The kicker is I work for my Husbands families buisness. The two people that drive me to drink are his uncle who "runs" the place and a lady who has worked here for 20 years, so she thinks she "runs" the place also. I am 24 and do not stand up for myself. They treat me like crap. I try to be mean to them but then I feel bad. What can I do? The latest is this cat wondered in and everyone else wanted to keep it (About 10 of us) including my husbands father who is the owner. Well "uncle" and this lady said NO! "uncle" said he'd kill it and she said she'd quit (everyone was happy when she said she was going to quit). So for the cats sake, we had to send it to a farm. How can I get back at them? Let them know that they can't treat me like crap? Pranks and sarcastic remarks to make to them are welcome.
2006-09-21 07:19:10 · 10 answers · asked by jeannie_brim 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Being mean, playing pranks and making sarcastic remarks only briefly make you feel good. At the end of the day though, the same problems and issues still exist so eventually you will return to feeling bad. You are 24 years old. If you do not start making efforts to be Assertive, you will always hesitate to stand up for yourself and others will take advantage of it like your uncle-in-law and the veteran lady. I have learned that if you are being mistreated and you keep your mouth closed about it, it will only eat you up inside and make you extra miserable. It is about respect, you should have respect for yourself as well as others--when you let people walk all over you without any protest, it shows them that they don't have to respect you if you don't even have respect for your own self. You should never feel bad about respecting yourself and standing up for yourself, you should feel proud and relieved. No one, whether they are family or not, should talk to you like you're dirt and treat you like crap. The best thing for you to do is to be an adult and tell them straight out that you do not appreciate them talking to you rudely or treating you like crap. You respect them, so they should respect you. Just being real with them will get you further than meanness, pranks, and sarcasm.
2006-09-21 07:42:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you really have a problem there. First this is a place of business, not a playground, so stop with the pranks and sarcastic remarks. Also It is your Family's business. When you get to be the owner, you can tell everybody what to do, until then you are just an employee(?) and from the sounds of it not a very good one
2006-09-21 07:25:20 · answer #2 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there anyway you can switch jobs? Or talk to your husband about maybe looking into the faults at the place?
Since its family you're kind of limited with what you can do.
You are just going to have to stick to your job and do your work and go home try not to deal with them. I wouldn't look for retribution for the cat or anything else that happens. Try speaking up for yourself, you don't have to be mean but tell them things that bother you (don't make personal attacks) and give them ways you think it can be changed.
2006-09-21 07:26:15 · answer #3 · answered by Smithy14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 06:34:17 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont go through switching jobs, im sure its not THAT bad. Unless you really can't stand working with family and thats the issue, then suck it up. Your job isnt everything and you shouldnt be looking for revenge. If theyre really hurting you then tell them or stand up to them. If not, stop whining about it and ignore them or kill them with kindness. Be so nice to them that its annoying - its actually worked for me and a b*tchy lady i work with. After all, your job is NOT your life
2006-09-21 07:34:06 · answer #5 · answered by cheerbarbie729 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be mature enough to not let it all bother you. Stop thinking like a junior high student and wanting to get revenge...start thinking like an adult and not being so sensitive. The more you let them know they bother you...the more they're going to bother you. You can catch more flies with honey than you can with vinegar...keep your friends close and your enemies closer...
Be nice to them all the time...do nice things for them all the time...they'll wonder what you're up to and it will make them Crazy trying to figure it out...
2006-09-21 07:25:00 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a job somewhere else or report them to your father-in-law.
2006-09-21 07:22:15 · answer #7 · answered by delta s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there i work with my husband to,it can get on my nerves a bit..but i speak my mind....dosn't yout husband stand up for you...if they upset you tell them that it makes working therehard...what they do to you do it back to them...or find another job.
2006-09-21 07:26:48 · answer #8 · answered by bell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a job is a job its not the most important thing in the world being happy is get a new job simple
your welcome
2006-09-21 07:22:50 · answer #9 · answered by michael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOT BEING FUNNY, BUT YOU NEED TO FIND ANOTHER JOB.
IF NOT YOU WILL BEGAN TO STRESS OUT,
YOUR HEALTH IS MORE THAN THAT JOB.
PEACE OF MIND AND HEART IS VERY IMPORTANT.
BEEN THERE, DONE THAT
GET OUT !!!!
2006-09-21 07:25:04 · answer #10 · answered by Sandyvon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋