what if i meet someone ? is it to soon to get into a relationship?
2006-09-21 06:58:34 · 22 answers · asked by lordfatrat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that you should proceed with caution and take it slow. As the saying goes fools rush in. And also you are still married and what about the other person what is their situation? I think if you both pray about it and take your time and talk. Then it will be easier. What if you get back with your wife. And she is in love with you. What happens then. You may not mean to hurt her. But things like this do happen. And also if you have children you don't want to have different women running in and out of their lives. I say take it slow and if she is the one she will be there for the long haul.
2006-09-21 07:48:12 · answer #1 · answered by sassy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you can know the answer to this question. Something you want to be sure and do prior to getting into another relationship is to figure out why this one went bad. And remember - a bad relationship is NEVER one-sided - both parties contribute. Even in extreme cases - for example: I was married to an abusive man for 12 years....but what I did wrong was to accept it and not question it for many years. I didn't take care of myself.
You should also figure out what you want and need from a relationship; what works and what doesn't for you. Figure out your "deal breakers". Then - stay true to what you learn about yourself. If a "deal breaker" is present - but you've got raw chemical attraction - remember why the "deal breaker" was decided upon in the first place. If you figure out the above stuff when you are NOT in a relationship; and then pay attention to it when you are dating - you have a much better chance of recognizing the RIGHT one when you find him/her.
Recognize also that you may want to get the assistance of a counselor to help you with this stuff. Do the work you need to do to recover and regroup from the old relationship - and then to be ready for the new.
How long this takes? No set rules. Do what works for you.
2006-09-21 07:05:20 · answer #2 · answered by yonica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I am really sorry to hear this. I think it will be soon to get into a relationship if you are not over your wife yet. However, if you feel you're ready to turn the page in your life then you will only have to trust your intuition and move forward.
2006-09-21 07:06:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful. I found out, the hard way, that the things you will do within the first couple of years after a divorce are many of the things you will regret after five years. I made several stupid mistakes just after the divorce and didn't even see it until years later.
2006-09-21 07:10:16 · answer #4 · answered by brenda c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u go boy! date, have fun, but proceed with caution. get back in the saddle again so to speak! u will feel better about yourself and having someone give u the attention u deserve feels great especially after a break-up. Live and Love and Love again !!!
2006-09-21 07:08:05 · answer #5 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Fat Rat, if she left, then it is not too soon. I saw some available babes on the Biggest Loser on NBC last night. There were some that were less than 300 pounds.
2006-09-21 07:02:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the only one who can decide when it is time to move forward. Legal separation or divorce need to be filed ASAP so that she does not ruin your credit. The state I live in if you are married your name goes on anything that they apply for. Plus she could use your information to get bills and credit cards.
2006-09-21 07:04:03 · answer #7 · answered by anita_reel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should find a new girl but it is completely your state of mind .If you want a new relationship you should or you shouldn't whatever try to listen your emotions they will lead you to the right way .
2006-09-21 07:12:28 · answer #8 · answered by xeibeg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're the only one that can answer that question. It might be enough time for you but not for someone else.
One piece of advice: Don't go on and on about your ex when you're on a date. She won't appreciate it. You aren't ready if you find yourself doing that.
Good luck.
2006-09-21 07:09:56 · answer #9 · answered by ssbn598 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its whenever your ready to be out there, and dating agian. No one can tell you how YOU feel. You just know. Go out there and give it a try, it cant hurt anything. And you'll know if you ready or not. Everyone needs time. Theres nothing wrong with that.
2006-09-21 07:03:01 · answer #10 · answered by Kat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋