There is this really large woman at my work, and when i see her she just offends me. She has never done anything wrong to me directly but she eats like a horse and uses the lifts to go up or down one flight of stairs, and i just get angry seeing her for some reason.
2006-09-21 02:08:48 · 32 answers · asked by poli_b2001 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Its not that i want to dislike her, i dont even know the woman. its just the way i feel and its not just because she is fat cos i get this feeling about others on occasion
2006-09-21 02:21:48 · update #1
No ,not a bad person ,maybe she reminds you of someone you dont like ,or maybe you realise her lifestyle is not healthy and and don't like to tell her .Try saying "hello "maybe you would find she is a nice person with problems
2006-09-21 03:26:46 · answer #1 · answered by Rosie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You obviously have a problem with big people. Your not a nasty person some people are just like that you probably ind that it offends you because you work so hard to keep in shape eat all the right foods and this woman is who she is. she doesn't care about the latest fashion or the fact that she cant go into top shop to buy a size 6 skirt. You'll just have to learn to accept her for who she is and get over it! You will only be a nasty bad person if you actually offend this woman but otherwise you get on with your life and let her get on with hers!
2006-09-21 02:16:34 · answer #2 · answered by Jo. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only one way to fix this and that is to get to know this women!
If you feel you are a bad person for feeling the way you do about someone b/c of there appearance then you have a lot to change and a lot to learn... Get to known her for who she is on the inside and under neath it all, she was not always the way she is now in appearance. Find out what her personality is like, be nice to her, do you think you are the only one who feels this way anout her??? Don't be like everyone else this women might really need a friend. It may be hard but it will put an end to your bad person feelings and you'll see and learn something you were closed minded about.
2006-09-21 02:26:14 · answer #3 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what u mean,there r people we hate from the 1. sight.They never said or done anything to us but we still hate them.Why?There is always a good reason,soon or a leter they will do or say something 2 hurt us,so what u feel is called the 6. sence,just wait and u will c
2006-09-21 02:30:14 · answer #4 · answered by EMMA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a bad person for feeling this way. It may have to do with your scripting which can control our feelings and actions subconsciously and of course the the way we are programed socially by advertising etc. to view large people.
However, you would be considered bad if you let it bother you so much that you act out in a negative way that would show disrespect and hurt this woman's feelings.
2006-09-21 02:19:15 · answer #5 · answered by newgirlnow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not a bad person - I am the same. My flat mate is overweight. I love her to pieces but I cannot stand to sit and watch her stuff her face with 2 happy meals and 2 mcflurrys for dinner (a common occurence).
Its about people having a lack of self-respect and it does seem to produce this reaction. If you got talking to this woman you would maybe like her but still get annoyed when you see her stuffing her face but lets face it - there is going to absolutely nothing you can do about it.
2006-09-21 02:16:49 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are not a bad person, I understand how you feel. I once worked with a really large women and she always complained about being fat but was always eating and gave out of breath walking to her car. It made me want to tell her off.
2006-09-21 02:13:27 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda Leigh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY WHATSOEVER ar you a bad person. EVERYONE thinks horrible thoughts at time. but think of it this way. say you are a really religous person right. and you see this woman distroying her "temple" that god gave her (her body) and she taking it for granted, why feed yourself and have no excersize and ruin what god gave you.
i have bad thoughts sometimes, but you coming on here and asking if you are a bad person clearly shows you have some thoughts of guilt for thinking it. but hey, some people are disgusted in different ways. i personnally, would find it VERY disgusting if i had to see that everyday. really i would, so you aint alone mate. x
2006-09-21 02:17:20 · answer #8 · answered by london lady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is a little harsh at the end of the day she isnt offending you and only doin harm to herself if she eats lot and is overweight..
you should try chatting and being nice to her you might realise she is rally funny and cool and then you wont be having harsh thoughts when you see her and dont forget not everyone is an oil painting
2006-09-21 02:15:17 · answer #9 · answered by kazza 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you are a bad person at all. Sometimes I meet people and after a while find that I cannot abide to be around them - that every little thing they do really gets to me - almost like they're doing it on purpose!!!
But I did read once that that which we find repulsive in others is a mirror of our own faults, which I find a bit worrying!!!!
2006-09-21 02:13:30 · answer #10 · answered by sammi 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋