After a two year relationship with ups and downs, I feel like I have reached a breaking point. Unfortunately, my feelings sometimes override what I know should be done. I truly love this man but cannot continue on with white lies and juvenile behavior. How do I let him go?
2006-09-21 04:50:04 · 16 answers · asked by pababybunny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You tell him "Good Bye" and you grieve the ending of the relationship and then let go one day at a time. Make a conscious effort to find things to keep your mind busy, such as pursuing that hobby or interest you've been meaning to explore. Find friends that are not associated with your ex. Hope this helps!
2006-09-21 04:54:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Better an end with pain then a never ending pain"....Been there done it, from experience I would say make a list of all the pros and cons and be honest with yourself and logical, then compare - you will find that the negative side of the list might be by far longer than the + side, besides that, you are beautiful and there is many guys out there for you, he's not the only one nor the last one. A long serious talk might shed some light into it as well, if he is willing to compromise or change - give him a chance, but otherwise move on, live is too short for silly games like that, good luck girlfriend!
2006-09-21 12:01:26 · answer #2 · answered by CC Top 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have reached a point of having to make ONE of the hardest decisions you'll ever have to make. It is a tug a war between the heart and the brain, what you should do and what you want to do. Your heart Say's your still in love and your brain Say's the relationship's not healthy get out. Only you will know when enough is enough, then you will be emotionally strong enough to decide. I can tell you from experience just know if you do walk away just because you close that door doesn't mean you will stop loving him. You still will fight the battle with in yourself. It comes down to the ultimate choice! you or him, leave and respect yourself and know you deserve better or stay and demean yourself and just settle. ONLY you can choose. I wish you all the luck sweetie I know exactly what your going through.
2006-09-21 12:25:11 · answer #3 · answered by SANCY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation with my exfiance. I tried giving him the benefit of the doubt because he is mentally ill. All it did was bring my mental well being down. We decided to separate a bit while he moved in with his mother. It was going to last for 6 months but after 2 weeks he wanted to come back and I freaked out (inside). I decided to officially end it because I began to accept the fact that this person was not going to change. He was in big denial of his mental health and didn't want to help himself. You can not change the other person. They are who they are and will only change if it's something they want. Don't keep yourself miserable by hanging onto something you are not sure of. The thought of being alone again may seem scary but being depressed is far worse. I never regret the decision I made. I am now happily married to someone who is very good to me. He may have habits that drive me crazy but you have to know the difference between bad habits or behavior and the ones that are trivial. Good luck to you!
2006-09-21 11:58:53 · answer #4 · answered by Maureen B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't if the love is true but there must be more to what you are saying because I learned what true love was and I will never let go. Because true love has no boundaries and nothing can keep me from my baby
2006-09-21 11:55:12 · answer #5 · answered by jchraialt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's very hard to let go someone you love, but if you already talked about what's bothering you and he's not willing to change the situation then it's best to move on!
2006-09-21 11:59:30 · answer #6 · answered by spanishqueen39 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if there is really a big misunderstanding not need to continue any more it will make you hurt later
2006-09-21 11:56:19 · answer #7 · answered by sathia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find other things to do to help keep him off your mind. Hang out with the girls more and etc. and maybe that will help.
2006-09-21 11:53:06 · answer #8 · answered by VeeateU 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't drop a bomb on him that will be too sudden. instead tell him how u feel and ur decision. remember my dear, think, think and contemplate carefully b4 u say the words.
2006-09-21 13:19:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell yourself you can do it..Dont think of him, learn a new skill or pick up a hobby, meet new friends.. ..
2006-09-21 11:55:52 · answer #10 · answered by aramon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋