I recently met up with a school friend, two weeks later we got a flat to share. She's become quite close to my sister and told her one night that I take drugs. My sister ran to my parents who demanded i take a drug test and go see a shrink. I forgave her as thought she had my best interest in mind. Since then she's been reporting my social life to my sister. Now she's moved out to live with my sister to whom i don't speak either, and is saying that she's tired of "my rubbish". I have up to this point been completely understanding but now I feel she's out of order and i shouldn't have bothered wanting to be her friend.
Should i have cut her out of my life for going to my parents about my drug taking?
2006-09-21 03:29:13 · 26 answers · asked by SusanG 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I've been in the exact same situation. I ended up taking the drug test to prove I wasn't on drugs. Since I wasn't doing drugs, I just cut the person out of my life. Life is hard enough without other people creating problems for you.
If you are doing drugs, you should be honest with your parents and let them help you. Don't stay mad at your friend for wanting to get you help.
2006-09-21 03:32:14 · answer #1 · answered by alisha_kelly 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should cut contact with the bi*ch she has been nothing but trouble from the day you met up with her, shes different to you! just because you were friends years ago does not mean that you should be best buddies, even if your family think the sun shines out of her ****, and concentrate on making amends with your sister, at the end of the day family are always there for you friends come and go... about the drugs take in moderation life IS too short why live a boring one :)
2006-09-21 05:21:35 · answer #2 · answered by Edharder7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the long run my friend she was probably acting in your best interests.now whether she did it for you or her own reasons is irrelevant really. the point is if you were taking drugs did you do something about it or are you prepared to?.She has found a friend in your sister and it seems to me that your sister is maybe one here with the motive. you don't speak yet she persuades your mate to move in with her.people make mistakes in their lives, we are human, the important thing is do we learn anything from them or not. Your friends and parents need to have you be honest and open with them. should you have kicked her out your life, well in my opinion no, whatever her motives she gave you the opportunity to get drug free by facing the problem, by others knowing. you sound like an intelligent lady, don't waste this chance, get of the drugs and start meeting real friends and let people see the real you. good luck
2006-09-21 03:35:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why'd you have to go and do it in the first place?!? That wasn't very smart. But I'm not here to criticize. The best course of action, obviously, is for you to QUIT whether you want to or not, which I would imagine it would be really difficult for you. If your parents do find out, I dont know about how your parents are, but stay calm and agree to everything they say. Don't fuss or fight back; that will create more problems. If they punish you, take the punishment. And then quit. And you need to keep your friends, unless they don't want u anymore. But keeping them will help you change back. *Don't do anything impulsive and rash. Don't commit suicide/hurt your friends.
2016-03-27 00:48:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No... she did you a favor... but you don't seem to have a clue about the seriousness of taking drugs... You said you once forgave her for telling your sister... well you got that back ways...
You should be thanking her instead... and be thankful she is/was your friend... She does have your best interest in mind... but you don't seem to have any interest in yourself or well being...
2006-09-21 04:10:05 · answer #5 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People talk if you dont do drugs your concerns are in the wrong direction. I've been accused of drugs for several years --- and thats only because I dont share my personal life with others therefore negative people without a purpose lack the knowledge. to make them feel they are on top they accuse --- They can't approve because they are continuously guessing about what makes you tick.
2006-09-21 03:35:29 · answer #6 · answered by Tired of lies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she did the right thing telling your family about you taking drugs as I can understand that you do,even you like it or not..Don't you know it's not good for you??They'll kill you soon enough..
That is a real friend for me..To have the courage telling the truth and helping someone when he really needs you..
2006-09-21 03:34:32 · answer #7 · answered by Elli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,your parents had a right to know,they are the ones who love you unconditionally.her behavior towards you after is not fair.Her moving out to go live with your sister,is not considered to being a good friend.A good friend would be there for you not turn their back on you.You are probably better off without her.
2006-09-21 03:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by Carline B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Narcing on you may have been well intentioned, but when she followed through by keeping a log book on your social life, she stepped over the line. Thank your lucky stars she moved out, but move on yourself. Breaking off communication is your call, but consider it a lesson learned. B.
2006-09-21 03:35:18 · answer #9 · answered by Brian M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, that depends, did you take drugs or was she just lying? maybe she was trying to help you if you were, if you wern't doing anything wrong, then stay away from her and hope your sister doesnt have to deal with the same lies and crap she dished out to you! once a liar, always a liar, she will show her true colors soon enough,, they cannot help themselves.
2006-09-21 03:33:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋