I have already apologized for treating him badly. I am trying very hard to be patient. He says he still loves me but is unsure if I will go back to being nasty to him again and is scared of going through that hell again. I have sent ecards, loving e-mails, I tell him I love him and miss him, and I have been there to help him when he needs it since he is studying for a big test right now. He is being so distant, I just wondered if anyone had any creative ideas of what to do that will get his attention and let him know I am really in love with him.
2006-09-21 03:50:38 · 14 answers · asked by lady_reed_03 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have not changed in the sense that I am acting in a new way. I am back to my old self, the one he fell in love with. I went through a long period of depression and took it out on him. Now I want him to know that horrible time is over and I am back to the old me.
2006-09-21 03:59:33 · update #1
I know he is the one. We have been together for over 5 years, so this isn't a fly by night relationship. Yes I am over my depression that lasted for about 2 years and it was not overnight, it took about a year to get where I am now.
2006-09-21 04:16:17 · update #2
Leave him alone and give him some space in which to think, wait til after his test is over before you hit him up with any kind of 'big talk' about loving him, and wanting to change, if you leave him alone anyway, this will give HIM time to think about what he wants and gives him a chance to miss you. Remember, if you set something free and it comes back to you, it is yours. Please DO the latter.
2006-09-21 03:55:25 · answer #1 · answered by odafintutuola 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You tortured him and now you want him back on your terms? What gives you that right? Sounds pretty self-centered, the kind of self-centred behavior that drove him away in the first place. You question is all about you. No wonder he left.
You email, letters and talk are just talk. If you want different results, you are going to have to do different things.
You will also need to live with the possibility that you have done damage that is beyond repair.
2006-09-21 13:35:34 · answer #2 · answered by adamsjrcn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem a bit obsessed with him. You ever think that may be the problem?What you could do is take this time for yourself & work on some of your issues. If you truly love someone then you would'nt treat them nasty or put them through hell.
Just so you're aware, respect for yourself & others is the ultimate way to prove love.
So my creative suggestion, get help for your self & remember patience is a virtue!
2006-09-21 10:58:16 · answer #3 · answered by Lee Ann M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop trying. Forget about it. Just start dating him. When and if you two can like each other again, you will be back together. So, act as though you both are dating. After all, you enjoyed it when you met, and it'll be easier now, because you know each other. Do things you enjoy with each other. Just work on the friend part.
2006-09-21 11:00:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think/feel that he's the love of your life?
Step back and give both YOU and HE some space to find out who you are yourself..........and what it is you truly want. In the same token, that gives him the opportunity to do the same.
If that scares you, to think you may lose him.....then it's not the real thing to begin with.
2006-09-21 11:10:03 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to prove to him that you've changed your ways is to just be the best person that you can be to him each and every day. Emails, cards and gifts won't get his love and affection back...but being a loving and caring woman will.
2006-09-21 10:53:12 · answer #6 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants space. Your problem is that you think you can win him back. He has to decide to come back. Nothing you do will change that. So be patient and wait.
2006-09-21 10:54:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him you will go to counseling , that will show him that you are really serious about changing. then try everything you can to make him remember why yall fell in love in the first place. good luck
2006-09-21 10:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit trying to fool him and yourself. Once people have to start changing and proving it to the other person the relationship goes in the crapper!
2006-09-21 10:55:35 · answer #9 · answered by teenypurplebinky 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most leopards never change their spots.....he isn't buying the "I have changed" line one bit...and all the cards and emails in the world wont change that fact. Move on. He has.
2006-09-21 10:58:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋