How can I deal with my x-boyfriend at work?

Question

He was my best friend before he became my boyfriend.
We have broken up our relationship, but we can't back as friends even as colleagues at work.
We are fighting with each other -at work- many times without stop, how can I deal with this situation and he is with me in the same department.
No way (for me or him) to change the work or department, we have to deal with this without any changing. BUT HOW?

Answer 1

i've been in the same boat not long ago. we fought, well onmy part, it was out of resentment, i don't know what her feelings were towards me, as to y she picked fights. Anyways, this sort of behaviour goes on for awhile, 1-2 months. not full on fighting, just nitpiking. At the end she just began to ignore me and i just lost interest. So ignore him and treat him nice when ever possible. that way he'll realise he is being an idiot and not you. That's wat she did to me and it worked.

Answer 2

Ah the dangers of mising business with pleasure - you're just gona have to be grown up about this and speak to him - tell you're both adults and that what happened outside working hours must not affect the professional working relationship - tell him that inside the office you feel you have to be civil to each other, even if it may be a strain. Point out that you dont want your colleagues copping on to the fact that you are having problems as this could reflect on your job prospects etc.
Surely he'll be mature enough to realise what you're saying is true and hopefully hell agree - I mean people do it all the time - I hated half the people I worked with in my last job - but you just grin and bear it!

Answer 3

Simply just go to work and talk tohim whenyou need to concerning work wise. Anything else concerning personal issues just ignore it. If not then you willend up losing your job or something because of him. Better to have friends at work then enemies. We should never workin the same place or department with oour mate because inthelong run, When you breakup, You will end up getting into arguements and willtreat each other with disrespect and not realizing in front of others and/or customers and that would not be right.

Answer 4

I just split from my bf who was also my best friend before we got together...and we are best friends again. You have to be honest that it didn't work and reiterate how important the friendship is - and most of all, not hold grudges.

As you work together it may be best to try and calmly suggest that you do not row at work otherwise you may both end up in bother.

Answer 5

You are going to have to be the adults you are supposed to be and separate your private lives from your professional lives. It's called professionalism. Or just wait until your boss fires one, or both of you.

Perhaps next time you'll know better than to date someone you work with.

Answer 6

The only way to solve this is to ignore him !! Don't speak to him at all...avoid being near him if you can ! BUT it would be better if you could be adults about it and talk this through explaining that you have to at least try to get along at work .

Answer 7

Most companies discourage people having affairs at work places because of such problems.You just have to learn to ignore each other.

Answer 8

Try not fighting back. Just say: 'ok' and walk away or whatever your work situation permits. Hope it works out

Answer 9

You both have to be mature, right now try and act like he is just a coworker and if you dont want to get fired this is easy to do!

Answer 10

Have you not ever heard of the saying " don't sh** where you eat"! never never date co-workers just for that reason!!!too much drama!! You should be the adult, just be polite when you do have contact and try avoid him. if this does not work try explaining the situation to your supervisor.(I hope HE is'nt your supervisor?)is HE????