my bf tells me if we want to have sex. i dont know if im ready. wat should i do?
2006-09-21 04:37:45 · 9 answers · asked by ♥♫CUTiiEPiiE♫♥ 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Are you in the right section? No matter, the first time you have sex should be because it is what YOU really want. Any bf/gf that sees and genuinely cares about the real you, will understand and wait until sex is what you truly desire. It's much better with that type of intimacy and love because that's what meaningful sex is all about. Any bf/gf that pressures you is being selfish and looking to just get what they want. That's not the type of relationship to keep, so wait until you really are ready and you partner is someone who is genuinely into you.
2006-09-21 04:47:59 · answer #1 · answered by Alex62 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I both lost our virginity on our wedding night. It was worth wait trust me. We have been happily married for almost 3 years now and we are so glad that we saved if for marriage. We didn't risk having unwanted pregnancies, or STD's from sleeping around. Sex is something that the 2 of us can share together. And it is so much more special to you when you are with just one person. Sex was made to be enjoyed by a man and his wife, do yourself a huge favor and wait. I know it sounds old-fashioned and you probably won't wait, but I am still young and it wasn't that long ago that I was a virgin, and I am all the more better for waiting till marriage. Waiting protects you from alot of worrying and heartache. Talk to your parents about it. They always have the best advice. Don't ask a bunch of strangers about something as important as losing your virginity. These days everyone is only after pleasing themselves no matter what the cost to others. You won't find sound advice in a matter such as this from people who don't even know you, or know your moral values or beliefs. Talk to your parents, that is what they are there for, to help you. Good luck, and stay strong.
2006-09-21 05:45:03 · answer #2 · answered by Snow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you felt the need to ask this question you are not ready. If you were ready you wouldn't be questioning. If your BF is pressuring you to have sex then tell him your ready to give it to him hard. Ask him if he is ready, when he say yes kick him as hard as you can in the balls !!! Never be pressured into sex!! If the person cares for you there will be no pressure.
2006-09-21 06:32:57 · answer #3 · answered by ally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ONLY YOU CAN DECIDE IF YOU ARE READY FOR SEX!
Period.
Your BF might be ready, but you may not be.
He can't tell you when you are.
My first sexual experience happened because I was ready. I was curious and wanted to explore sex with someone I knew and trusted. It happened to have been my brother's best friend. But I trusted him as well and we had a really good relationship as friends. I was 17 and he was 19. I was still in High School but he was in college.
Funny, but I recall most of my friends had some really traumatic first experiences with their boyfriends. I had a really relaxed and interesting experience with a boy I had actually never dated, but enjoyed his company greatly.
My first experience was fantastic. It was mutually respectful, intimate and relaxed. He was very careful to make sure I was completely comfortable every step.
Even with such a great first experience, I knew that sex with boys really wasn't my thing...at least not solely.
I wanted to experience sex with a girl, but kept that to myself until I was in college.
My first lesbian sexual experience was not so much an intimate experience but it was fun.
2006-09-21 05:10:22 · answer #4 · answered by DEATH 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old are you?
Don't let yourself be pressured into sex.
What do you call sex anyway?
Do you mean sex with penetration and exchange of bodily fluids?
If you feel you are not ready you probably aren't.
Try masturbating instead.
2006-09-21 06:22:48 · answer #5 · answered by Augusta B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are not ready! simple as that! If he cant accept this, that tell him your not ready for him, and then find another bf.
2006-09-21 05:05:09 · answer #6 · answered by WoWed in Philly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first couple times is usually bad for most people. I think you should say no. You need to be the gate keeper.
2006-09-21 04:59:52 · answer #7 · answered by it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait till you are married. You are worth the wait.
2006-09-21 06:26:02 · answer #8 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should not....u might regret it later.
2006-09-21 06:21:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋