i keep on thinking that ishould sleep with other guys coz eventually hel cheat. advice?
2006-09-21 03:30:26 · 39 answers · asked by titties 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
am 25, and really sleeping around will not make me awhore am just too libral though ilove my guy, its just a question of how differnt are they and later even if he cheated i wouldnt feel it
2006-09-21 03:48:09 · update #1
Sounds to me like you aren't ready for a relationship.
It isn't a good reason to cheat on your boyfriend because you think he'll eventually cheat on you. Or even because he *did* cheat on you.
If you want to cheat on him, that means you aren't as committed to him as you thought you were. It might be best to break things off with him.
If he actually *has* cheated on you, it's probably a good idea to split because he isn't as committed to you as you thought he was.
But cheating to get even is immature. Deal with the relationship you're in first. If you end it and then see other guys, it won't be cheating.
2006-09-21 03:37:07 · answer #1 · answered by johntadams3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheating causes severe pain and lowers your own self esteem b/c you know you were weak and dishonest. Your own values probably tell you to be honest.
It will also cause pain to break up with him - but at least your side of the street is clean. You were honest. His emotions are not your responsibility as long as you stay honest.
But to sleep with other guys b/c he'll eventually cheat is insane. It most likely stems from seeded emotional issues from pain you have experienced as a child.
If you feel the need to "sleep with other guys," rather than build a trusting and supportive relationship with other people, it would be a good idea to get some therapy.
OK?
2006-09-21 03:37:29 · answer #2 · answered by toaster4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite frankly, i think this is a pretty piss-poor attitude. If you believe he will cheat eventually, then why are you with him at all? You have no trust, and no communication. Without those two things you have NO relationship, just two people hanging out together and having sex.
Cheating is cheating, PERIOD. It ALWAYS leads to hurt feelings, anger, resentment, etc.
If you truly love him as you say you do, you can discuss all these feelings with him. Perhaps, you may even want to discuss the possibility of a "swinging" or "open relationship" sort of lifestyle to satisfy your obvious need for variety. And yes, I said YOUR need for variety, not his. Trying to put this off on his eventual but inevitable cheating is merely you meand of rationalizing and justifying your desire to explore outside your current situation.
Hope this helps.
Paul
2006-09-21 05:02:11 · answer #3 · answered by Paul S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're cheating on him even though you're not married. Especially, if you have a committed relationship. Say for instance you cheated and then got married and he found out and wanted a divorce? Have you thought about the consequences? If he finds out before you ever find out if he's cheated or not, you have to live with what you've done. It ain't worth it.
2006-09-21 04:45:36 · answer #4 · answered by mschocolatemocha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you thinking girl? Because your cheating, your trying to suggest he will too? I suggest you NOT have a boyfriend if your a cheat, that way your free to date with, sleep with who you choose, and then not be labled a "cheater".
NOT all men cheat! Not all women cheat!
It takes time and work to build a decent trusting and loving relationship, and your just not ready.
2006-09-21 03:35:10 · answer #5 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sleep with as many guys as is possible. Just make sure to use protection. And don't STOP using protection just because you have screwed the same guy like 3 times, always vigilant or you will end up with herpes or worse.
2006-09-21 04:24:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it really him or you? i mean sometimes we get with people that we know will not be the one we want to settle with. maybe you jumped the gun to quickly with the guy your currently with. maybe your just not ready for a committed relationship and there is nothing wrong with that.
honesty is always the best. some people can take it and some can't but as long as you know you did the right thing before going out there and causing unnecessary pain then you should be okay.
2006-09-21 03:34:08 · answer #7 · answered by jstalitbit29 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have a boyfriend then. If you want to sleep around be single. Not all men cheat by the way.
2006-09-21 03:31:48 · answer #8 · answered by apriljm76 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's not really your boyfriend if you're sleeping around. He's just another swinging dick, but one with a special place in the roster.
Do both of you a favor, if you want to sleep around break up with him. It will only cause pain later if you don't.
Don't call anyone your boyfriend unless you are exclusive and committed to them.
2006-09-21 03:35:09 · answer #9 · answered by spanier88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to beat him to the punch! Sounds like you have trust issues! Has he given you any reason to think he will cheat on you? Talk to someone about your fears and maybe that will help. as your relationship gets stronger maybe you will start to feel more secure! good luck!!
2006-09-21 03:34:54 · answer #10 · answered by hillbilly wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋