I have just discovered that my partner has joined a gay website. What do I do ????? Do I confront him with what I know or do I wait and catch him out. In profile he has he says he is bi-sexual. He works nightshift with his job. I work during the day so we don`t get much time together. Please please help.......
2006-09-21 04:06:43 · 30 answers · asked by floss012002 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
As a bi women I think dude should have been honest up front and well bring it up in convesatin casually and see how he reacts and if he is and u are not comfortable with that then sista gal move on.
2006-09-21 04:18:18 · answer #1 · answered by Tumi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes confront him. Before you do get all the facts. Make sure you tell him what you found out. If he is bi-sexual you will forever have problems in your relationship. It would be better for you just to break it off with him because he will always cheat on you. Try to break it off as a friendship with him. Just tell him you can not have a relationship with a bi-sexual. I am not telling you what to do, it is up to you!
2006-09-21 04:13:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the thing here is that he's not bi, he's just gay and your trying to find someway to understand it by thinking he's simply bi.
If he were bi why is he not joining a bi web-site?
Maybe this is something he is coming to terms with and he may
not have got round his feeling towards members of the same sex yet. Just try asking him, if he is bi-sexual as you think maybe there are paths you can take together, but if he's gay then you and him need to realise this, if he loves you he'll understand your feelings and why you felt the need to ask him.
2006-09-21 04:19:34 · answer #3 · answered by Ben S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean, you think he is bi? The situation is as clear as it could be. You have all the evidence you need to tell you that he is gay. Is it acceptable to you that he is trying to solicit the attention of other gays? If you are happy to share your partner with another person then jump for joy and make the best of it. Alternatively, dump him now. No further explanation is needed. He is guilty.
2006-09-21 07:13:52 · answer #4 · answered by Chilli P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being bi-sexual. The only trouble is, in his 'other' relationship, there is always the possibility of getting a disease that he could transmit to you. If he admits he does have sex with men, drop him. However, if he is just curious, there is still hope the relationship can be saved. But you need to have a hard and seriuos discussion with him. Don't prolong the agony.
2006-09-21 04:26:39 · answer #5 · answered by son of the South 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him ... but be tactful!
Maybe you could invite a male friend over, have a few drinks and suggest a 3some ... I don't think you'll catch him out unless you either employ a private detective to follow him or take a week off work and follow him yourself - but there's no guarantee you'll find anything out.
Does it really bother you that much? If you went for the 3some route, you'd get twice as much bedroom fun as you're getting now ;-)
2006-09-21 04:12:03 · answer #6 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no real need to confront him, nor is there a reason to try and catch him out and about with another man. Do you really need to live through such drama? I suggest that you and he call it quits. Find someone who fits your schedule and your interests -
It may be hard to break up - but if he's looking for something else or something more, then its time you started looking too.
2006-09-21 04:12:50 · answer #7 · answered by beauty_of_crime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems such as you have 0 self belief in your self and your relationship. seem interior your self as that's you. If without postpone your substantial different has found out that he in no longer completely gay, then, that's as much as the two one among you to artwork it out. you're able to be able to desire to understand that human beings, even fans, lie and conceal their utmost secrets and techniques.you're able to be able to lose him to the bi-worldwide or he could go without postpone. It happens continuously. without postpone couples go interior the path of the comparable element or maybe although one or the different isn't bi, an incredible type of them stray with the comparable gender. Love is complicated between adults, and would not artwork out yet approximately 40 5% of the time. in simple terms seem on the divorce stats.
2016-10-15 06:24:30 · answer #8 · answered by mathison 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, yea... he's bi alright! Well, depends on how you feel about it. If you are committed to a monogomous relationship, then him being with anyone else regardless of sex is not acceptable AND NOT SAFE!!!!! I think you should talk to him, not confront him. Tell him your suspicions and if he comes clean than decide what u want to do from there, if he lies dump his *** anyway!!!
2006-09-21 04:11:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on it bothers you that he is bi sexual or not if it does then i think you should just leave but even if it dosent bother you he has still lied to you and has tried to go behind your back cheating is cheating even if it is with the same sex. if i was you i would tell him that you seen his profile on the computer and take it from there if you dont say anything then its just going to eat you up. well good luck with whatever you choose to do.
2006-09-21 04:11:13 · answer #10 · answered by sar sar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋