I recently had an affair with a married women, she is now pregnant but not sure if its mine or her husbands. When I asked her what if the baby is mine? she simply told me not to worry about it, she said that im young and don't need to have a kid right now. what do i do? do i just forget about the whole thing or what?
2006-09-21 02:49:38 · 11 answers · asked by ummm. 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
If you share your seed, you have a right to be identified as the child's biological father. Are you interested in that? Welcome to the world of adult living . . . great things sometimes happen when we're not paying attention. The ball is in your court. Will you sorrow later wondering if the baby is your offspring? Don't fret over the damage done to the woman's marriage, she took the lead in bringing that about (and is apparently old enough to know the ropes, eh?). The most important thing is learning the paternity of the baby. The baby has a right, too.
2006-09-21 02:54:50 · answer #1 · answered by Zeera 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The lady is right. You need not worry about it. More trouble will just come out if you insist on acknowledging the pregnancy that its your making. You've done enough harm already for having an affair with a married woman. Don't add any more problem. Forget about it, and start anew.
2006-09-21 10:03:41 · answer #2 · answered by ramona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the husband doesnt know about the affair, stop seeing her now!! leave it up to the married girl to do what she feels is right. The baby will be by all legal rights her husbands responsiblity unless she tells him and he leaves her. I would let her work it out how she feels fit.. Unless of course you want this baby, then i would wait until it is born and demand a paternity test but be prepared to take responsibilty if its yours.
2006-09-21 09:59:28 · answer #3 · answered by sea_sher 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I'd wait till she has the baby and then I'd ask for a paternity test. You don't have to get her husband involved until you know it's yours for sure. If turns out to be yours then do the right thing and make it a point to be in the baby's life but be aware that you will have to pay child support
2006-09-21 10:59:35 · answer #4 · answered by momie_2bee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, are you still having an affair? If you and her husband look different and the baby comes out looking like you, I think her husband might get suspicious. Just be prepared when the time comes.
2006-09-21 09:52:39 · answer #5 · answered by Cheeseball123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's review.........
You helped a woman cheat on her husband.
You had unprotected intercourse with her and she was having intercourse with her husband at the same time.
Now she is pregnant and tells you not to worry.
My question, when were you worried? When was SHE worried? Who's idea was it to have unprotected sex?
You are in a pickle for sure. First off, she does not know who the father is either!
You have two choices............stand up to your responsibility or back off permanently. Those are the only two choices I see. Either the story comes out or it stays hidden for a time. It will come out sooner or later. You made choices and now you must deal with the consequences.
You got to hope husband does not decide to end your life for playing house with his wife!
2006-09-21 10:02:44 · answer #6 · answered by DA R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i was you i forget about the whole affair .and her ..she is going to be nothing but trouble ..you seen the move GRADUATE .Dustin Hoffman ..with Mrs Robinson.??
but only worst you will have the problem of a kid or kids..
besides your braking up a marriage dump her best thing you can do..
2006-09-21 10:23:17 · answer #7 · answered by JJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one. Probably not one of the best decisions you have ever made. The right thing to do is to find out who is the baby's father. If it is yours, you need to be responsible for your actions and suppport it. Whether you choose to be in the child's life or not.
2006-09-21 09:52:54 · answer #8 · answered by misscongeniality711 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In an ideal world the husband would find out and off the both of you. I know I would. Then I would keep the kid and raise it. Enjoy the rest of your short life.
2006-09-21 10:59:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Breathe, pray & be thankful... ummm yes forget about the whole thing & go to confession.
2006-09-23 14:08:05 · answer #10 · answered by Schizo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋