Three high school students inmy area have died in the last 72 hours. In every case I wonder what parents are thinking.
The first one died on his birthday in the brand new sports car his parents bought him. He wasn't drinking...just being stupid.
The second one was stabbed to deeath by another girl...over a boy.
The third one was with a friend's mother on their way home from a concert. The MOTHER was driving her child and her friend...she was drunk and got on the freeway going in the wrong direction. She is fine and so is her daughter but the other girl wasn't so lucky.
I have three kids and understand wanting to give them things...make them happy...spoil them but what good are we doing? And as far as driving my baby drunk...I would have beat the hell out of that woman, then beat the hell out of myself for the rest of my life for allowing her to go.
Are the kids out of control or are we?
2006-09-21 02:33:02 · 42 answers · asked by sasha 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can be the best parent in the world, and it may not matter. Even smart kids do stupid things. Peer pressure, excitement, and just youthful exuberance can be a nightmare. Do the best you can, teach them well, and keep as good an eye as you can on them so they don't grow up to be parents who drive other kids around drunk and such.
2006-09-21 09:24:03 · answer #1 · answered by Sausage Fingers™ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is my belief that with children the parents are always to blame.
How we raise and treat our children it the only influence on the type of people they become. I hear people complain that the schools don't do enough, the town doesn't do enough, or the state doesn't do enough. You child is not their responsibility.
The first child's parents should have know he was not responsible enough for the sports car.
The parents of the murderer should have taught their daughter that nothing in civilian life is worth killing over. Especially a boy.
The mother from the last case, should have known better then to try and play the "cool mom" by getting drunk at the concert. And sure as hell should have know better then to drive drunk.
2006-09-21 02:55:49 · answer #2 · answered by boter_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The parents are horrible these days in raising children. Most of this stems from children having children. How many teenage mothers are there? How many 15 year old are having children. How can a 15 year old take care of another life when they can't even take care of their own.
Listen to the music, look at the movies and television shows now adays. Sure all of that influences the way children act but it's up to the parents to regulate what their children can and cannot watch, or, can, or cannot listen too.
Children need to be taught right from wrong at an early age since children develop their personality by the time they're 5 years old.
Too many times parents try to be their children's "friend" and not a parent. Again it stems from too many teenage parents who have no clue how to raise a child.
Society is a mess today and I couldn't imagine trying to raise a child these days.
2006-09-21 02:38:33 · answer #3 · answered by bad_dog76 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As a parent I will tell you, Parents are out of control!
Kids live in the conditioning of their environment. I was and am very strict with my kids. My daughter who is now older "22" only now appreciates the fact that I kept a strict household. Not that you cant have fun but certainly controlling the outrage and emotions. I never spoiled them but gave them what they needed one of which was a good education that is the foundation for life.
A new sports car is more of an ego trip for the parents, "ABSURD" in my opinion.
Too often we over compensate because of guilt due to divorce or having to work too much. My parents were fair consistent and strict as am I. My kids will hopefully follow the same advice and in turn lead by example as I did. Until generation after generation get back to the basics Kids will become our victims of circumstance that we have created.
Set the example and be proud that you have given the best opportunity for their future, thats the best we can do.
2006-09-21 03:36:29 · answer #4 · answered by r g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The kids are out of control because the parents has lost control. Because of state rules and being the favorable parent we op to be a friend first. If parents returned back to being parents first and friends last maybe all of the dead children would still be alive. We need to teach our children the difference between right and wrong. And what being safe is all about. but we need to follow positive ways of leaving so our children can do the same.
2006-09-21 14:35:26 · answer #5 · answered by coreytony0311 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The parents raise the kids and even though they can't control our decisions you guys have right to show us how to act so that we don't take after you in all the wron ways! Don't give us a brand new sports car unless we are responsible! Don't drive us around drunk for goodness sake! I am like a leach sucking everything my parents do and sticking it in my brain trying to learn what I do and when. Although I am now old enough to make my own decisions I still learn from them. Don't do something in front of your kids unless you want them to do it too.
2006-09-21 02:55:28 · answer #6 · answered by Lacking Daisies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other answers, both are out of control. It sure isn't like it used to be. I have a daughter who is turning 13 and I am so scared for her future. Drugs, sex, peer pressure, things are just so much worse these days. You try to be a good parent, but it's hard when there are so many things that seem to come at children today. When I went to school there weren't drugs, killings, weapons, it's so ridiculous the way things are. I just pray that I am a good role model for my daughter and that she learns how to make good decisions. But I see a lot of kids, with good upringings still turn out bad! What can you do, but do the best you can.
2006-09-21 02:41:59 · answer #7 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I raised two kids in a split marriage.
Both the biological parents, my wife and their father, hated each other. I paid for the sins of the father!
I loved those kids and I loved my wife.
All I could do was help raise the kids as best I could.
My stepson is a Cinematographer and my stepdaughter will receive her Masters in May, 07!
I haven't seen my ex-wife since 1998!
I try to remind myself I had an influence on those kids.
They both are fine human beings!
Have fun but be safe!
2006-09-21 02:43:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all in the parenting. If you raise your children right and hand them a gun and tell them to shoot somebody they won't do it. they will know that it's wrong and they will have the self confidence to be able to say no. I give my son everything he needs, not wants. Big difference! I do not spoil my son, he gets toys and things to play with and he pretty much gets what he asks for if he's good. Some people would call that spoiling, but he appreciates everything that he has and never throws a fit when told no.
2006-09-21 03:11:26 · answer #9 · answered by jdecorse25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the kids are out of control because the government says we can not discipline them any more it's child abuse, so the kids play on that, my first 2 girls got disciplined [not abused] and they turned out to be wonderful young women, the last 2 boy/girl did not get to much discipline the girl is good but the boy being the baby and only boy was spoiled rotten and you can sure tell it now he's 16 and in that I know it all stage has a problem with authority. and hates anyone that has authority over him. looking back I wish I would of did things differently with him.but we don't know then what we know now that we are older and wiser.
2006-09-21 02:48:46 · answer #10 · answered by smurfette_ftwayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋