I met this guy at church and we started out as friends. His former room mate is gay and wanted to play broke back mountain on him, So I was being nice and told him he could stay til he got on his feet. Well we ended up doing the wild thang and now he's like, "I love you, bla bla bla.." I don't really feel that way. He was supposed to help with rent and bills, I haven't gotten squat from him. He's very polite and nice, etc, So Nice that it makes it difficult to confront him. I don't want to hurt his feelings, but he's driving me nuts! He's a good person, but he really needs to get the lead out and get off his crack and get a job or move out...any advice?
2006-09-21 03:05:12 · 14 answers · asked by SB's cafe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sounds like your his official sugar momma. If you don't like the situation your in , give him 2 days to move out, or pay you what he owes. Forget the get a job thing. He will come up with all kinds of excuses and prolong your misery. Isn't that what lazy people do , make excuses.
2006-09-21 03:10:37 · answer #1 · answered by jassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you open the doors, and not only the doors, you gave him more than that. Do the wild thing with him again and he is going to end up kicking you out.
Give him a 3 day notice to pay rent or quit, if he does not respond in three days, give him the 30 day notice to vacate. If he does not respond in 30 days, start a summons detainer on him.
Check your state eviction Laws before the summons detainer procedure.
Or just yell at him to the top of your lungs and you might not even go trough the eviction process.
Good luck.
2006-09-21 03:16:54 · answer #2 · answered by Mother of three 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him straight up that you need help with the bills and that why you were willing tohave a roommate and help him out at the same time. Tell him that you guys are just friends despite of what happened and that if he can´t pay his share unfortunately you will have to look for another roommate... You can be honest and straight forward without being rude ;) Good lucl
2006-09-21 03:09:48 · answer #3 · answered by jo_anna1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been on both sides of this situation. the best thing you can do is be honest with him. tell him exactly what your needs are and that they must be met or he leaves you no choice but to do what you have to do. just make sure you do it right. when you allow someone to live in your place you have to go by the same rules as renter to leasee. you have to give him a 30 day notice. which should make it easier when telling him. have the notice in your hand so he knows your serious.
its complicated when you have crossed that sexual line with the person your suppose to just be roommates with. hey, he might just get so mad he leaves anyway...
2006-09-21 03:30:54 · answer #4 · answered by jstalitbit29 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a situation similar and here is how I handled it. Tell him that for financial reasons he needs to get a job so that he can help out with the bills or you need him to find another place to live so you can get a roommate that can assist you with the bills.
2006-09-21 03:08:56 · answer #5 · answered by taterhater420 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confusing difficulty. it must be confusing to stay with a pal and in case you stay there, the issue may be worse and also you may lose your pal. i do not imagine it truly is rude to move after 2 months, even with the indisputable fact that it must be incorrect to leave with out both searching some different person to take your position or paying your 1/2 of the employ till she unearths some different person to move in. i imagine i ought to also enable my pal have an element in figuring out on the roommate. I advise, she's the guy who'd ought to stay with them!! i imagine you're being very human being by making use of wondering this by before you're making any massive judgements. you could also opt to have a heart to heart along with your pal before you move because per chance if she realized that her moves were pushing you away, she'd supply up. in case you do not attempt to artwork this out first and merely tell her you're transferring out, properly, then she ought to correctly be damage and upset with you for no longer telling her so she ought to attempt to fix issues first. best of luck to you - i am hoping you're prepared to discover tremendous residing situations AND save your friendship!!
2016-11-23 12:52:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
polite doesn't pay the bills. Tell him just like you did there. Or better yet, just start talking about how high the bills are and the rent and car pymnt etc. if he's not a complete dullard hell catch on
2006-09-21 03:08:52 · answer #7 · answered by jthawk71@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a deadline. Say "Joe, you're a nice person, but unless you start contributing to the bills, in 2 weeks I'm going to have to ask you to leave" and then stick to your deadline. On that day, put his stuff in boxes & have the locks changed.
2006-09-21 03:08:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta do what's best for you. You can't spare anyone's feelings when it comes to things like this. Otherwise, he'll keep taking advantage of your weakness and continue to live off of you.
Tell him how you feel and maybe he'll starighten himself out. If not, tell him to hit the road
2006-09-21 03:08:27 · answer #9 · answered by bad_dog76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie u just answered ur own question......get off ur crack and get a job or move out?
2006-09-21 03:09:55 · answer #10 · answered by baby gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋