Last night I had an arguement with my live in boyfriend. He says I'm rude to him all the time. In his words I "always have an attitude" but I don't see it that way. He comes home from work and ignores me and my boy. If I try to tell him something or ask him something I just get the answer of "Hmmm" My son notices that too. I'll admit I did have an attitude last night because he kept pushing for it and telling me I was wrong. I took a class in the subject we were discussing and I KNOW this time I'm right. I'm not always right. Everytime this happens he has to ask his friends or look it up or something. He has NEVER took me at my word. He says I have a bad attitude but I get tired of cleaning his clothes, washing his dishes, cooking his dinner ect. I know these are things I should be doing but I don't get much in return. We have had sex once in the last year. I think hes out of love with me...does it sound like it to you? Serious answers only please. Thank you.
2006-09-21 05:15:44 · 12 answers · asked by musicpanther67 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You all are right about my son. I'm not a young woman I'm 39. I know I should know better but I can't get out. I have NO money. Apartments are expensive. The house is his so I can't kick him out. I have been working with my therapist on how to get out. She agrees it's time to leave. But I just have no where to go. I know I am going to get a job but I have some issues I have to deal with before I can. I can't just leave and sleep on the street can I? Not with my boy. I hope to be able to find a job within six months but for now, what do I do? I have been thinking about just moving out of the bedroom which leaves me the couch. That's not fair because I pay the same as he does plus I take care of the house. I am on SSI but it's not enough to rent a place. You're all correct though, it's time to move on...Thanks for all your help..
2006-09-21 05:58:17 · update #1
You are 39 have a son ,Yet cannot take care of yourself and you have the balls to criticize someone else??
2006-09-21 06:16:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you should sit down and tell him how you really feel and see if he make any changes. If everything is still the same I would leave him he doesn't deserve you. If leaving him isn't an option then 2 need some time apart , this may help a lot too. You clean his clothes, wash his dishes, cook his dinner and this is what you get in return. Seems like he does not appreciate you and he is taking advantage of you. There are plenty of men out there that will treat you better. If you are not happy you need to move on.
2006-09-21 05:26:21 · answer #2 · answered by STARS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off NO washing his dishes and things are not what you are supposed to do unless you are a hired maid. It does sound as if you have more feelings for the guy at this moment, but doesn't mean he doesn't love. I say for you and your child it would be a good time to get some distance from your boyfriend and just work on yourself and your son. Once you get to a place in a relationship where you are keeping track of who is right and wrong it is time to take a step back. Once you get away and clear your head you may see this is not who you want to be or who you want to be with and take it from there. He will also have the chance to do the same. Good luck with what ever you decide to do!
2006-09-21 05:39:21 · answer #3 · answered by kna0831 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sound like you have become unappriciated..and you've allowed it. Why should you do those things for him? Your love for him seems to be quickly turning into resentment. Sad that your son is noticing. He's also noticing the wrong way to treat a woman. Stop giving him the power to give you a bad attitude.
2006-09-21 05:26:25 · answer #4 · answered by T S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like you are not a couple any more. Why are you staying? There is no love connection. Sounds as if you are a housekeeper for him. If you do not get anything in return, what kind of relationship is that? You seem young because you have a boy. Do not waste your time in this relationship. Move on!
2006-09-21 05:26:00 · answer #5 · answered by Yoda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im shure he does love u but maybe he is not inlove with u anymore..he forgot what u are doing for him,things that might meant some special for him before, became normal for him now.
tell him what way u see it and how he is acting and if u have the feeling he is not even listening to u or might not understand what u meant,then try it in a different way,like ask him how he would feel when u would do some like that to him....u both need to start to talk again..
i hope i could help u at least a little with that!!
2006-09-21 05:31:04 · answer #6 · answered by starlight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its over, from the sounds of it. You dont have to do those things youre doing as a girlfriend, as of right now, youre more like roommates. You are not married. You love him, thats why you do it. None of us here knows what the true answer is, but think about your life right now, think about your happiness and his, talk to each other, maybe things can be resolved, whether its good or bad.
Good luck with everything.
2006-09-21 05:21:15 · answer #7 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good God girl, is this what you pictured love to be, honey you deserve more and so does your child, get out or kick him out and close the door on this relationship, he sounds like a total loser. I would have an attitude if I had to live with this moron.....move on honey, you are better than this.
2006-09-21 05:20:29 · answer #8 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its good that at least u get to know what is on his mind. u too should find a good time to tell him your thoughts too. never accuse another because this will be bad for a relationship. remember my dear in life there are much more challenges in life other ppl are facing and thus never let trivial matter rob u of your peace. will pray for u.
2006-09-21 05:32:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the jerk, he is insecure and needy. You are giving your son a bad role model and need to dump him now, not waste time arguing with him and doing all his sh!t. You are his girlfriend, not his mommy, if he needs just a mommy he needs to go back home.
2006-09-21 05:19:36 · answer #10 · answered by Niche Jerk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋