2006-09-21 02:46:58 · 27 answers · asked by Clare 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Um, I've already slept with him but now wonder it was the right thing to do. He hasn't treated me any differently since we done it, but something is bugging me and i feel really guilty.
2006-09-21 03:02:08 · update #1
I don't think so. It depends. I would generally go with a gut feeling on whether or not to sleep with someone. On the first night is perhaps too soon if you want a relationship with the person. But a week is ok i think. It tells them you really like them without being easy.
2006-09-21 02:55:16 · answer #1 · answered by Kate1984 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel guilty as it must have felt right for you at the time. What's done is done and you can't undo it. At least you waited a week - many having sex on the first night. I know I am lady of mature years, but I met my now husband 3 years ago. We knew it was right and made love just 6 days after meeting. Why wait if its what you both want? I wish you all the luck in the world and hope this relationship works out for you, if that is what you would like it to.
2006-09-21 03:13:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a day, weeks, months, years...does not make any difference cause everyone goes at their own pace. Then reason to want to have sex should not be impluse, it should be because you think this person is someone you would like to know better or you both are so compatible. But if you just want sex ..then it's not going to last. If both parties understand that then it does not matter, it was just sex. If you both care about each other so much then you should really get to know him better before you jump in bed with him or her. Think about it...Lust rules but won't last. But if you wait and get to know the person, you will either really enjoy the person and it's mutual, the love making is even better and you both win!!!
2006-09-21 02:59:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the person.
In reality, if you're asking this question the answer is probably no.
Some people enjoy sleeping around and consider 1 hour long enough. Others will prefer to wait until their feelings grow etc.
There's no time limit on such things. It's whenever you both feel ready.
2006-09-21 02:50:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think sex should be saved for someone special. I am currently saving myself for my future wife. I have had sex in the past, in fact many times. In all those times i had sex pretty much inside the 1 week period. none of them worked. Y? well for one, i only wanted sex and didnt care for the others needs, i was selfish. In the girls i did like, having sex to early made it somehow difficult or not such a rush to be able to get to know that person inside out and to analyse our compatability. Something i think is important to have it worked out if u think she/he is worthwhile. They never were. I guess ive come along way from those days, my thinking has changed and along with it my priorities. But i think now, that if i could go back in time and actually stop myself from having sex until my wedding day, i would do it. I would feel proud i think, of being able to say to my wife that she is my only one. Not just that, but it would have saved me alot heartache and time wasting with chiks. i could of used that time to refine myself as a person, my goals, my personality, my interests. Sex isnt love. Love isnt selfish. Haha, ive really have changed. Thanks Lord!
2006-09-21 03:16:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think this bloke is the right one for you, you will know when the right time is to have sex. But be careful and make sure he is not using you to get what he wants and then has nothing more to do with you.
2006-09-21 02:53:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, of course it is, especially if you don't want to get pregnant. My sister always does that even before she knows the person, and one time she got pregnant and had to have an abortion. She only knew the guy for like three months!! If you don't want to go through all that trouble, I would wait.
2006-09-21 02:52:18 · answer #7 · answered by poeticjustice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends what sort of relationship you want? If you just want sex out of the rleationship that is fine, if you want a long term thing built up on mutual respect, honesty, loyalty etc, it is worth waiting... Don't rush into anything and if he is pushing you for sex he aint worth it... that is emotional blackmail... If he respects you he will wait til the time is right for you....
2006-09-21 02:50:49 · answer #8 · answered by Warmnjuicy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on a whole world of stuff..
are you old enough?
how well do you know them?
will it ruin the relationship as it is now?
will it blossom your relationship?
will it be a one-off?
how much and in what way do you like this person?
how much do they like you?
what would happen if you got pregnant?
sooo many things to consider.
If it was me, I would only do it if I knew that it wouldn't end there, that our relationship would bloom into a great friendship.
2006-09-21 02:57:25 · answer #9 · answered by Kerrie-anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
waiting a week is not bad at all before having sex with someone you like, sleeping with him within a day would be bad for any kind of relationship dreams you might have, so don't worry you are one of the fortunate ones
2006-09-21 03:13:20 · answer #10 · answered by blade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋