Me and my husband decided to have a threesome and my husband is really good at picking girls up trust me. well I am not Ive never picked anyone up in my life and I and we decided on this girl and I really dont know what to say to get things going she seems like she is attracted to my husband but Im not sure if she is attracted to me. what should I do or say.
2006-09-21 03:22:54 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Introducing a relationship to polygamy is fraught with problems including trust, self esteem, etc. You risk eroding the fundamental principles of the relationship itself. Some people can make an open lifestyle work for their relationship. However, both people have to be brought into it strongly and both people have to be secure in their love, trust and sexuality.
2006-09-21 19:36:13 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i have read the other answers giving to you and i can agree with those who say that a threesome is best done when all parties are single.
it sounds good in conversation but the actual act can be devistating. Really! It starts off okay...maybe you play a little high school game called truth or dare...get a little tipsy so you can relax then you start getting into it...then you realize your husband is paying more attention to the other girl than you...and she is paying more attention to your husband than you...then comes the feeling of being inadequate. then you see yourself sitting on the side of the bed watching your husband and the woman he picked up getting it on. Next, your outside the room pacing the floor waiting hours until they finally finish. And when they do your husband doesn't even notice that you were not involved.
What comes next...couples counceling!
it's not a safe thing to do.
if your really comfortable with doing this make sure you both pick a woman. not just your husband. and make sure she is as into women as she is into men.
IT COULD BE A TRAP SO PLEASE BE VERY CAREFUL!
2006-09-21 03:55:15 · answer #2 · answered by jstalitbit29 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
threesomes are fun. They're also a great way to destroy a relationship. Threesomes are like quite a few things in life: best if done at the proper time in life, in this case, before marriage. If your husband is so good at picking girls (something which you should worry about, not be proud of, as you seem to be ;-), how come he never managed to pick two up in his single life, and do threesomes back then?
go ahead if you want, but be careful, threesomes and married couples often lead to trouble.
2006-09-21 03:25:49 · answer #3 · answered by AntoineBachmann 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
My wife is attrcated to women, we toyed with trying a threesome but decided it wouldnt work well for us. The problem being if the idea is that he would like to watch you and the other girl its awfully tough for him not to get involved, if the idea is for him to participate that could lead to hard feelings or mistrust after the fact. What worked for us was to find other couples that had the same interests, girls play, guys watch.
The main things are that BOTH of you are comfortable going in, You both agree to what is OK and what isnt, the other people invloved know what the rules are befor hand.
It has been great for us and weve met some great lifelong friends. We've seen other couples that it was great for and others that it was a disaster.
2006-09-21 03:52:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try just inviting her over. I would say to arrange three invites for her to come over.
On the first invitation, just talk, relax, make sure you're all mingling and the chemestry is good. See if she seems attracted to your husband in an intimate setting with just the three of you there, and if she does, exploit that. Try to bring the conversation to sexual topics, but don't make it overt. Just see how she responds and take it a step at a time.
On the second invitation, you try to spend more time with her, and see if she is open to you. Try to get some time alone, just you and her, while your husband gets the refreshments and such.
Then, on the third, start out with both of you very mildly flirting with her, and see who she responds to better. Let the one she responds to better end up alone with her for stretches of a few minutes, and at some point the other will come in and find them in some kind of mildly comprimising position... just join in.
2006-09-21 04:31:10 · answer #5 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than likely she is going to do it because of your husband.
And honestly, I don't know what to tell you...I think threesomes in marriage is a sign that things are either A--going to get really bad, soon due to the emotional havoc it causes or B--things are already headed in a bad direction if you need to resort to this kind of activity...
Sorry I couldn't help you more.
GoodLuck
2006-09-21 03:29:47 · answer #6 · answered by my_lil_buttercups 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just come right out and tell her what you and hubby are looking for. That should give you an idea about where her's are.
Have you tried 2 men and just you, or is that out of the question for your hubby?
If the girl is open to it, and is attracted to your husband, she may go ahead and do it, and take him on down the road with her!!!
2006-09-21 04:16:55 · answer #7 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 some is a form of open marriage. Open marriage typically refers to a marriage in which the partners agree that each is free to engage in extramarital sexual relationships, without regarding this as sexual infidelity. In you case you both agreed that you will have sex together with 3rd person.
Researchers have estimated that between 1.7 percent and 6 percent of married people are involved in open marriages.
You must however take into the account that all open marriages share common issues: the lack of social acceptance, the need to maintain the relationship as a couple, and the need to manage jealous rivalry. It is very serious decision to start such change in your marriage and you should think it over, Most open marriage fail.
2006-09-21 03:54:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, are you comfortable with this situation? Second, did your husband pick this girl out for himself, or for the both of you? My wife and I enjoy threesomes, but I let her pick the girl, I don't, that way there is a common interest.
2006-09-21 03:26:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a no no, your husband is married to you, even if you go in for that sort of thing he should ask your opinion. It seems from what you say you are not very interested in a 3 some, just going along with your husband to please him. I think you are right to be concerned, your husband married you, not every man and his dog.
Threesomes break marriages and freindships
2006-09-21 03:44:31 · answer #10 · answered by angle_of_deat_69 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋