ok well umm i dont really know how 2 say this but like i have had 4 partners my whole life an well i have never had an orgasm not ever.....its like i crave sex an i want it,but then when it comes 2 it i just dont get any thing out of it,an it doesnt feel good.....i dont really know what this means i mean ive tryed just about every thing,i had a guy go down on me an nuthing happend....i aske my mom why an she said iam just dont comfortable or the guy is just not doing it right......should i go see a doctor about it or is my mom right?? please help i need answers..
2006-09-21 04:51:11 · 17 answers · asked by AUBRIE L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you don't need to go see a doc
my girlfriend was the same way.
shes had sex with other guys before we got together and she said that she didn't like the sex because they didn't make her orgasm.
she said one of the reasons she couldn't was because she wasn't comfortable.
than when we did it i gave her her first and all of her orgasms till this day.
you probably just gotta get comfortable.
she orgasms way harder when there lots of foreplay
2006-09-21 04:59:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its you no matter what any1 else tells you. It takes time to know your own body, so someone else aint gonna know it . Try touching yourself, exploring your own body and then you might be able to find out what feels good and exactly where and how you want to be touched. Use your imagination and fantasise this is the best sex tool EVER! When your mind is set like this you will feel horny and almost anything will make you come. Explore your own body honey its the only way to go. : -)
Be bold and talk your partner through it. Guys are much more straightforward and so much easier to please. You deserve to enjoy sex. It is a wonderful gift. Also, guys don't have a clue and need your guidance so go for it with attitude. Experience is the key so just relax and stop thinking that something is wrong with you. It took me a long time to really get into it although I've had more partners than you, most of them were not that good at sex and I rarely reached orgasm, so it is pretty common what you are going through TRUST ME on that one. It will happen though! ;-)
2006-09-21 05:10:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever thought you could be gay. and no I'm not saying this. The reason you are not getting could be because you are with the wrong gender. or if you don't think that is it, you might want to try and masterbate more, the only way you can tell your partner what you like is if you know, so find out and I'm sure once you do the next times you have sex and it doesn't feel right you can tell your partner what you like and how you like and then you will hit the big O. If both are wrong go and talk to your docter.
2006-09-21 04:59:56 · answer #3 · answered by Tanya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be both!! Some women will only have an orgasm with a men they trully love. and if you have been with guys that don't make you feel safe, confortable, relaxed and loved, you might not have an orgasm. On the other hand, you should go to the doctor, just to get checked out, make sure everything is ok.
2006-09-21 04:55:03 · answer #4 · answered by Kamy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're mom is right. You need a guy that knows how to hit your spots and make it feel good for you. Sounds like you're young. Young guys don't have a clue (I was young once lol). Young guys are all about themselves and making themselves feel good.
As men get older (for the most part) they start trying to make the woman climax as well as themselves.
Get with an older guy and I bet me gives you an orgasm
2006-09-21 04:55:27 · answer #5 · answered by bad_dog76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have ever played with yourself, you would know what is good to you and makes you orgasm. Hopefully you have because it makes you understand your body alot better. Once you know what makes you orgasm, show the partners how to make you orgasm.
Another big problem is being relaxed while in the act.
Hopefully that helps you alot.
2006-09-21 04:55:29 · answer #6 · answered by theodore.story 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it helps to be with someone you love enough to make a lifetime commitment to. Most guys who have casual sex are not into taking the time to work with you to get you there. Communication with your partner is the best way to work this problem out.
2006-09-21 04:58:05 · answer #7 · answered by Nora Explora 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
l think you just have'nt met the right guy, one that knows what he's doing. when l'm with a woman, l dont stop until l know 100% that she is satisfied.and being a paramedic, l know where all the right nerves and muscles are that will bring a woman to her ultimate orgasm and ejackulation.
2006-09-21 04:57:22 · answer #8 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i didn't have a real organism until i got with my husband and i had a steady boyfriend for like 4 years before i was married
you have to train a man on what you like
You have to be able to please yourself most guys i know are looking out for themselves
I think your mom is right you haven't been with the right person cause believe me you will be hooked on whom ever gives you your first pleasure just wait it comes with time
2006-09-21 04:56:56 · answer #9 · answered by jenniferevans32 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
know yourself, try shower massage head, self masterbation. then when you learn what works for you...you can exspress it to your partner how and where for maximum overload. practice makes perfect.
make sure your comfortable with yourself and your partner enough to release.
2006-09-21 04:56:43 · answer #10 · answered by mrsgilleland 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋