I left my husband five months ago. I met up with an old friend, and we dated. I broke up with him because I missed my husband.
My mom told me I was codependant.
2006-09-21 04:54:56 · 7 answers · asked by LaceyPie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I left my husband because he wasn't supporting me, emotionally, or financially. I felt he expected me to make the income, and keep house, without any encouragement for personal growth.
I broke up with the boyfriend because of parenting differences, and world views, complete uncompatibility.
2006-09-21 06:27:06 · update #1
I don't know... The very fact that YOU left your husband speaks against you being co-dependent. It's natural to miss someone you were once attached to, and I'm sure "missing your husband" was not the sole reason you broke up with your new date.
A dictionary definition of co-dependency:
Main Entry:co·de·pen·den·cy
Pronunciation:-d&n(t)-sE
Function:noun
: a psychological condition or a relationship in which a person is controlled or manipulated by another who is affected with a pathological condition (as an addiction to alcohol or heroin); broadly : dependence on the needs of or control by another
2006-09-21 05:04:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom doesn't know what she is talking about. Codependent refers to being hooked on something or someone at the same time as someone else, like your husband and you were unable to live without each other, like each one needing the other to stay alive. You didn't mention how he felt, so I assume that maybe he doesn't feel the same way about you.
Why did you leave him anyway? Didn't you commit to him for life in your wedding vows? If you have found that the "grass isn't greener on the other side of the fence", go back to him. Apologize, eat your humble pie and do whatever is needed to get back in his good graces. Maybe he will find it in his heart to forgive you. If he doesn't, you have only yourself to blame.
2006-09-21 05:04:00 · answer #2 · answered by Captain Cupcake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Codependent is two of you rely each other and it means two of you can't live without each other.
My friend called me code pendant with my husband.
In my case:
I has been in our marriage for more than 20 years and I can't leave him to be an independent woman even I don't love him anymore.
I also worry about him if I left him, since he was trying to kill himself.
As of my husband:
He told me that he can't live without me because he only loves me. He said we are in one and we can't be apart.
2006-09-21 05:30:39 · answer #3 · answered by Marilyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
codependant means A person that care to much about other peoples struggles. I personally think that you should look at the way things happen when you are going through hard times. OR LOOK AT HOW YOU ARE BEING WHEN YOUR MALE OR FEMALE PARTNER IS GOING THROUGH PROBLEMS.
2006-09-21 05:02:42 · answer #4 · answered by Nicholas A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that you are definitely dependant on that person or thing to live. So, she's saying that you have to have your husband to live, which must be true since you are back with him.
2006-09-21 05:56:27 · answer #5 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your life is dependant on anothers actions.
2006-09-21 05:00:30 · answer #6 · answered by desayunogratis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
co- together
dependent- relies upon
2006-09-21 05:02:51 · answer #7 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋