If you have that thing that makes you short-circuit right before the finish line, this is called fear of success and change.
As yourself what the worst case scenario will be if you don't do the work. You do have a choice. You don't have to do it.
Giving yourself permission to NOT do it, and accept the consequences, might make a difference in how this plays out.
2006-09-21 12:41:27
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answered by Anonymous
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Take the afternoon off and go for a walk in a low-income neighbourhood. Take a look at the women twenty years older than yourself and realise that the main reason they are poor is because they are uneducated, by and large.
If that doesn't do it for you, just buckle down and get the work done; make a study schedule; plan what to study and when; and then stick to it. This is being an adult, being disciplined, and the key to success.
It is normal to feel the way you are feeling now. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other, you are almost there.
I wish I were 46 and had completed my degree. My kids would have a much better life than I've managed to give them. Now, it seems the government wants to stream my eldest into a programme which sends kids directly from highschool to the work force. My daughter is above average in her marks at school, but poverty will keep her locked out if I am not proactive.
For your sake, and for the sake of the next generation you may produce, finish what you started.
Hope this helps. Congratulations on getting this far. Just a little more to go, and you're there. God Bless
2006-09-22 01:38:57
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answered by soobee 4
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The biggest thing is to be realistic with your goals. If you plan 3 hours of studying with no breaks, you won't be able to get started and it will only put you on a downward spiral.
You can try giving yourself small rewards for finishing each hour of studying, such as a soda, a small bag of candy, a phonecall to a friend, etc.
Sometimes the best way is to just take a whole day off and not think about it, and then start fresh the next day
I know what you're going through my senior year of college, the last 2-3 weeks were so painful, I hated studying, I just wanted to be done. You just have to find that internal drive that got you to the end and keep reminding yourself of how close you are - ie. it's just one week left and then I'm done!
Good luck!
2006-09-21 06:21:33
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answered by wondering 2
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So you're suffering from senioritis are you? Everyone does. It is the result of slaving away for 16 years and you get tired of it. So how do you get to the end without going nuts?
Schedule time where you will absolutely study. Some put aside 2 hours every day. Others set aside 3 - 4 evenings every week. During these times you block everyone and everything else out and just do it. Let's face it, although you are paying for the privlidge of learning, school is your real job right now. So treat it like one.
In addition, schedule some blow-off time. It will give you something to look forward to, to work for.
Finally, find others that you are able to study with. You will be able to encourage each other while you are running towards the finish line of a diploma.
Good luck.
2006-09-21 08:15:27
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answered by Bud 5
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Just think of your goals when you entered the program, how much better you will be if you get this program done, and what you will be able to do with the result of your effort.
You have done much of the work, but you won't take the credit for it unless you do the final stretch. Your self esteem will go very high if you get this accomplishment and you shouldn't quit just before finishing.
Also, it will help you if you get connected to people getting close to their graduation, sharing with you the excitement about it, the hard time of the final projects the satisfaction of getting things done. Networking and social contacts within the same area of interest will take you out of an online insulation, and will give more excitement to your accomplishments, and understanding to your difficulties.
A final reccommendation: Make a program, and STICK TO IT! Don't procrastinate, don't indulge yourself, think that YOU CAN DO IT, and that you want to be somebody better prepared, and who wants better opportunities for yourself. Review every week your goals, accomplishments, missteps, and make adjustments. You will be rewarded for it.
Good luck!
2006-09-22 04:38:24
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answered by flamaobjetiva 3
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I am going to play Devil's Advocate here and suggest that eduation does not always = more money, nor happines. Experience is the key to learning and living. Nothing can be gained from a book that ten-fold over can be gained from actually doing that thing. I have seen plenty of starving Grad student's in my day that hated every microsecond of their miserable postdoc education. I hated college, finished it, and discovered that in actuality, except for those that are alreay rich, that College is one of the biggest rip-offs.
Motivation? Don't think about it as one whole lump sum, accomplish day-to-day, hour-to-hour tasks, take a break, give yourself a break- it isn't prison, and go back to it when you can concentrate. Need some perspective? Go to a quiet space, a church, a forest, meditate- whatever gets you inline with your goals.
Don't listen to "I live in a cardboard box because I didn't go to College" crap, truth be told, those people are not poor financially, they are poor in spirit. Look at successes, personal and not monetary will get you back on the road. And if none of this helps, there is Vodka and sleeping pills. You can tell yourself as you slip away, 'At least they will be able to put PhD on my tombstone.'
Enjoy! less pressure makes for more motivation-counterintuitive but it works. Do it for yourself- not the Degree.
2006-09-22 07:33:59
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answered by RHJ Cortez 4
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I feel for you - I always hated schoolwork, because I could not
see the purpose of it for what I wanted to do. Nowadays you
have to have college for anybody to pay attention to you, but
sometimes even that is not enough. I just cant see what it has to
do with performing most jobs, outside of the 3 R's.
I would advise you to try to find a study partner that can suffer
along with you. Its difficult to stay motivated when you cant see
any light at the end of the tunnel, but you never know, so just
get it done. I am rooting for you !
2006-09-22 04:09:04
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answered by Anonymous
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set a goal for yourself and decide to achieve it and work towards it with focus . If you do something that you like you will enjoy it. There is no limit to knoledge and education.But choose the one you like or want and work at it .Else take up a job if you think that you are not interested to study further . If you hae been an on line student for long try , joining some college .The new environ ment could offere some refeshing change .let not the change be one that would hinder the achievement of the goal you set for yourself .
2006-09-21 09:36:46
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answered by diamond r 2
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Think about the payoffs!!
You'll acquire a great education and knowledge, knowledge is power, it is so great having an education, look at the people, even here, who show such ignorance by their answers.
You will have a bright future and your life will be less ordinary, mostly you can have a great career and accomplish much. And will be set aside, will stand out from the crowd and ordinary, ordinary isn't great, it's just ordinary, lame, so keep yourself motivated, think of all the things you can do, when you start making a great living.
You'll have financial independence!!!
Do you need any more reasons?
2006-09-21 18:22:33
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answered by You are loved 5
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It's happening to me. The time has come for you to really ponder: is this really what I want to do in my life? Is this the major that suits me? Is this the field I want to work in? Is there anything else that I'm more interested in, or that I can do better? If there's anything instead of "this" that really motivates you, look into it!
But if you are sure you want to go on with what you started, I think attending real classes would be motivating for you. It's lively, interactive, and it will give meaning to your homework. Good luck!
2006-09-21 09:17:21
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answered by jarynth 2
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I was exactly the same as you, I never wanted to do the work, it just gets you stressed if you find something hard and then you get depressed, eventually my school kicked me out all together because of my attitude towards work. Now I am at a 'Preparing for Work' program until May, it was really hard to get into but I want to have a good future, maybe my story will motivate you to want to learn more as if you get kicked out of your college course you may not have a second opportunity, and then you may not have a decent future with decent money. Dont work yourself to hard but everytime you think 'I cant be bothered' just think to yourself that you want a good future and you want to see yourself succeed.
Hope I helped
xx
2006-09-21 08:18:13
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answered by blondie 2
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