Okay so twice now my older brother has e-mailed my boyfriend threw my space and basically telling him if you hurt my sister I will kill you. And using the word kill and other really wrong words. My boyfriend has never once done anything wrong. I know we live 3000 miles apart. But not once has my brother taken the time to e-mail my boyfriend to get to know him. When my brother was visting in august he never once bothered to sit down with me and even ask me to questions. I know some people think its not a big deal but to me and my friend it is. He has never once done anything wrong. In Novemeber he is even takeing time to comeout to cali to meet with my family so they can get to know him before I move with him. But to me its just not fair. I dont know what to do. But I think its really wrong for someone to go and threaten someones life. IN the two e-mails you can tell my brother was not joking either. Someone please give me some advice on what to do. Thank you so much.
2006-09-21 03:39:40 · 6 answers · asked by sweetone12 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The thing is I have told him oh I felt. I understand he is being the big brother but still there are a lot better ways then basically saying I will hunt you down and kill you. Its just wrong.
2006-09-21 03:45:08 · update #1
The way my parents think about it is obvisiouly he is not going to hurt me if I spent 2 weeks with him and come back happier then I had ever been. Ive know my b/f for like 4 years over the internet and he come to cali 9 months for a family vacation and we just took the chance to meet and feel in love.
2006-09-21 04:07:43 · update #2
Wow I met my wife on-line and her whole family had it out for me. If you are in a close family where you guys spend a lot of time together any outsider will be met with some hostility. You have to let you big bro know that you will be going one day with him or some other guy and that he needs to calm down and give the guy just enough room to talk for a bit before they call in the hit man. Also make sure your met and spend a lot of face to face time with this dude before you just up and decide to move in with him. That scared the hell out of my Chic's family when she started talking about leaving. I had to move close to her to prove my point that I wanted her to be safe in the eyes of her family. She was in Pittsburgh I was in Chicago. Good luck it took me 5 years to get them to like me. If your guys is willing to keep throwing himself to the lions for you hes a keeper.
2006-09-21 03:57:49 · answer #1 · answered by Chivalry77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and have a talk with your brother. Tell him you know that he is doing it only to protect you cuz he loves you. Tell him that he has gotten it across to your b/f now. Also tell him that if he loves you and wants you to be happy then you would like him to get to know the b/f better as a person that you love and want to spend the rest of your life with. Good luck.
2006-09-21 10:46:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend to change his email, tell your brother that it is your life and in this day and age a woman can take care of herself. I think he is jealous if he has no reason to threaten the dude i would get on to him bad, My brother would never ever do that **** to me cuz he knows that I can take care of myself and I dont need a big brother to decide my choices for me..I am my own person, you need to tell your brother that when your boyfriend does something you disapprove of then you can run your mouth until then shut up and live your own life...hope this helps
2006-09-21 10:44:05 · answer #3 · answered by LUCKYGIRL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should try totalk to your brother and have your boyfriend prove to him that he hasnt not and wont hurt you. you just got to keep telling your brother and resuring him that your boyfriend wont hurt you...that is basically all you can do right now...worst to comes to worst you might have to report him for sending threating emails to him but i dont think you want to do that so basically all you can do is talk to him or have your parents talk to him. i know how you feel about a family member not approving of the guy you love. Good Luck!!
2006-09-21 10:46:10 · answer #4 · answered by crazybayb20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps, your brother sees, knows or feels something amiss in your boyfriend that you don't. You know we tend to see what we wat to see, and not what we need to see, when we're in love. Your brother is looking out for you. That's a good thing. I wish my daughters had a brother to protect them from the evils of thie world. I say don't let it cause a strain on your relationship with your brother, it's better to let sleeping dogs lie until you need to wake them up. Meaning if you should ever need him, you want him to be there.
2006-09-21 11:00:27 · answer #5 · answered by sleepingbeauty123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's doing what any brother would do... if it bugs you that much, then you have to tell your brother exactly how u feel
2006-09-21 10:42:25 · answer #6 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋