I'm really confused now a days. I'm chatting with a girl for two years and now she says that she is in love with me and wanna marry me. She is from Middle-East. Whenever we meet on net she always force me to come there and take her into India.
This is true that, now i m emotionally attached with her and like chatting with her. Even i sometimes feel uncomfertable when I cannt chat to her for few days. But i dont think anybody can fall in love on net. Is it?
Please advise me.
2006-09-21 02:41:23 · 18 answers · asked by dinker_kaushal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I understand you confusion. I believe that you are emotionally attached to her, but you have not been with her on a day to day basis. This is when the compatabiltiy factor comes into play. First, be aware that there are many, many people who want to come to the U.S. and marry an American. I'm sure this is not the case with you, but it may be possible. I'm confused as she wants you to take her to India. Did you mean that she wants you to meet her in India? It would be best if you both ever did meet, it be on nuetral territory. Also you have to remember that you are both from different cultures. Parents have the say so in India. Arranged marriages are done in this country. The parents may be pushing for her to ask you to go there. I know you trust her very much, but there are so many factors. India is a VERY poor country. AIDS in India is second to Africa. I am not saying this is her! But you have to take into account of everything which you may endure.
Ask yourself...Are you ready to meet her? Not "marry", but "meet" her? Have you ever talked on the phone with her? Maybe if you haven't, you need to make this your next step instead of flying to meet her. Have you exchanged photos? Have you written each other via snail mail? These are questions I would be asking myself.
But I do know what you mean by being emotionally attached to her. I believe this is normal via the internet. But we have to continue to remind ourselves that it is a "virtual relationship". It's not an actual face to face relationship. Meet her face to face, but on a different turf. I am curious as to why she didn't ask you to fly her to where you live. Or that you insist she meets you in your territory. It's complicated. But I would think about this. How do I know? I chat all the time with a man from India and have become attached to him. But I continuously tell him that when we chat, it isn't "real life". Of course this upsets him, but I don't want to set myself up for dissappointment in the end. I do not want to be used for a "Green Card", which I would never allow. So I do understand you situaltion whole heartedly. Continue to be "attached" but with restrictions until you meet. Do NOT rush into a marriage! This would be the worst thing to do!
I know someone who chatted for over three years with a person from India...they met, married, he got a green card, and divorced after his family got into the U.S.
Good Luck! LGK
2006-09-21 03:25:19 · answer #1 · answered by lovetofly46 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear friend,
sometimes we humans behave in such a way as if nothing should be wrong in our lives even for a second. but if we look at practical scenes, we will find that we r made up mainly by wrong things & we do wrong deeds only in general.
If u marry an arranged marriage, r u sure, u would make the perfect couple on earth ?
Why r u sooooooooo scared of falling in love ?
What is ur goal in a marriage ? Whom do u know ?
R u sure that in future days u won't find any strange element in ur beautifully, socially, familialy arranged marriage ?
And why on earth do u chat with a girl, whom u don't know ?
Why on earth u pple compartmentalise mediums of communication ?
Communication can't be built up depending upon the medium, it happens between two minds of two pple, damn it.
This life is not permanent, even if u marry a wrong woman, that won't last more than ur lifetime. If u can spend so many hrs comfortably with each other, then why not whole life ?
Whch angel r u waiting for to come ?
Or else stop chatting with her and see how beautiful ur life is. Afterall she can't force u to marry her.
2006-09-21 09:58:43 · answer #2 · answered by Vishnupriya C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people say they have fallen in love over the Internet but I believe that by chatting first they are laying down the foundation for the possible beginning of a new relationship. When you feel uncomfortable because you haven't talked to her after a few days is because It is something you have done for 2 years. I wouldn't call that love, you are just use to chatting with her so you feel funny when you don't. This is just my opinion. Meet her first and spend sometime with her and then decide. I wish you Love.
2006-09-21 09:54:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can fall in love on the internet. I mean, why not. You obviously feel something for her and she feels something for you. The first thing you two should do is meet and spend some time together, then you will really know where you stand with each other. Marriage and all that is good, but I think you should see if that's what you really want and to achieve that you have to first see if you are in love and that's what meeting each other will achieve. You will find out whether it is just internet love or real love. But don't rush into anything. Be true to yourself and your feelings. Follow your heart. Good luck.
2006-09-21 09:55:04 · answer #4 · answered by thefuturemrscena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anything can happen,and yes u can develop a great deal of likin for a person on and of the net ,try meeting her a few times up close in person, after acouple times,see what happen from there if u feel the same then start going steady then maybe the next step!
2006-09-21 09:49:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot call really consider internet chit chat as love. You have to have contact with the person, to get to know them real well before you can fall in love with a person romantically.What you are experiencing is infatuation.
2006-09-21 09:47:01 · answer #6 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do you know she is not really a guy or a kidnapper. I know a girl who met a guy on the net and they are getting married. But unlike your situation they both live in the same area. So be careful
2006-09-21 09:45:52 · answer #7 · answered by jercha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is possible to fall in love through the net,or even have a "connection" with a person through the net.However always be careful,with this person.You do not know them really, thats only an online world.Call her, and talk get to know her more.Dont marry her just like that,if you have to travel out to see her then do so,and get to know her even more.
2006-09-21 09:44:52 · answer #8 · answered by vre 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your attitude shows maturity of thinking. Do not let an on line relationship go any farther than friends.
2006-09-21 09:47:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are on right line. although you u shared your views for two years, but it seems you are not very much intrested in this love relationship. so wait for time when you are able to realize that whether this relation might be fruitfull for your life or not. untill you got full trust on her never go ahead.
2006-09-21 13:58:29 · answer #10 · answered by maddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋