Why do people cheat? What is the point?

Question

I dont understand, if your not happy in a relationship wouldnt be better to bet out completely and explore being single?

Answer 1

one would think. However, not everyone feels that way. they want to have their cake and eat it too so to speak. Its a good question and if we knew the answers we'd all be much happier.
I think (and this just my opinion) that when people cheat its because they aren't getting something out of there current relationship. Its like when dogs go out and eat grass or dirt, they do it because they aren't getting certain nutrients in their diet and are trying to make up for it. With cheating people are lacking a nutrient - and sometimes they don't know what it is - so they look to get it somewhere else. Sometimes people just don't want for anything in their current relationship, everything is literally perfect. They both love each other and are supportive and are happy but one will cheat because he/she doesn't feel that wanting anymore. And they want something they can't have. Because there partner gives them everything they look to get something from a source who could potentially deny them.
Other people seek thrills, they want to feel that lust again.
Others are just selfish and want to have a significant other for stability but want the thrill of the chase too.
Its a myriad of reasons that changes from person to person.
I mostly think if someone feels the need to cheat they have to sit down with their partner first and try to work out why they feel they want to cheat or see other people but thats just a courtesy thing as far as I'm concerned.

Answer 2

People cheat for a few reasons. Some are just SOB's and don't care. They plan and make a choice to do it before they do it. Like deciding to buy a candy bar. Then there are the people that love their spouse, but there is something wrong in the relationship. They become vulnerable to stumbling and falling. There is a need not being filled and emotionally they reach out for it with no harm intended. They end up stumbling and really screwing things up. Don't be to hard on others, even the not perfect. No one is perfect, it's just a matter of areas of not being perfect that change. Make sense?

Answer 3

I agree! I don't understand the whole cheating deal at all! If you aren't going to be faithful, why get married. Why make a promise to another person that you can't keep. I think that people give up on their marriages way too quick!! They look for the easy way out. Why don't couples work through their problems anymore? Don't they know real, deep and meaningful love begins when you are able to weather the storms in a marriage you really see how much you love each other! It's just not like it was in old days, is it? Sad heh?

Answer 4

There are a lot of reasons why people cheat....
1. They get caught up in the moment witha strong sexual attraction to someone
2.Alcohol or drugs may be involved
3. It makes them feel more attractive to be wanted even when they are taken and they cant say no

Some people just cant or arent ready to commit themselves, so they try and fail- hence cheating. Sometimes people have one person they love spending time with and everything but they dont connect with in bed, so they sleep with someone else. Either way it could be psychological or just pure animal instinct. Overall, i think ANY excuse is wrong and I would never do it.

Answer 5

people cheat for a lot of reasons. typically though, when a man cheats he just wants sex. when a woman cheats, she's not happy with her man, but she wants to see what's out there before she lets him go. in either case, when someone cheats on you, you become a safety net. the other person isn't sure of what he/she wants, so he/she goes and takes someone else for a test drive. you wouldn't sell your car before you got a new one, would you? and you wouldn't buy a car without test-driving it, right? same thing here. you're being used. ditch him. there are, despite what women will say, plenty of guys who don't cheat. i'm one, and i know a few more, so i know i'm not the only one. good luck.

Answer 6

I think people who cheat are just simply very lonely, they don't understand commitment and have very little respect for it, but they crave to be looked after loved and have the warmth of it.
when they feel bad about themselves, need a confidence boast they pull and cheat i think they are like shopaholics!!!!
People like that shouldn't get into relationships they should stay single then all it's gonna ever be is a one night stand and no one gets hurt

Answer 7

people who cheat are unhappy and do not no how to get out of the relationship. the hardest thing to do is say it over and it gets harder if it over a lot of years. people need to be loved even if there in a relationship with out love.. hope that is a good answer for you..

Answer 8

Most people aren't satisfied with what they have. They feel they need to cheat to prove a point. They are not worthy of our time!

Answer 9

i would assume so. Every time an ex cheated on me, i always asked, and they said it just happened, and they realized they were not wanting a serious relationship. Anywyas, cheaters, ARE COMPLETLY STUPID AND MAKE ME WANT TO HURT THEM!!!

~cheers!

Answer 10

the point is there is no point.......people who cheat are careless, selfish and greedy.......so that can not think straight and do the right thing like tell the truth and end the relationship......