I'm not talking about not being interested in them sexually, or not appreiciating their physical beauty, but is there some other thing (personality, attitude, etc) about women (or certain types of women) that bothers you in some way?
2006-09-21 03:30:36 · 14 answers · asked by *I CURED My Yellow Teeth* 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
See Jayelle, that's the attitude I guess I'm referring to. I overheard two gay guys saying stuff about these two women, and that's what prompted my question.
Your answer only serves to reinforce their comments.
2006-09-21 03:35:59 · update #1
I don't believe so, my Dear One, but I'm a lesbian who gets along well with most people. Some days the seeming shallowness of the "fashionable" crowd gets me (I could just shake some people) but other wise, I'm good. Blessings!
2006-09-21 04:38:13 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rarely have I seen this. However, I would not be truthful if I said that I have not noticed a few such fellows on my journey in life. Every once and a while, you'll find a man who wants absolutely nothing to do with women -- he has been "had" by a woman in his past and he judges all women by that one person (whether other women be straight, lesbian, or bi -- it makes no difference to men like this). Such fellows may even blame the woman who rejected them for their entry into the gay lifestyle.
And yes, I sometimes too hear gay men bash lesbians. I must admit, I am very surprised by this kind of behavior. I sometimes think it is a gay good ol' boy thing similar to a straight good 'ol boy thing. There are a lot of similarities between gay and straight men sometimes, so don't kid yourself. Men are men and sometimes the worst comes out in them, no matter their orientation.
2006-09-21 06:57:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I think that gay men are so funny...
I personally do not have a problem with the female gender; in fact, I love them more than I do gay men (and yes, I am gay). I was raised to be a gentleman and to treat women with respect, especially when it comes to "courting" them (tactics that I now use towards the male end of the species), so I guess that is one reason I never had a problem with it.
Specifically, there could be reasons for me to not like a person, but I would not dislike a whole gender based solely on the facts of my sexual preference.
Heh... on the turn around of this subject, I hate a lot of gay men, mainly the ones who feel as if it's best for them to act as a female just because they like men.
2006-09-21 04:55:42 · answer #3 · answered by skullosvibe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well frankly I believe every woman is beautiful in her own way. I really am that guy who will approach a stranger and compliment her on perhaps her walk of confidence, hair, clothing, make-up, etc.... However; what I don't like about many women are the way or should I say the lack of caring for their own persona. Women in generally tend to have a concept that its not important to have a persona of their own. Perhaps, its in indoctrinated in them from childhood.
In essence I'm speaking to the scenario; where you are at a party and someone does an introduction as follow: "Hi this is Dr. X and his wife". The implication is the husband is smart, graduate studied, medical, ambitious, etc. On the other hand, the woman is just the wife. I really think its time for women (straight/bi/lesbian) to start becoming more in tune with themselves.
2006-09-21 04:47:19 · answer #4 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've known some "women hating" gay men, but they are not the majority. Many of my gay male acqaintences love their women friends.
My partner has a friend, who actually was her boyfriend in high school, but they both came out as gay eventually, but I'm getting off subject.
Anyway, her friend and his partner throw a Christmas party every year. They invite all their closest friends and relatives. Most of them are other gay male couples. Most of these couples are really nice, friendly and openly interact with my partner and I.
But there is this one couple who refuses to interact with us in any way more than a polite nod or grin. Other than that they only associate with the other males at the party.
This happens every year, the same way. My partner is completely oblivious to this and I've never really made mention of it to her. But my son noticed it and asked me about it.
He asked if I or my partner had somehow pissed them off because they seemed not to be very friendly to us. I let him know that there are rare gay males who simply want no relationship with women, gay women or not. They simply don't associate with them.
I don't know why, I don't know what causes it. I just know it does happen although infrequently.
I've also noticed that these "women hating" gay men truly resent that I have a child.
The couple in question at our friend's Christmas party NEVER even acknowledge my son's existence. They treat him as if he's some creature that they're afriad may carry disease.
As if they might catch HETEROSEXUALITY from him.
It pisses me off, but I really do my best to ignore it. My son has always been welcome in our friends homes, and has always been invited to our friend's Christmas party. He's always extremely well behaved, friendly, and sort of the leader of the kids interactions. He tends to keep the other kids out of the adults way and really gets them to work together with different activities.
So, needless to say, this makes for a really great party for everyone...except these two guys.
I can't help but to think that they don't see me as a "real lesbian" because I'm a "breeder" in their eyes.
Oh well, their loss.
I get along great with everyone else at the party though.
2006-09-21 05:24:07 · answer #5 · answered by DEATH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never seen that. In my expereince gay guys get along well with women and often have them as friends. Undoubtedly some gay men probably don't like women much. Some straight men are serious misogynists. Some women don't even like their own kind. So, probably.
2006-09-21 04:37:11 · answer #6 · answered by inquiringmind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I've understood it, there are gay men who admire female beauty but in a much different way than straight men. They're even in the women's beauty business (the late Kevyn Aucoin is one example), as hairdressers, and of course the fashion world.
2006-09-22 14:30:08 · answer #7 · answered by daryavaush 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. Some individuals may harbor those feelings, but I don't see it as a common attitude amongst gays at all.
What about straight men that abuse girlfriends and spouses? That kind of hatred doesn't seem to be particularly rare.
2006-09-21 03:39:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what type of gay men you know. Some of my best friends are gay women.....I love their physical beauty their personalities and their attitudes......I think women are great.
2006-09-21 06:12:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, i think women have a pretty good personality, compared to most guys. They are generally more caring and understanding.
2006-09-21 05:52:25 · answer #10 · answered by Travis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋