My girlfriend does not mind if I slap her during intercourse.
However, if I slap her during an argument she gets very upset.
Is it OK if she slaps you first? How hard is too hard?
2006-09-21 02:28:23 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Never ever slap a woman.. EVER. If she slaps you, I'm sure it doesnt' hurt.. But if you slap her.. It's just not a very intelligent thing to do.
2006-09-21 06:25:03 · answer #1 · answered by stumble__replay 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
O.K. LISTEN UP NOW!
First of all: it is NEVER O.K. to hit someone. If you hit , expect it back. No matter gender. This is domestic or spausal abuse. It is not aceepted or "normal". YOU NEED HELP!!!!!!!You did say she didnt mind------you DID NOT SAY SHE LIKED IT IDIOT! When you say girlfriend, I asume you r in a relationship with this person, there for I assume you have feelings 4 this person, and this person assumes the same.....she might think you actually do love her....there for you r making love 2 her.....
When you love someone you DO NOT HURT! A slap hurts..... no matter how hard or soft. Words can also be very damaging....
Second:if you slap her during an argument she gets upset...... Hell Yes! If you slap me during an argument you better run for your life!!!!!!! And during SEX if you slap me YOU MOST DEFFINETLY BETTER RUN BEFORE I GET AHOLD OF YOU KNOW WHAT.....needless to say, you would never do that mistake again........If my answer upsets you well, It upsets me more that this occurs but, it is a positive thing that you asked....
If you genuinly have feelings for your girfriend or want to have a healthy relationship in the future, I suggest that you look up information on domestic violence, or dating violence and get help!
You sound young, and I pray that at somepoint you do realize that violence is Never a good thing...
2006-09-21 08:31:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
What's up with your girlfriend? You're making her seem weak. You said that she doesn't mind if you slap her during intercourse. Does that mean she asks you to slap her or is she just cool with it when you decide that you want to? I've heard of aggressive sex but there is a limit. No one on yahoo answers can decide that. You can't even answer that. It's up to your girlfriend. I would say that if she's showing up with bruises, you're going too far- although, some people bruise easier than others. Just use caution, I guess.
Women will allow some things during sex that we would never tolerate in our normal lives. For example, my man can call me a wh..e, sl.., or bi..h during sex, but his face would come in contact with a wicked left hook if he said it any other time and he's fully aware of it. Not to mention, when I feel dominate, I talk dirty to him too. It's not a one way street so I don't feel ashamed or disrespected when/if he gets a little too aggressive. Not to mention there's a lot of respect between us. You guys have to hold each other in high regards when you're aggressive sexually. Sometimes things will get out of hand but its when you know that the other person honestly meant no harm that it doesn't become a big deal.
If she slaps you first during an argument, I would yes.. you're well within your right to defend yourself. You don't have to hit her in the face and make her eye swell. But you can let her know that although you respect her as a woman, she needs to respect you as a man. Some women try to treat men like punks because they know that alot of men were raised to not hit women. Women aren't weak and helpless. Some women will put a knife in your chest and not think twice about it. Times have changed. But honestly, if you guys are THAT aggressive towards each other, maybe you two ought not be together. Neither one of you should be hitting the other out of anger.
2006-09-21 05:14:22 · answer #3 · answered by Honey 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I enjoy a slap here and there during sex, and my boyfriend and I love to wrestle and whack each other one now and then. But if he ever slapped me during an argument , no matter how lightly, I would leave his a*s in a minute. It would tell me that he is too stupid to discuss his issues, deal with his anger, and master his emotions like an adult, that he does not love and respect me, and that he is likely to abuse me in the future as these things tend to escalate. If you cannot argue in a more constructive and mature manner then you should not be in a relationship. Same goes for your girlfriend.
2006-09-21 03:51:05 · answer #4 · answered by amandla 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You should not be slapping anyone at any time! If she slaps you, be a man and walk away. If she likes being slapped during sex, go for it. But remember, pay backs are a b*tch!
2006-09-21 11:31:28 · answer #5 · answered by gemm77 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you like that stuff during sex, that's fine.
Whacking each other outside of that is wrong for either side. If she slaps you first, walk away.
2006-09-21 16:03:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FYI To slap her in most jurisdictions would be considered misdemeanor battery; either way the slap went.
2006-09-21 16:50:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her liking to be slapped during intercourse is a different matter..
Never slap anyone if they don't want to be slapped..
She should not slap you either..
You two sound perfect for each other..
Dumb and Dumber...
2006-09-21 04:35:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
NO! It is not okay. At any time. Ever. This behavior is called ABUSE. You will never have a satisfactory relationship with a woman until you learn to treat women with respect. Maybe someone needs to hit you up side the head with a 2x4.
2006-09-21 02:34:33 · answer #9 · answered by lollipop 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If its concentual its ok. That is to be determined by her, not us. I had a girlfriend that loved to be spanked on the backside (She was the one who initated it, kind of freaked me out at first). I never slapped her in an argument, just as a part of our lovemaking.
2006-09-21 02:32:07 · answer #10 · answered by Charles B 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋