ok well its been a year since me an my ex have broken up..an well i still miss him.i did love him when we were together..we were together for 2 years an every thing was great..but then once he got a job an started chillen an drinken with friends,then he was always fighting with me an making me cry....then he started hiting me.....i just dont get why a guy would do that 2 some one you u claim 2 love....then i found out that he cheated on me....then he called me up and said it was over an that he didnt want a girl friend any more.....i was blown away an i couldnt eat or sleep i was so depresed....then 2 days latter he had a new g/f....i guess iam just wondering what did i do wrong? an why do i still love an miss him after what he did 2 me......
2006-09-21 04:27:11 · 5 answers · asked by AUBRIE L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We shouldn't stop loving someone just because our relationship is over, even if it ended for a good reason. We just need to adjust the way we love. In this case love him enough to hope he gets his act together some day. Then move on. The only thing you did wrong was pick the wrong guy. There are plenty of fish in the sea, next time try to hook a different breed.
2006-09-21 04:33:54 · answer #1 · answered by Nora Explora 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, stop blaming yourself. Some men are just scum bags.
Second, let go. While it's normal to miss him, do not linger on the past. Women are generally more emotionally involved and attached. It's hard to break away. If you truly loved him, it's ok the love is still there, but it shouldn't dominate you, it takes time, 1 year or more is very common. Tell yourself how lucky you are that you left this abusive relationship. Focus on the future, not the past. I'm sorry you went through all this, but you have to be strong and put this all behind you, instead of letting this be a baggage that you carry around all the time.
2006-09-21 11:38:22 · answer #2 · answered by mom_of_ndm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to sit there and say "Oh, i don't love that person anymore." There will always be a part of you that is going to always love them. I know i went through a situation where my b/f cheated on me. Even though i knew that he was...i wanted to try to make it work and hope for things to change. You can't help who you love. Emotions and feelings aren't like a light switch. You can't turn them on and off when you want. I really wish they were though. Life would be so much easier. I too blamed myself for everything. I always asked myself what could i do to make things better. It just took me a while to figure out that it wasn't anything that i did and there wasn't anything that i could have done to change it. Things just happen for a reason. We never understand why things happen but, there is a reason for it. Hope this answers your question and helps you.
2006-09-21 11:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by BabyGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The heart is a fascinating orgin, girls give it away to quickly. As soon as he started to fight with you and make you cry you should have realized something was up, and hitting you that's not love in any form. You should have seen this coming, don't dwell on him it will just keep you down, you need to keep busy and show him you have moved on, you will find love again. Hang in there and go have some fun.
2006-09-21 11:40:37 · answer #4 · answered by Gabriele 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that was a long time, and some people dont do well with change. also it seems like before he turned into a jack *** he was a nice guy so maybe you miss the old him. you didnt do anything wrong hes just a jackass dont worry about it and move on, asking your self what you did wrong etc. just makes it worse....there is a threory though that some people just like to be treated bad...i hope thats not true
2006-09-21 11:38:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋