How bad is it?
2006-09-21 05:37:00 · 17 answers · asked by javo 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yes and no.
My brother has "rage issues" which makes a relationship with him difficult at best.
But as far as my being gay, that's just not a problem issue at all.
Our strained relationship has nothing to do with my sexuality.
My brother is a Mensa member, meaning he has a genius IQ. So, he tends to think he knows absolutely everything about absolutely anything...just ask!
He constantly puts my intelligence down just to boost his own ego.
Growing up, we had a strained relationship because he took the brunt of my father's anger and then in turn my brother would visit that upon me.
He resented that my father never harmed me, but would get into huge physical battles with him. So, my brother would take his rage out on me.
When he got married, my new sister-in-law actually kept my brother's anger in check. She knew how to defuse him and because of her, my brother and I renewed a relationship that we actually had not had in three years. She made sure we stuck together as a family. She made sure that our children all knew each other and had a strong bond.
I grew to rely on my brother's influence in my son's life and my sister-in-law and I were so close it was as if we were actually the siblings. We often simply called each other "sister" and dropped the "in-law" part off.
But my sister-in-law died recently and this has put an enourmous strain on the already fragile relationship my brother and I have. He didn't even allow me to participate in the scattering of my sister-in-laws ashes.
Her actual blood sibling (her older sister) assumed my brother had invited me and didn't say anything about it until afterwards. She was really shocked to learn that my brother never asked, never wanted to include me as part of my sister-in-law's family. Her sister even admitted that she knew my sister-in-law and I were much closer than she and her sister ever were.
So, yes, my brother and I have a somewhat bad relationship, but it has nothing to do with my sexuality.
2006-09-21 05:50:32 · answer #1 · answered by DEATH 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No actually, I'm blessed with a very wonderful sister. She is three years older and there isn't anything we wouldn't do for each other. I'm very proud of her, she always stood by me, even when I first came out. I couldn't ask for a better sibling.... yes we did the fighting thing when we were kids, taking clothes, attention from parents, she use to tell on me all the time. But that's all immature young stuff that most siblings grow out of..... She just got married a few years ago and her husband and 3 step kids are her perfect fit...
2006-09-21 06:38:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't have bad relationship with my siblings. I call them at least 2 times a week and just catch up with each other's lives.
2006-09-21 11:50:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am pretty close with my brother and sister (im in the middle). We hang out occasionally, more so with my brother because we attend the same college where as my sister attends a different one and lives out of town.
We used to HATE each other but now I love them more than I anyone - my family, to me, is all I have and know that they will always be there for me - it's a pretty strong, bonded relationship. We've been through a lot and all of those circumstances draw us closer together.
2006-09-21 06:53:47 · answer #4 · answered by love earth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 09:43:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 1 brother that I haven't spoken 2 in over 5 years.
That's bad 4 my family.
I can't change what's happened or wipe away his lack of loyalty or how much he's hurt me.
It would have been easier if he'd broken a bone than the emotional pain he put me thru.
Give it another decade or more & I'll C how I feel then.
It bothers the rest of my family & my Bro, but it doesn't bother me.
I can live with myself.
2006-09-21 05:43:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I have 2 brothers 33 and 25 I'm in the middle( we share a mum) and 2 sisters25 and 22 I'm the oldest (we share a dad) and I am close to both of my brothers since we grew up together and one of my sisters(the 25 year old) is my right hand but my younger sister i really don't talk to she acts like my step mum and we just don't get along ....or have we had a chance to get to know each other? well I guess the answer is yes and no...
2006-09-21 06:03:22 · answer #7 · answered by I dont trust no Bush but my own. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, I have a wonderful relationship with my siblings!
2006-09-21 05:59:49 · answer #8 · answered by Kookoo Bananas 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, I get along with my brother really well. and we have a 2 family house we own together, and he lives in the apartment upstairs. I have a step-brother and a step- sister too. I'm not close at all to my step-brother, and get along "ok" with my step-sister, but that's kind of normal. they're a lot younger than I am.
2006-09-21 06:56:08 · answer #9 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess my relationship would be bad i haven't talked to my one sister for 23 years and some sisters for 10 or moore there is no excuse we werent mad at each other just dont communicate
2006-09-21 05:40:41 · answer #10 · answered by Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋