2006-09-21 04:36:53 · 23 answers · asked by ENVY-ME 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
"Get packing - you're dumped!"
2006-09-21 04:39:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you think of him even as a friend? If so, use that excuse. Tell him that you enjoy his company and that you still "have love" for him but that you feel the "physical love" (or lust, or desire) is fading. It's hard to reject someone and a lot of times you don't want to hurt their feelings, but you can't beat around the bush either and keep that person hanging on. Just be tactful.
If you still care for him and want him to improve his appearance or "performance", just tell him, "Baby, I love you, but you need to step your game up."
When he asks you what does it mean, tell him he's "falling off". Tell him what you want and need from him. Tell him you love him but that you need the whole package: the love, the physical attraction, the passion, the romance - tell him you need it all. Ask him what does he need or want from you - sexually and emotionally - and try to work on giving each other those things. But don't take too long! Don't waste your time in a "dead-end" relationship that won't bring you happiness. Don't fake it. If you're not being "satisfied" and it's REALLY bothering you, then TAKE CONTROL. Dominate! Experiment with your fantasies. Use him as practice for enhancing your sexual skills. Make him keep up with you.
And a good time to talk about your feelings is after sex when the both of you are relaxed and smooching in bed. Don't go all the way! Don't wear him out before you talk! Keep him in bed and cater to him as you get him to pour out how he really feels.
Also, what makes him so undesirable to you?
Drinks all the time and watch TV?
Looks sloppy?
Too quick on the draw in bed? No foreplay or romance?
Dirty or bad hygiene?
Boring?
Take control. Step up YOUR GAME! Aggravate him and HELP him change. Help him improve his appearance, "technique", or Game. This is for the good of the relationship. But don't be a nagging woman! Just tell him what you want him to do and when. Give him a kiss or sex as a treat... or a good meal... or watch a sports game with him... or maybe even give him a six-pack if he drinks (don't let him drink it all at one time though). Take him out sometimes and force him to clean-up and look cute. Go for walks, or to the movies, or to the park - wherever.
If he doesn't want to change for the better(because he's lazy or doesn't care), and you two live together, prepare yourself for a major change in your lifestyle. First thing: get your money right if you plan to move. Get rid of any junk or baggage. Start improving your appearing so that you look more desirable and available. When your money is right and you're feeling the courage to move on - go for it. And tell him you tried and he didn't.
DzL (AsP)
"Holla at a Player when you see him in the street"
"The Player's Lifestyle" (website)
2006-09-21 05:21:18 · answer #2 · answered by mo2dajizzo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you want to get out by letting him know this? If you want to break up with him, just tell him that things are not working out. If you want to stay in the relationship, there are tons of things you can spice up your sex life. And if sexual attraction is the only reason you are looking for in a long term relationship, you need a wakeup call.
2006-09-21 04:41:11 · answer #3 · answered by mom_of_ndm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been having that problem too although I have been with mine for 6 years and now we have a 4 yr old so its harder to just walk out but if your not happy just let it go because if not eventually you could be in a situation like mine where you feel like your more of a prisner than you do a girlfriend.good luck hun
2006-09-21 04:42:08 · answer #4 · answered by ///\oo/\\\ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply tell him the truth. Truth is like a slap in the face; it hurts a lot initially, but the pain quickly subsides. Not telling him, on the other hand, is like a cancer; less painful initially, but ever increasingly more painful, in ever increasingly more ways.
2006-09-21 04:47:02 · answer #5 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no nice way to put it, unless you are willing to go another 4 yrs with him. You just have to be honest, and say why it is that you are no longer atracted to him, maybe he can do something to correct it.
2006-09-21 04:41:07 · answer #6 · answered by Kamy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Boyfreind of 4 Years,
I am no longer attracted to you.
Love,
2006-09-21 04:38:39 · answer #7 · answered by mimi22 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you dont have to tell him that, just tell break up with him, end it. if your not atracted to him anymore than you need to find somone else. the relationship will just get worse if you try to stay with somone you are no longer atracted to.
2006-09-21 04:39:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You owe it to both of you to break it off with him. Obviously you are not happy with the relationship. Maybe, he isn't either.
2006-09-21 04:39:14 · answer #9 · answered by ne11 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be staright forward and honest. Don't set your feelings asside to protect his feelings.
2006-09-21 04:43:01 · answer #10 · answered by Cely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Straight up. Do you know why? Is he not clean? Does he smell? Does he do it for five seconds only? Can you talk about it or is it over?
2006-09-21 04:39:27 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋