:27 · answer #6 · answered by sovak 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we have to do things that we don't like. That's just part of life. Out of respect for your husband, invite her. She is his family! You need to just be the bigger person in this situation! I know, easier said than done. Just think of your husband and how it would make him feel.
2006-09-21 07:51:30 · answer #7 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he wants her there, she should be invited. We all have relatives we would rather not be related to, but we just have to deal with it. If she is difficult to get along with, just try to avoid contact with her as much as you can.
2006-09-21 07:40:58 · answer #8 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just go ahead and invite her and just be busy with other guests and other things...just be nice for your husbands sake..there is many inlaws that do not get along but you should try and do the best you can....
2006-09-21 07:40:39 · answer #9 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite her and be gratious. Its just one day. You can endure ANYTHING for one day.
2006-09-21 07:44:24 · answer #10 · answered by AngiesHusband 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋