I being Femme identified think that a butch is not so much about the clothing or hair cut, it is about the attitude, like this, the I am who I am and take me for who I am, feet planted firmly on the ground, shoulders to lean on, ,I can take anything that comes my way, but soft if my girl needs me to be,BUTCH!, ,I do think it is an attitude that butches carry with them in their daily life. I carry a certain attitude with me in my daily life that I dont even think about, I have Sex appeal, that I can turn on and off when I need to I can be an extreem ***** when I want. Ok now that we have the Butch/Femme thing straight. lets get on to other labels. like Andro/Stone/Top / Bottom/and dont fit in any catagory but dont like to be called andro. so they call themselvs Gender queer or Gender Rebels. then theres heteroflexable. What are all these labels, what do they all mean? why have all the Gay people divided themselvs, when we all keep saying we should just be one great big rainbow?
2006-09-21 06:57:39 · 16 answers · asked by RiahWillow 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I "believe" that all the "labels" are there not to categorize us and put "us" in a specific box, but to help those interested to know about us, what we like and dislike, what we are "into" individually. It can get confusing but so long as we realize those words are simply descriptions, not laws, it becomes much easier to find those of a like mind or kindred spirit.
The question reminds me of one I was asked many years ago about the "Bear" flag, they had mentioned that the LGBT's already had the Rainbow flag, why do we need another? In much the same way that as Americans(or whatever country you happen to be from) we unite under the American flag but as someone from Indiana, I identify with the Indiana Flag as well. People enjoy being with those with whom they share a bond, be it one of location, religious or political belief, or even sexual interests/orientation. The different labels/flags are not for the "outsiders" looking in to understand, they are for us, to make finding another of similar interests and beliefs easier to find.
2006-09-21 07:44:52 · answer #1 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Labels can be confusing and they do generally suck, but when attempting to describe yourself to someone, it's a label or two, or three, that is used.
I've asked a few friends, both gay and straight what they would call me.
Some say "I'd just call you a lesbian" (this answer is generally given by straights)
Some say: "I'd call you femme or andro. Unless you were being paticularly butch that day."
(This is from my closest lesbian friend who herself identifies as butch.)
I, myself, refer to myself as bisexual, lesbian leaning, femme-ish, flip.
Meaning I go both ways both sexuality wise and in the act itself.
I am not an inacitve pillow princess, I actually enjoy the sex act, both recieving and giving. I enjoy sex with either gender partner, as long as they're emotionally available and sexually aware.
I can't push myself to have sex with straight men who are also homophobic bigots.
Most of my male sex partners, after my divorce were bisexual men. I actually had no problem with their bisexuality.
Although now, I might identify more often as a lesbian, simply because my life partner is a woman.
Now describing her is a bit of chore as well. She's definitely NOT femme, but she's not Stone butch either. I'd probably call her a soft butch, flip. She's not bisexual, although she has had male sex partners in the past, but not since she came out.
I, on the other hand, have had both male and female sex partners since coming out.
2006-09-21 14:34:58 · answer #2 · answered by DEATH 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel I labeled myself,, society labeled me...When people at my work refer to me they say well your butch what do you think of this situation between my boyfriend and I.... I don t just walk around saying I'm butch all the time... If you look at me you would know.... I could care less either way... I'm a Lesbian and that is what I am proud of, not to mention as a person I'm simply fabulous..... I haven't ever heard of most of these labels you are taking about so, sorry... But you sure can describe a Butch woman, thank you.....
2006-09-21 14:39:52 · answer #3 · answered by mylife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When a lesbian says she's a top or bottom... I am very confused.
When a gay man says it, it makes perfect sense.
By the way, I don't see any problem with labels if you are the one subscribing to the label. On the net it can be a useful shorthand for speeding up communcation. For example, I might say I was a fit top, or a sub bottom, or a cuckold in panties. You'd understand pretty quick what I meant.
The problem comes in when others apply the labels to you, because they're generally WRONG, they're generally insulting, and it's impossible for them to know what you are. They are not you.
2006-09-21 14:09:57 · answer #4 · answered by it 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are forgeting that rainbow is composed of many colors of light. Labels are used for classification, not gay agaisnt gay warfare.
Maybe you can adapt to any type of partner. Some of us can't. I'm a bottom. I don't want to be with another bottom in a romantic relationship. Yet I still volunteer for gay charities - organizations that benefit gays of all life styles.
You have to chill out and stop taking it all too seriously.
2006-09-21 14:30:38 · answer #5 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well my g/f tells me I'm on the butch side-but i don't label myself as being anything-I'm just me! I don't even like the word lesbian-it sounds like something from outer space-lol!!!!!-But why do we have all these labels-If you are gay-your gay,If your straight your straight! Whether you are male or female-if you like someone of the same gender you are gay,no matter what u wanta' call yourself!
2006-09-21 21:41:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get sick of all the "labels" too. it's bad enough society seems pre-occupied with it, but, yes, even in our own community, we seem to do it as well. and sometimes, I find myself doing it. everyone has put everyone/everything in nice, neat little boxes. I not attracted to really butch women, but not to lipstick lesbians either. my girl is femme, but not super "girly." and I'm no stone butch, but people probably would refer to me as a dyke (a few times I have been mistaken for a man...even years ago when I had really long hair!). but, it is about personal preference, and attitude as well. but we have gay/lesbian friends of all types, and we all get along....too bad all of society can't seem to!
2006-09-21 14:15:29 · answer #7 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm a human, I don;t identify or subscribe to any label. I like men, I like women, i have sex with both of them.
2006-09-21 14:04:22 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Because people like to classify themselves so they do not have to tell people certain embarrassing things. Like
I only phuck guys butts, or I only take it up the butt.
I am bi and I am g0y that tells guys I do not do anal and I swing both ways.
Important information for a top a bottom or someone who hates bisexuals.
2006-09-21 14:03:47 · answer #9 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I don't know but they keep subdividing more and more.
2006-09-21 14:02:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋