How was it possible for you to "get it up and keep it up." Wouldn't that have been the most repulsive thing ever if you were truly gay? How did you manage?
2006-09-21 06:36:01 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Mylife-A man being raped is, unfortunately, hard to take seriously.
2006-09-21 07:34:00 · update #1
Raped by a woman, I meant to say.
2006-09-21 07:34:17 · update #2
Honey, when you're a guy in your teens and early twenties, you don't have to worry about getting it up. It's already up.
2006-09-21 06:50:26 · answer #1 · answered by Mark 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am "truly" Gay, as you put it, but that doesn't mean I'm so blind that I can't see and appreciate the opposite sex. I love being with another man or even men, and emotionally I feel best in the arms of a strong man. But, (and my boyfriend of 21 years could never understand this) I love sex with girls, too. I have had many girlfriends (many of whom identified as Lesbians), and still have an intimate relationship with one woman, that I've loved for 27 years. We raised two great kids, but never felt the need to get married. She knows I'm Gay (we used to both have the same boyfriend), and we couldn't love each other any more if I was straight.
So, there is no "black and white" way of being. Too often Americans can't get their little minds around something that isn't pidgeonholed into a neat little package for them.
I don't find the opposide sex repulsive at all, unless that particular person has, say, an unclean or extremely unhealthy body, or a really bad attitude.
In short, even though I'd only marry another man, I still reserve the right to be sexual with anyone I wish, including females, as long as they feel the same about me.
2006-09-22 14:41:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok people, here we go again. The facetious question for today. Now Ashton, dear, I know you like to think your so smart to ask this question. Well, as usual, you like other non-educated types, assume being gay is simply a sexual act. Sex is part of the equation, but that is not what makes one gay, it's the emotional attachment that is key. Now, you ask how gay people could do "it". Simple, when threatened, human being can do many things they may find repulsive or difficult. And given societies such as the US (a Christian type theocracy), a gay person has no choice but to hide. I put it to you this way, you and those like you, condemn gays for living lies within marriages, yet do not see that you are the cause. If gays were allowed to live their lives as openly and freely as you, these sham marriages would vanish, but given the tenor your question, that's not going to happen anytime soon is it? Again, you create the need to lie through your hate and then have the audacity to condemn those who lie to hide from it. I'll give this, you have nerve, ignorant, but you have nerve.
BTW, last I checked any unwanted sexual touching or act is considered Sexual Assault at least and Rape at worst. If woman has sex with a boy, that IS rape. Now, again, I understand you're not too bright so I am making allowances. If you feel I am being harsh, consider that you have been nothing but dismissive of others. This by the way is you being told.
2006-09-21 14:47:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
ok time to get real... for me I stayed married for 14 years.. and yes it was repulsive.. but for most of my marriage I was sick with cancer so I was dogging the bullet sort to speak for at least 8 years because I couldnt... and I had 2 children throu artificial insemination because I was infertile and we knew that going into the marriage .. doged another bullet... whew.... then when everything calmed down.. and I had to "preform my wifely duties" as my grandmoter called it.. I puked every time.. and my doctor told him I was alergic to him.. so he just stopped asking.. WHEW free pass once again.. then I just couldnt handle it any more.. and asked for a divorce... and now he is happy .. and im happy .. and the kids are happy.. and we all finaly get along much better than ever before...
but the short answer to your question .. is YES it was repulsive... and so much so that I got phisicaly ill.. and honestly if I were a guy I dont know how I could have done it.. cause I dont know how guys can get it up .. for me im a girl all I had to do was lay there and count dots on the cealing and I couldnt even do that without getting sick..
2006-09-21 14:02:58 · answer #4 · answered by RiahWillow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its funny how you just ask gay men.... I'm with a woman who was in a long term relationship with a man.. She didn't have to get it up or keep it up.. She had to take it... that is repulsive... She would get sick to her stomach and it was her duty... It seems you are asking question that is not logically... If a man was raped it doesn't mean he wouldn't get hard..... It doesn't mean he wanted it... so What is your question trying to say?
2006-09-21 14:27:40 · answer #5 · answered by mylife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are physically capable of having sex with anyone if the situation is right - just ask a straight man who is sent to prison for a long period. My brother (straight) says he could have sex with any woman however ugly, with the lights off. Men are very sexually driven, and often don't care much where sexual gratification comes from.
The issue is not who you can have sex with, but who you can love, feel attracted to, and want to live your life with. I, as a gay man, cannot imagine sharing my life with a woman. I appreciate beautiful women, but do not feel sexually drawn to them. I am sure however with sufficient foreplay and with a little bit of fantasizing, I'd be able to get through having sex with a woman.
2006-09-21 14:22:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married to a man, before I "came out."
Repulsive? No. Damned unfortunate and a chore? HECK YES!
I'm bisexual, so heterosexual style sex isn't completely repulsive to me. But my husband was emotionally unavailable, so HE was repulsive for that fact alone. I married him because I was convinced that if I did I would somehow be "cured" of my homosexual desires. That I would be magically removed of all "weirdness."
Funny how life is. It just didn't happen that way.
He became more and more emotionally unavailable, had more affairs and eventually I simply couldn't take it anymore and kicked his STD carring butt to the curb!
Yea, I said STD carrying. He slept around so much that he brought home an STD and I caught it. That scum!
Then, wouldn't you know, he ACCUSED ME of sleeping around!!!
Typical reaction from a "cheater" too. They always use reverse psychology in an attempt to sway the onis off them and their personal guilt of their bad deeds.
A week later I confronted him with the proof that he'd had been sleeping around and kicked him out. He knew he could no longer deny it.
I later found out that one of the girls he was sleeping with, he had proposed to...turned out SHE WAS SLEEPING AROUND ON HIM!!!
I LOVE KARMA!!!
2006-09-21 14:12:21 · answer #7 · answered by DEATH 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I'm gay and i think its not a good idea to get involved in an un-honest relationship like that. It is possible to be gay and to fall in love with a person of the same sex. LOVE IS LOVE.
The answer to your question would be that they problem think of different people when having sex
2006-09-21 14:35:23 · answer #8 · answered by N.M. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No--you don't understand...I loved the woman I was with for 6 years...God, I was young...it was always up......I have NEVER found the female body repulsive...(do you??--see what I mean)...but I was fighting my attraction to men....when I met my first man....my life just exploded with repressed sex (that poor guy never knew what hit him).
To repeat myself...most gay men..at least of my ilk don't find the female body repulsive at all....I sure you find people attractive too...but I'll bet you don't want to have sex with each one.
2006-09-21 13:54:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did it because I thought if I came all the way out of the closet as a lesbian, I'd be betraying my family and they would disown me. Turns out it's only true for half my family. When I was with men, I got to know their sexual tendencies, and once I learned how to make them get off faster, the sex didn't last that long. It was a small price to pay, at the time.
2006-09-21 13:53:01 · answer #10 · answered by Agent Double EL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am bisexual and love sex with both. A lot of bisexual men identify as gay so they wont be discriminated against. Or they identify as gay because they settle down with a guy.
I am bisexual and even if I never have sex with a woman again I still find them attractive.
2006-09-21 13:57:51 · answer #11 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋