My husband is in a band and normally when they finish playing he will come over to where I am and hangs out. Last time they played he spent quite a while chatting with some girl and left me sitting on my own. Stuff like that doesn't usually bother me but the night before I had told him that I had been feeling down and wondering if he was still attracted to me. He said work was getting him down and he was tired etc but then he goes and starts chatting with this girl.
Am I wrong to be mad at him?
What do you think
2006-09-21 06:23:20 · 14 answers · asked by cazzi_g 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The respectful way to approach that is..
Dont stop him from talking to women but... he should introduce you to anyone he is talking to (if you are there with him).
I could understand you getting upset. That is natural. I would to if I were in that situation.
Try talking to him about how you feel. (I know men dont care to hear it or they think you are nagging them) but if he wants to stay in the relationship it is good to be open and honest. If he dont change then you can always introduce yourself! See what his reaction is. See what the girls reactions are.
Good luck to you!
2006-09-21 06:30:30 · answer #1 · answered by Keith Perry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your first mistake was marrying 'the guy in the band'.
Most guys join bands so they can bag the barflies and groupies.
Usually they are so into themselves that chatting while your sitting there lonely seems a typical act for 'the guy in the band' to do.
Seen it done to my friends before...but they keep finding similar type of guys...hmmm.
Your not wrong to be upset but you are wrong to be looking for an answer here with us.
You need to look inside yourself for that answer.
Are you mad because this is just one of many other indicators he is not really into you?
Are you upset because you feel you may be losing him?
First you need to reflect on self and ask why this really upset you. I suspect there are more reasons your feeling this way rather than him talking to someone.
Then you need to ask him why he 'chatted up' some other chick when you were sitting by yourself.
There is a difference between being nice to the clientele and hitting on chicks in front of your wife. One is just business the other is just disespect.
2006-09-21 06:40:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well..you are married and you should be able to discuss things with him..but don't flip out becasue he won't tell you the truth..I suggest, at the next concert, talking to other peeople, preferably a guy and see what his reaction is. If he gets angry have a serious discussion with him about limitations in your relationship...I personally would have flipped out though after the show..but I would have walked right over there and introduced myself..Hi I'm Mrs. soandso..It's nice to meet you
2006-09-21 06:27:01 · answer #3 · answered by LONG ISLAND GIRL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if he is in a band, he will talk to girls. If he can't have you there for the conversation, then yes I totally agree with you and you need to do something about it
2006-09-21 06:27:43 · answer #4 · answered by fwog_fwog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be mad, if it happens again don't just sit there walk up to him and say hi hunny or something like that, or eve introduce yourself to the girl if he doesn't. If he gets mad then you know what you gotta do.
2006-09-21 06:28:24 · answer #5 · answered by Renee32325 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well being in a band does require additional socializing just to get the name out.. if he just chatted with this one girl, just this once, i woudlnt bug him about it, i would just plan a nice home cooked romantic dinner, and just talk about your problems, both about the relationship and about each other., you will have peace of mind.
if it happens often. and only with girls, no chatting with guys, i would be pissed and i would ask him why he only stops to chat with girls and not with guiys maybe that will open his eyes
2006-09-21 06:28:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has to keep the public happy. If you can't handle it, you shouldn't have married a guy in the band. I couldn't handle it. Even Tim McGraw talks to girls, but I'm sure his wife is right next to him.
2006-09-21 06:26:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
shae and fwog fwog have it right.
man he left you by himself..he was probably counting on you NOT
walking over there.
Sound s like he has you pegged and knows you would put up with it.
Dont wig out on him..but he is your hubby..you shoudnt fake it like this didnt bother you.
let him know it..
If he does it again go crash his party.
but i also agree with..he is in a band..do you really expect him
to be faithful..most guys get into bands to score chicks..to get famous..score chics..make lotza $$
AND SCORE CHICS.
oh and they love th music too......
BECAUSE IT HELPS THEM SCORE CHICS !
take care
2006-09-21 06:34:01 · answer #8 · answered by sHiNe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could have gone over to him and said "Hey Hun you played great tonite, lets go buy a beer. Or hey hun you were great lets go home...
2006-09-21 06:55:29 · answer #9 · answered by Marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's kinda messed up. Tell him about himself.
2006-09-21 06:26:15 · answer #10 · answered by Asia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋