Please don't take this the wrong way, I'm not trying to discriminate at all, just trying to learn more.
Bisexual girls, is dating other girls more difficult or easier because your bisexual? I've heard that some lesbians don't trust bisexual girls as much as lesbian girls. And are your relationships easier than ones with men?
Lesbians, is it easy for you to find real love in the dating world? Or is it more difficult? Or about the same as heterosexuals in the dating world?
Again, just trying to learn, not trying to start some kind of weird fight.
2006-09-21 05:46:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
RiahWillo... - I liked what you said, but just wanted to point out that STD's isn't a man disease, it's a human disease. When a guy gets an STD from a girl, it's just as easy for him to say, "damn women and their diseases". And not all men are gya, bisexual, sexualy confused, or had some kind of gay experience, true straight men get STD's from girls.
Just wanted to point that out.
2006-09-21 06:30:22 · update #1
First of all for the medically inept person that posted to this question. STD's are just as common in women as they are in men. They can be spread from man to woman, woman to man, man to man or woman to woman. I can't believe that someone who is capable of using a computer is so stupid! Check out WebMD.com for information on STD's!
Sorry for the raging rant, back to your question.
I have been with both lesbians and bi's and find that bi's are mostly looking for fun and lesbians are looking for relationships. I dont know if this is always true, but thats been my experience. As for a comparison to dating men, I find woman much easier to date because they are more caring, listen better and easy to bond with.
2006-09-21 06:43:03 · answer #1 · answered by ally 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i'm a bi woman, and i've found that being bi made it harder for me to date sometimes. i was in a relationship and the guy was always asking me to have a threesome with a girl we both knew and trusted. well i gave in to him and did it. he freaked out and didn't do anything with me and my gf.
he wanted to have sex with another couple and i gave in to this request. he freaked again and i of course had fun with my gf and her man. he left the room at some point , i don't know when but the relationship itself was on it's way out the door at that point.
(reason for this is he was loaning me out to his friends. well, trying to)
what i never really got was, he was the one telling me i wasn't ready for it and he was the one doing all the freaking out.
my relationships with women have bee a little easier, but i love my hubby and thank the gods he understands my needs!!
(he's got some pretty wacky ones too)
overall, my relationships with men generally weren't as intimate as the ones with women, but i think they lasted longer than the ones with women is because the women i used to date were really picky and nagged all the time.
i guess it really depends on the type of people you date, how old,etc.
blessed be to those who are lucky enough to have pleasant dating experiances.
my relationships with other bi women have all pretty much been about sex, but there were a few that were long term and we came to a mutual parting of ways.
i still talk to and am friends with my exes.
i'm a ver careful person when it comes to sex and it's safe sex or no sex .
it's important to get checked for disease whether your straight, gay, lesbian, bi or whatever. that is the the way to disease prevention, not avoiding a particular gender or sexual orientation.
2006-09-21 08:12:04 · answer #2 · answered by mistressmorro 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok I am a Lesbian woman, and to be honest I will not date a Bi woman .. and here are my reasons why
1. because she has had sex with a man and in the days of all the sexualy transmitted diseases it is harder to catch a diseas woman to woman than it is man to woman. therefore (no disrespect intended im not going behind a man) in other words I dont know where her last man has been and I dont care to find out at a doctors office.
2. I think men are cool and all but I honestly dont see the point in having sex or being intamate with a woman in a lesbian relationship that could be intamate with a man.. it is a compleetly different level of intamacy.. (and yes I have been with 1 man in the past, he was a virgin and so was I we stayed together 14 years had children and divorced because I could not get with the straight lifestyle no matter how much I tried to make it work) .. I have many friends who are male and are very close to me.. but to get intamate with them.. (even on a non sexual level) I just cannot do..
3. for me in the dating world with women I have found that the diversity is so different than in the straight world that you can find exactly what you are looking for .. it goes so much deeper than hair color and eye color and hard working or good provider.. it goes down to butch /femme/ andro/ loving / compationate/ stone/ leather/ and many many more clasifications.. so you can narrow down what you realy like and you can usualy meet that person at either a lesbian social or at your local chick bar.. (for me I had to look no further than my workplace)
Then last but not least... I dont want to ever worry that she would get pissed at me one night and go to the local bar and have a d*ck tease moment to get back at me for something petty and then there may be consequenses far reaching for years to come that AZT cant cure. No thank you.. it is just better for the whole lesbian population if the phalic stuff is left alone and if your bi that is all well and good for your bedroom but go with another bi chick that is all good with it..
no dissrespect intended mind you .. it is just my personal oppinion, and more about disease control than anything else.
other than that to each his or her own.
as long as it doesnt affect my life.. it isnt in my bubble.
2006-09-21 06:22:19 · answer #3 · answered by RiahWillow 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I'm a lesbian and I prefer dating Lesbian women. I myself will not date bi women, it led me to so much pain in my past... As for dating world, verses str8ght... I don't know I believe its all the same in some sense.. You have to throw many fish back until you catch the right one... Yes I have found my real love in the dating world.... It was difficult but worth the wait. I imagine it would be harder to date in the gay community, less bars, harder at grocery stores, movies, etc....
2006-09-21 06:05:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
My wife is the only lesbian I know ITRW who doesn't freak out over a bi woman. We were kids when we met (18 and 17); we wonder if we'd have even given each other a chance if we met when we were older and had heard all the myths and b.s.
Of course, I also worried about guys wanting me to help make their porno fantasies come to life and all, instead of liking me for me.
2006-09-21 05:54:47 · answer #5 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
For me getting straight men to leave me alone is difficult. I do not date them. Bi-sexual women are fun and sex is great, no strings attached, usually. I found love when I wasn't looking for it.
2006-09-21 07:38:16 · answer #6 · answered by cj 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm bi i have no problems except for my boyfriend is jealous of my girlfriend.. and doesn't like when i look at other girls... hehehe but i don't understand him... oh wells.. It's hard for me to date another girls... because i like to be outside.. and it's hard for you and your girl to get close in new york... I think my relationship with my boyfriend is way easier than with my girlfriend
2006-09-21 14:08:55 · answer #7 · answered by fersitf 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋