I am equally attracted to men as women. The women I have dated in the past are bi as well and have been great with our shared interest. But society seems to look at bi-women with a more gentle approch. I do not want to offend anybody or insult thier intelligence. I am simply just looking for an honest answer and not getting bashed by others. If you are bi, how do you go about finding open minded people to share your life with and have a social circle of friends on the same wave length. This is not all about sex!
2006-09-21 04:14:13 · 19 answers · asked by italiajp 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Wow there is a lot of disbelief and intolerance from the gay community.
I am a bisexual man. I am, like you, equally in love with both sexes.
We are not accepted because the gays just want us gay and the straights are scared of us.
Straight men are scared because we seem so normal yet what if they are just as normal as we are and what if they are also attracted to men. Straight women fear us because they are afraid we are going to give them some STD because in their eyes any gay man might be HIV + Never-mind any straight man might also be HIV +.
2006-09-21 04:42:14 · answer #1 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
when it comes to matters of sex and sexuality, don't you think women are given a little more lattitude these days in general?
I don't know who's to blame for the lower acceptance of bi-men; whether it's straight men or straight women, I don't know. People reading this might question how straight women would have any ability to direct scorn towards bi men, but, if you really think about it, a bisexual man doesn't necessarily need to put up with a woman and her "needs." As such, bi men represent a threat of sorts, or at the very least, can create resentment in women.
It's fairly obvious, and it's also been beaten into the ground why straight men dislike bisexual men, so I needn't discuss it in detail. I'm sure someone else probably has, or soon will.
2006-09-21 04:18:51 · answer #2 · answered by *I CURED My Yellow Teeth* 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Based on my observation, bi-women, real or fake, are only "accepted", because they serve some fetish/ fantasies for straight men. Bt on hindsight, don't u think it's more demeaning for bi-women rather than bi-men? Being viewed as objects, it's actually a patriachical society's twisted way of 'putting women bk in their place', sub-conciously.
Trust me, honey, bi/ lesbian women DON'T have it any easier than u; in reality the situation's much worse- having to risk harassment, abuse, sexism etc once you're open abt yr sexuality as a woman. And not helping things much, as Alphaba noted, are the 'fakers'- further reinforcing 'lesbian' stereotypes, if u know what i mean. Bt of course, that's not to belittle what you probably went thru bcos of who u are; discrimination is ugly. But perhaps you need a few more like-minded friends? Power by numbers, as the saying goes :-) I'm not much of an expert in this lol, bt u can try gaydar.com.
2006-09-21 07:08:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excusing the first few "answers" which aren't answers because they don't answer the question and instead are irrelevant comments. What's being said by others is to a certain extent truthful. That in society, bi-sexual women are more accepted than bi-sexual men due to a number of reasons. First off, it's more accepted because it's more commonly seen. Secondly, straight men find bi-sexual women or women who claim to be "bi" titilating for whatever reason when they are making out or engaging in other activities.
This fixation on two women making out or doing other things is more prominant in society than to say finding a woman who is attracted to seeing two guys making out. In fact I thought for the longest time that it wasn't possible for that to happen and then I came across someone who actually liked seeing that sort of thing.
I would also it's possible that bi-women are more accepted because the sexual acts involved between two women (mechanical aids not withstanding) aren't as envasive or viewed to be as envasive as sexual acts between men
Whatever the case, it goes back to public perception due influences in media and other sources. Not only in this country but in other countries, even ones where sexuality is viewed to be more fluid and open in that there is something about a man being bi that isn't as accepted as if a woman is bi.
Fact is, you only know yourself and one can't be pressured into a particular corner if you don't feel that way. The fact is you are who you are and it takes a long time for things to settle.
Ignore the naysayers and hecklers. Fact is, for the most part one's oreintation has no bearing in one's daily life and activities. It's no one's business other than yourself and whoever your with. I admit it takes strength to make a stand as to who you are and it's far easier to say one thing than to do the other.
2006-09-21 09:55:05 · answer #4 · answered by tryoutcle 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't have to be 50/50. A person can be attracted to both sexes but has a preference for example it could be women- 70%, men- 30%.
2016-03-27 00:50:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, I think the reason is that (now please don't start geting all mad about this - it's just my opinion) most people (well, at least most men) find the thought of 2 women together sexy. If the woman is Bi, then they seem to think they may have a chance of a threesome with them and another woman. I know that sounds shallow - but most people who think that way are.
I think that most women (and I could be wrong on this one, but at least the women I know say this) don't find the thought of 2 men together as sexy.
I may be completely wrong in this one, but that's just what I gather from things I see going on around me. I personally, have no problem with bi men or women. It doesn't change who you are, it just changes who you have sex with! If you don't like that a man likes to sleep with both men and women, then don't sleep with him - that's it - plain and simple.
Sorry - I didn't mean to get on a rant here - I'm just tired of people judging others while thinking that they are just perfect.
Good luck with finding people open minded enough to see you for who you are - not who you sleep with. I know they exist - I'm one of them.
2006-09-21 04:23:18 · answer #6 · answered by Angela 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Gay men are told y'all will cheat on them, straight women also get that with a generous helping of "and he'll leave you with a disease!" I think that's the problem right there.
Also, some suspicious-looking recent research claims that men can't be bi.
I, however, know better. I dated a bi man, and if he was really one thing or the other, I nominate him for a Genitalia Academy Award!
Other bi people, I'm sure, will be happy to meet you. Maybe a bi group meets in your local gay community center. Maybe you should try to start one if there isn't. (An ad in any "alternative" paper could do it.) There are also a lot of bisexual groups here at Yahoo! that will help you network, learn about resources, and meet people.
2006-09-21 04:27:37 · answer #7 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is hard to say why! Society can be so harsh on anyone with a different lifestyle. I am a bi-woman and it is hard to find someone to connect with sometimes! Two women giving one another affection has always been more accepted in society, as opposed to two guys. I'm not sure why; but it is true. That made it so easy for me to have girl on girl trysts when I was a teen. Girls get naked together, shower together, and spend endless hours hold up in their bedrooms with other girls! I never could have done that with boys!! My Mom would have freaked!! But, with my girl friends, no problem!! She never even thought twice!! Isn't that funny? She was so concerned with me being promiscuous with boys, and I was having sex all along!!! LOL
2006-09-21 04:38:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm straight so I cant advise you on anything to do with being bi but I can let you know that every straight person isn't as narrow minded as some, each to their own I think. A person should not be judged on their preference of company. I think its a matter of trial and error just as it is with us straights, we could walk into a bar and chat with someone and they are a really nice person but for every nice person there tends to be 2 awful people, just take it all in your stride and remember negative people don't deserve any of your worry or time, its hard to meet like minded people if your bi, straight or gay but some how they come along. good-luck honey.
2006-09-21 04:27:50 · answer #9 · answered by jam 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No one in my family knows I'm Bi, I don't even think all my friends know. I believe men are the ones that are less likely to accept it in men then women. its the whole fantasy thing, Guys want to see two women at it even be added to the mix but the idea of 2 men at it is repulsive to them. Basically they are not attracted to men therefor they don't like it
2006-09-21 04:20:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋