ok basically this is the story...my boyf has been involved in alota **** (nt gna say wat) 4 bt 5yrs...ive been with him 4mnths...thing is we just clicked...automatic chemistry and all that...i love him...ALOT...however his past has caught up and the police r on his case...he's worrying he'll go inside...but to me it sounds like they just wanna routine question him...but he's saying IF he dus go inside...(which wud only be 3 years...minor offences) we wud finish as he wants me 2 live my life blah blah blah...but im (at this point) willing to wait for him...he has a full time job and isnt like the nrml low lifes...so no stereotypers gt involved..!! THANKS!!
2006-09-21 02:11:55 · 7 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
comment to that guy...im 20...and im in england so yeah three years is the max...he does want to change...thats the point...just as he began to turn his life around...this all caught up...basically one of his friends (whos still involved) got caught and named the others that have ever been involved, they run quite a tight crew...they got him by his car...when i say low lifes im referring to those that dont care about others...let alone themselves...i say at the moment because u neva know what will happen...n i told him its my desicon, but he sez he's confused!! thanx 4 the comments, ill update u all!!
2006-09-21 02:39:52 · update #1
Isn't it your decision to make whether you wait for him or not.???? ..I don't feel he should be making that choice for you, I UNDERSTAND why he is doing it, But it's your life and if you want to wait for him I think that is something you should do... You shouldn't be second guessing yourself....You know how you feel, No one else here does.....We are not in your shoes...We don't live Your life.....But, you need to think about it first..you said *At this point* which means, possibly, you're not 100% committed to waiting the full three years and if for any reason you feel that you're not ready for that than you need to let him go then....Because to convince him and yourself that you are and then change your mind down the road would only break hearts and cause resentment.....I'm pretty sure You don't want that...
At this point it doesn't even sound like a sure thing that he is even going to jail.....Which Let's all hope is the case....
My final thought is do what you would want him to do if the roles were reversed, be honest, and stick with your final decision.....
Good Luck..........
2006-09-21 02:33:02 · answer #1 · answered by Erin O. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question is that if he does go in or if he just gets questioned will he do what he was doing again or stop altogether and move on? Hun,speaking from experience most men won't they will say that they'll stop or even stop but pressure from friends will cave eventually. This is what I think you should do be friends and observe, if years and months go by and you see that he's changed then you know he's at a time in his life to have an relationship. To be in a good realtionship you need to figure yourself out because really if you don't know yourself how can you love somone else. The real question is do u think he'll change and if he dosen't can you llive in the lifestyle he chooses.
Remember it's hard to build trust but it's easier to knock down that trust.
2006-09-21 02:20:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have been where you are on multiple levels. You do not get 3 years for minor offenses. It would need to be pretty close to a felony, if not a felony. You can claim you will wait for 3 years all you want, but get real, that is a long time to wait for someone you only have known for a few months. Move on, find a nice guy who knows how to live with other people in a modern society without getting arrested.
2006-09-21 02:20:06 · answer #3 · answered by barter256 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that is something you have to decide for yourself. I was in a relationship something like that and I learned that if they were always getting in trouble and in and out of jail they will never change. the one I was with was supposed to do 1 year but guess what Jan. will make 5 years because every time he got out he was going right back in so if you are willing to chance that instead of being with someone who is going to be with you go for it. alot can happen in three years just remember that. I got tired of it all and I moved on and now I am with the greatest man who I don't have to worry about going to jail. also you don't want to get caught up in that. if people see you with him and something happens you never know if they will come after you because of him. just be careful in what you choose and good luck.
2006-09-21 03:31:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to reevaluate your definition of a lowlife....Lot's of people who commit crimes work full time jobs that doesn't make them decent.
Hopefully, if he does "go in" it will give you the time you need to get your head out of the sand and find a more decent boyfriend.
Best of luck.
2006-09-21 02:17:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you truly love him then support him as long as it doesnt get you in trouble.
2006-09-21 02:15:05 · answer #6 · answered by malorieks 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
move on!! you're what 12? things will be better when you grow up.
2006-09-21 02:20:19 · answer #7 · answered by Craig M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋