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As Children My Dad took all three boys hunting. My older brother liked it, the middle brother and myself did not. My older brother has been taking 90 percent of His vacations for hunting. Over going with His Wife and Children.

He said She is welcome to come anywhere He goes.

He took his boys for years, but they do not go now.

The end of October is His wedding anniversary, and the middle of November His Wife will turn 50. His plans right now are to go hunting the first week, full week, in November. Over going with His Wife to celebrate either, or both events.

She is saying that She can not do this anymore, that She shouldn't have put up with it this long. We really love Her, and Want to Wake Him Up, but He is stubborn.

What do You think?

And before everyone thinks this is about Me, it isn't. I took My Family to Disneyland this summer, and took My Wife to Cancun for Our wedding anniversery.


Please be nice, We plan on letting both of Them read Your answers.

2006-09-21 07:21:15 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

6 answers

Has anyone attempted to speak with him about this before?

You and/or his wife needs to sit down with him and in a calm manner let him know that by his actions he's putting his desire to go hunting ahead of being with his wife and children. I understand that he enjoys it, and he works all year, etc., but he needs to take time apart from everyday life WITH his family. He needs to make an effort to celebrate milestone events - such as the anniversary and his wife's 50th birthday. If he continued to take his family for granted, they may not be there to take for granted again.

There needs to be some compromise here - and since he's gone hunting repeatedly all this time, it's his turn to do what's best for his wife and family.

Good luck.

2006-09-21 07:27:29 · answer #1 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 1 0

I think she needs to be the first do address this manner. She's been putting up with it but now its not as easy anymore but as far as he's concerned there might not have been a problem because it wasn't an issue before. If I were her I'd tell him how important it would be for him to be with me for my birthday and for our anniversary and he can go hunting after wards or before. If he doesn't acquiesce than maybe you can get involved and try to make him see reason by telling him that she's a great woman and he's being slightly selfish by putting her off on two very special days that will never come around again to do something that he does all the time. And make it clear to him that you aren't asking him to not do it, just make an effort to not do it when there is a special occasion.
From there its really up to them to decide if this is worth splitting up over.

2006-09-21 07:37:56 · answer #2 · answered by Smithy14 2 · 1 0

God love her for putting up with this for all these years. I would have left him along time ago. I do not blame her if he is that selfish and can not take one year off to celebrate his wifes birthday and for god sakes his Anniversary for the one person in his life that gave him children cook and cleaned for him and more than likely held down a full time job. Yes I would be fed up with it too. The only way to teach a stubbon man such as his self is to say ok this is how it is going be no hunting this year or pack enough close to stay all year. What is he thinking? life is all about him. I feel sorry for the children as well. Good luck to you and honey find a man that appericates you.

2006-09-21 07:35:27 · answer #3 · answered by Alley 2 · 1 0

well I do not know has she given him the choice, its either hunting, or we leave. I know alot of guys like hunting, but when I told my man that it was either his hunting or me and the kids leave, and because he loved us enough he scheduled hunting after certain celebrations, if he has time to hunt he has time to spend with his loving wife and kids, and take them to places as well, and does not have to be big either or costly, have the wife make a picnic or he can as well, and surprise them by going on a road trip no where and when you see a picnic table pull over and have everyone get out of the vehicle and when everyone is still not clued in what is going on take the picnic basket out and say I just wanted a day out with my family, cause he loves them that much. Good luck to you all!

2006-09-21 07:27:22 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy H 4 · 1 0

First of all, Your Brother needs to stop and concider what he married his wife for. Then deside if he still loves her or loves his hunting more. He cant just push her aside and forget why she:s there.She need to shair in his life the way he needs to be a part of hers. It is sad that a man would rather be hunting than being with his wife.There is only one soultion, Give him the choice, BE with her, and her wishes and wants.OR. let her go.File for a divorce.She deserves more than What she gets from him.

2006-09-21 07:35:45 · answer #5 · answered by mswildman2005 2 · 1 0

I think dad needs to wake up before mom does and thinks about leaving him . Hunting? fishing ? Oh man (Dad) take your wife out sometime and enjoy her company.I do not think she would have aproblem with you going with the fellas if you took her out sometime.Wise up or you will end up alone. Good Luck I hope this helps.

2006-09-21 07:30:41 · answer #6 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1 0

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