Ive been going out with this guy for 1 month and at first he was all over me and really horny and we had sex...and everything was cool until one day the condom slipped off...and the topic of kids came up because I asked him what he would do if he got me pregnant. It was just something I needed to know because I had an ex who got me pregnant once and walked out so I just asked him to be real with me and let me know before hand that if I ever got pregnant with his baby, would he want it or not. He was honest and he said, he wouldnt because we're too young (Im 18 and he 19) but he said he wouldnt leave me. Well anyways, that was said and done and ever since he hasnt touched me (in that way)...we may be kissing sometimes and I know hes horny and I try to do something and then he'll just slowly change the situation. So nothing happens...so now Im wondering whats up? Is he cheating? Is it my body? What happened?
2006-09-21 04:43:15 · 18 answers · asked by finallyINlove 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to ask him....the pregnancy conversation probably scared him. Also , I hope your using a backup protection method as well for reasons like what happened with you. Condoms and birth control pills may put his mind at ease.
2006-09-21 05:30:16 · answer #1 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He got scared. When a girl asks a question like that the guy starts thinking 'oh crap, what if I get her pregnant'. Before that guys don't think about that much (and judging by how girls nowadays have sex so often and young, they don't think about that as well)...
My advice, as a guy, is to talk to him and ask him what's on his mind. Don't accuse him of anything, just inquire. Condoms are only 50% safe, so to be more safe you can go on the birth-control pill (but use condoms also since condoms can help prevent STDs). Using condoms and brith-control pills wil be a lot safer. Assure him that you're not trying to trap him. that may be another thought in his feebish head.
2006-09-21 04:47:57 · answer #2 · answered by The First 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not sure he's ready to take that step since he thought about the whole kids subject. If you feel like he is not taking care of your needs then it's time to talk to him honestly and openly about what you need from him and your relationship. Sex is not everything ( although it's great). Maybe you should work on building trust, communication and love before you make the mistake of missing out on a great person just because he doesn't want to be physically intimate with you
2006-09-21 06:24:35 · answer #3 · answered by Sunshine's Pic Is on 360 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The kids talk probley freaked him out! He's 18 and he's probley not ready for kids! It's not you or your body he's just scared if you guys go at it again something might happen and he doesn't want that! But if you guys have an open relationship then you should be able to talk with him about it!! I hope that helps girl! Good luck!
2006-09-21 05:00:16 · answer #4 · answered by rocker_gurl08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is being smart. I dont think he is cheating or anything, but he definetly does not want to get you pregnat. Or worse, he may think you want to get pregnat, some girls are just that stupid and want to keep a guy by getting pregnat. Perhaps if you consider a more efficient method than a condom, he may feel less threaten about this issue
2006-09-21 04:47:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fun and games and slap and tickle are just that. You opened that scary door called "reality" and it has caused him to start thinking; which is always confusing for men. Men are simple creatures and tend to live in the here and now for beer and fun. The future is a blank void that terrifies them.
2006-09-21 04:59:15 · answer #6 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The talk about kids totally freaked him out. He thinks all you want are babies and a husband - the relationship is pretty much over with. Move on.
2006-09-21 04:46:05 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my suggestion would be you bring up that you want to get on birth controll and he'll be all over you again. Your a HOTTIE D.C
2006-09-21 04:51:09 · answer #8 · answered by VeeateU 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's doing some " soul searching " Give him some time. He'll come around, or not. He's still with you, that's a plus.
2006-09-21 04:57:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is probably just scared of getting you pregnant, give it time. At least you have a responsible man girl hold on to him.
2006-09-21 04:48:15 · answer #10 · answered by bradosmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋