he is trying to eliminate as much time that i spend with my son as possible. When i asked him why he is doing this he said "i miss you" i dumped him like 6 yrs ago and now he is using my son against me. he has favor with the judge because he is a sheriff deputy i guess but this man has gotten away with so much in the court. i was never ever declared unfit mother at all the only thing is that im poor income is about minimum wage and dad makes $20.00 hr 12 hr shifts. he also lives with his motherr at age 35 yr i have my own place which is very nice both my boys the 5 yr old im fighting with my ex for and my 12 yr old have their own rooms i have food for them and clothing etc... the judge recently changed our custody arrangement with me having to pick up and drop off my son from school pick ups at 11:30 am every wed then i have to drop him off at 7:30 am for school thurs which is the next day and every 1,2,4 fri i pick him up after school and take him back to school on mon at 7:30am this
2006-09-21 07:08:38 · 17 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
is nuts i live 45 min away and i have to drive up in down a hill to get to his town. The previous order was i have my son every 1,3,4,5 thurs from 5pm til sun 5pm and every wed 5pm til fri 5pm i would pick him up on thurs dad would pick him back up on sun same as wed and fri. The judge said that he is willing to have us come back to court if this schedule doesn't work out but he doesn't encourage it. I was thinking of having my attorney ask the judge if we could do week to week schedule one week with me the next week with dad..... any advice? or comments?
2006-09-21 07:15:24 · update #1
I have to admit, I'm rooting for your ex. This happens so many times on the flip-side.
2006-09-21 07:13:07 · answer #1 · answered by TKO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess if you want to spend more time with your son , and you think kissing your ex's butt will accomplish this then yes do it. But you say you were never found to be an unfit mother so I would try to find some free legal help, perhaps in another city or county, because of all the ties with the system your ex has. Maby call the state for help. Look in the phone book in the government pages (usually the blue section) and see if there is a hot-line for reporting corrupt Judges, law enforcement ext or just legal advice. Here in California there is low or no cost legal services for the poor when it comes to renting and family matters. Your ex sounds like an a$$, I wish you the best of luck.
2006-09-21 07:23:47 · answer #2 · answered by jeremy_Grewal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. look into legal aid and take him to court. it shouldn't matter if he's a sheriff deputy. that could be grounds to have the case heard in a state court simply because of the possibility of conflict of interest. if i understand what you're saying, he has full custody. i don't know what state you live in, but here in texas, custody is almost always given to the mother unless she is deemed unfit. if your ex works 12 hour shifts, where is the time that he is spending with his son? child custody cases are supposed to be about what's in the best interest of the child. do some research and get educated about your rights.
2006-09-21 07:20:12 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!!!! It's too late for that. If you had done that years ago he'd still be there and you would not be having this problem. As for the court thing, A deputy and a judge are both parasites on the American people.
2006-09-21 08:02:01 · answer #4 · answered by Weatherman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You simply have to prove that you are capable of being the better parent and eliminate the need in your life for county or state assistance. It has nothing to do with the drama of you and your ex...It's about the child. Where will the child be happier, healthier, and have a better future...? That's where the child should be.
2006-09-21 07:14:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you did get screwed. Did you have a lawyer in all of this? If you did, they surely weren't fit to handle this. I would not kiss anyones ***. You are his mother. You need to see about hiring someone worthy, and fighting this thing through. I don't know where you live ( what state) but in Illinois, you can be a crackhead on welfare and still keep your children. Good luck with this. And kick your ex where it will count most!
2006-09-21 07:14:32 · answer #6 · answered by Deb W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am so sory to hear that your life is a true mess the ultimate decission is yours to make but know that there is no easy way out of this any way you go will be painful and hurt someone so be sure to not damage the life you do have with your sons i'll pray for you and i hope things work out for you
2006-09-21 07:13:04 · answer #7 · answered by lovin'lifer you? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask the courts to move your case out of county!!!!! You have reasons to do this so they should, also, what does your son want? Is he happy with Dad, if so, I say just fight for more time with him.
2006-09-21 07:11:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. But make sure he pays later. And not by using your son the way he has. I guess you'll have plenty of time to think about it. Get him to move away with you to some place where he can't pull this crap.
2006-09-21 07:17:18 · answer #9 · answered by DJ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This a power play, I wouldn't kiss butt, It's a terrible thing for someone to use a child like that!
2006-09-21 07:24:40 · answer #10 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋