I think my friend maybe questioning her sexuality, but it would be really hard for her if she ever wanted to "come out" here are a few reasons why, 1. part of her family is very religious 2. her religion as well as others says that homosexuality is a sin and you will go to hell. 3. her mom and brother died a few years ago and I know she would never want to jepordize her chances of seeing them again (in heaven) and the majority of the people that she deals with would talk about her (in a bad way) if she would ever come out as being a lesbian or bi-sexual so I think she is hiding who she really is because of all these things. Her sister is a lesbian and their religious side of their family deals with it but they do not accept if because of the bible.. they say its a devilish spirit and it can go away if you pray. I would really like to help my friend, because I can imagine how hard it is to have a constant battle with yourself. But I really don't know how to help her.
2006-09-21 05:02:08 · 7 answers · asked by datgagirl87 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Any advice is greatly appreciated...Please do not be rude
2006-09-21 05:02:40 · update #1
You need to let her know that no matter what, you'll be there for her, that you'll always support her and be her friend. To tell you the truth, it's a very difficult issue for someone that beleives, like you said, it's a constant battle and you end up hurting yourself and others.
God bless her.
2006-09-21 05:30:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Religion is a bible that was written by man many, many years ago. It doesn't help many issues or challenges today. There are big groups of religious people who have a hard time acknowledging that this book that has been re-written and re-written is out dated. Many things the bible "states" no longer pertain.. So these scared religious people pick out little bits and pieces to feel that they are connected to God. God really wants people to be happy and love each other, Never Judge.. Live with kindness. I'm sorry her family doesn't accept her, they will miss out on both daughter lives, but then again it will be there loss. As for losing her mother and brother, They horrible. But Just because she is a lesbian doesn't mean there isn't a big place in heave waiting for her, as well as me "a lesbian". Remember, just because someone has a strong belief doesn't make them right. She needs to make her relationship with God!
2006-09-21 12:19:37 · answer #2 · answered by mylife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If iwere in your shoes i would do what what my heart told me life is to short to fight a losing battle everytime she shakes off her homosexualaty its gonna come right back .Its easy to welcome it now rather then wait 10 or 20 years down the line only to except the person she reallyis. Grab it deal with it and dont wait 20 years later. TALK to her sister she dosnt need this gigantic unrsolved issue going on. TELL HER to make decisions and stick to them swrew everybody else these kind of issue can take her places she dont want go .unresolved issues lead to confussion and last but not least anger or worst could come out of it. close this file as soon as you can either way resoved issue .
2006-09-21 12:29:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to check out this website:
http://www.whosoever.org/bible/index.html
It has some really great news for homosexuals and how to resolve our personal issues and questions regarding our faith.
Another good site is: http://www.godmademegay.com/Letter.htm
Let your friend know that no matter what she can talk to you about anything and you won't judge her or stop being her friend, even if it's something she's scared to talk about or something she thinks others wouldn't understand.
Be willing to listen and love your friend no matter what. She's going to need someone she can talk to and count on.
You see like a really caring friend to go this distance to help her out.
2006-09-21 12:16:44 · answer #4 · answered by DEATH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going against your family is a hard thing to do. Going against God is even harder. Be there for her let her know it is OK. Coming out is the hardest decision any homosexual faces. Coming out to your self is the hardest part. After that each person you tell is just a little bit easier to come out to.
2006-09-21 12:57:58 · answer #5 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I had to advise them, if possible I would talk to my clergy about my concerns. If they feel uncomfortable about that then I would suggest not "coming out" until they really felt comfortable with it. I think it should be a personal decision and not one to be rushed into. Prayer helps if they are so inclined.
2006-09-21 12:26:00 · answer #6 · answered by Scv705 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just gotta be there for her
everybody sins, infact most do every single day
2006-09-21 12:10:44 · answer #7 · answered by ☺Everybody still loves Chris!♥▼© 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋