chattin-cheating??

Question

If my bf is chatting a lot with different girls is it cheating??

I mean I know about it, he is not hiding anything but I dont know exactly what they are talking about. he usually talks to different people all the time. I trust him and once I told him, u can do it, but u never gonna call them or anything more. he agreed. but sometimes is still bothering me...if i trust him maybe i should just let it go....

Answer 1

what do you think? seriously though. its all up to you. what do you think? i can tell you whatever i want but its essentially up to you. besides is he chatting on the internet? if so then it doesn't count for much. if not there's not too much of a problem. my advice to you is don't get obsessed over it you'll tear yourself apart. is chatting cheating? depends on what he's chatting about. if he's trying to pick girls up, then sure. it has been said that "speaking is the same as acting" but what intentions are there? i believe that if you openly act on it then it becomes cheating. that's my POV the decision is up to you.

Answer 2

To him... no. because guys believe that "cheating" is a physical act - they have to touch someone. put sometning IN someone to cheat.

To you ... obviously yes (or you wouldn't be asking this question). Women see the creation of an emotional bond as cheating... so for him to be cheating in your eyes.. he would never have to touch her.. just "chat her up".

That said. If you are in a serious, monogomous relatioship - and you have had the discussion that goes something like "I would like to take this to the next level and stop seeing other people and sleeping with others and become a 'true' couple where we only sleep with each other... what do you think?" and he agrees with that.. (i.e. he says YES.. I agree.. ) then at that point.. both of you.. BOTH of you should stop activly having friends of the opposite sex. Why? because guys are only "friends" with women who they find attractive and want to sleep with (its true... as any of your guy 'friends' "hey... would you like some no-strings nookie?" and see what they say). So.. if he is still chatting these girls up and this is the case.. then you need to have another conversation as he is just keeping them in line for when he dumps you.

So.. a lot to think about for a simple question huh?

Hope this helps

Answer 3

This is definitely cheating,he should not be spending his time chatting to other girls when he should be spending the time chatting with you.These things invariably get worse,he will find the attention flattering and will probably end up meeting one or more of these girls.Tell him to quit it now and if he won't do this for you,then he quite obviously doesn't care about you enough and if that's the case,you deserve better,dump him

Answer 4

Well it seems as if you are not to confident on it's just talk are you, cheating can take other forms, it not just physical. Try doing it yourself but let him know about it, don't do it for show do it as an experiment, to see what he gets out of it and to see what the reaction will be. Then see if there is something you both need to discuss.

Answer 5

If you feel more negative than anything else than you should talk to him about it.It may be cheating depending on the conversation but don't jump to conclusions.Alot of women have lost some of the greatest men because of insecurity.Talk to him and if it seems to be more than what it should be,then make your decision from there.

Answer 6

depends if he getting emotionally close as u say u gotta trust but i understand u worrying cos i a guy and i wud be jelous if my girl started chatting that way u know romantically, i feel that if u r giving him everything he wants in the relationship then he wont go that way good luck

Answer 7

all depends, if he deny'y it to you and you had to find out for yourself, then id say yes it is cheating, at the end of the day why lie about it if its just chatting,

on the other hand if you cant trust him or he cant trust you then there is no future in your realationship, without trust you have nowt.

Answer 8

i had the same problem with my guy we both used chatsites but as we lived 100 miles away from each other altho he one told me he would never hurt me he is a flirt he has lots of females friends but i got jealous of those who seemed to get more attention then me....basically i was worried he would get talking to someone else and like them ,more than me and the more insecure i got over this and questioned his feelings for me i see that i pushed his feelings for me away.. i knew he was giving some girls his phone number and he told me on some occasions that he had rang them..always saying they were are just mates..now i could never be sure what he was chatting to theses girls about i wouldnt of known if he was arranging to meet dif girls or not he says he wouldnt cheat on his gf but when your in along distance relationship how do you really know whats going on?...i had trust issues from past relationships in the first place and it towards the end of our relationship it seemed e`d rather be on the chatsites than phone me up.....which made me question him more...all i wanted was not to lose him..then one day after i asked y you so distant these days you never hardly speak to me..he said it was over that he wasnt in love anymore so i lost my man anyway...so i think u shouldnt go on at him to much just keep your eye out for the signs he`s distancing himself from you...they may start of small like maybe he always used to put mmmmmwa at the end of his texts to you n they disapear...look out for the signs!!! but he isnt cheatin..yet....

Answer 9

y can't he chatt to you whatever he is chatting about with te other girl it's not a crime to have friends of the opposite sex but u gotta be careful women r very dangerouse creatures even if they know about u they will still try to get on with yr men

Answer 10

just chatting isn't cheating, if he does more than this though I would maybe consider asking him what he thinks cheating is so you can see how far he is likely to go...good luck