my exboyfriend was very jealous right from the beggining, but i could work, well, with him,of c my friends, but later, i had to stop working, i couldn go in to the shop or so, he was upset over everything. is there any chance for him to get better?i love him,i want to be with him, but not like this
2006-09-21 01:54:16 · 9 answers · asked by Eli 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no he is gone as its gone leave it like i said before it could get worse than you could imagine. get away from him while you still can and not even friends just leave it all alone.
2006-09-21 01:57:43 · answer #1 · answered by concrete water 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is actually hope for him and I speak from personal experience. I used to be an insanely jealous guy. I wouldn't even let my (now) wife leave the house by herself. It drove her nuts and caused more than a couple arguments between us, but in the end it all worked out for the best and we are now coming up on our 5th wedding anniversary.
Basically she never gave me any reason to doubt her faithfulness but at the same time didn't get too terribly upset whenever my paranoid suspicions would pop up.
I say that if you love him you will give him the chance. Talk to him about it and make sure he wants to get better, he may not realize there is a problem. However, if he starts to get violent then you need to make tracks away from him for good.
2006-09-21 02:03:46 · answer #2 · answered by burnslikewhiskey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. He will not change. It is a sickness! My exhusband has it. Notice I said EX. When we got together I was an outgoing spirit. I was friendly with others and had a love for life. He was Mr. Wonderful at first. Although, I did notice the jealousy he possessed but it didn't seem extreme. Stupid me... I thought it was cute. Anyway, I had a great job and was very independant. Once we married I became a different person just to keep the peace with my husband. I should note that I never did anything to cause him to not trust me but, he didn't. I went from successful, independent, friendly, happy person to stay at home mom with no phone, no car or access to one (It was HIS car. Hmmm) I wouldn't even look at the cashiers at the store because he would accuse me of sleeping with them. We had Satellite hooked up and heaven forbid the man came to hook it up while my husband was at work. He went crazy with jealousy because another man came to the house. I didn't even have a key to our new home. He said there was no need sense I wasn't to go anywhere while he was gone. All of these things happened over time. It wasn't over night. Be careful! When I left my husband he stalked me and it could have been a very dangerous situation. I still look over my shoulder wondering if he is going to get me. Please don't make the same mistake I did. He will not change. My exhusband went to therapy at the beginning of our problems because I said I was going to leave. He was Mr. Wonderful all over again. The therapist acted like I was a horrible wife because my husband was so sincere. Boy did he have her fooled! Jealousy stems from insecurity. When someone is insanely jealous they are extremely insecure. Nothing anyone can do will change that within them. Control goes hand in hand with this type of person. Again, don't make the mistake I did. Get out now before it gets worse. Oh... did I mention that after an evening out to dinner with a few of my exhusbands friends (a pleasant evening I thought) until we got home and he knocked me into the wall because his "best friend" looked at me like he wanted me.?!@* CRAZY huh?! I left him when I was pregnant with our third child. You can be strong just like me. Good luck and God bless!
2006-09-21 02:16:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 06:15:47 · answer #4 · answered by rybicki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's not jealousy, thats control.....been there. Next it will be checking to see who called , then telling you who can call and who cant, then telling you who you can hang with and cant. Get out now before you're completely under his thumb and have no life of your own. or worse, many of these relationships become abusive and you dont need that s**t girl.
2006-09-21 02:23:19 · answer #5 · answered by duce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now i was very jealouace of a man and the longer i stayed with him, the worse it got. and eventually the relationship met its demise. you should leave him. it could get really bad and end up dangerous. i understand you love him, perhaps you can talk to him, my vote is to get out. i am sorry.
2006-09-21 02:01:40 · answer #6 · answered by blondie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YEah he can get better but there is nothing you can do to help but tell him to work on himself...
it seems he has to find his true calling!
Good luck
Mad luv
2006-09-21 01:58:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be, an open talk will help
2006-09-21 01:58:19 · answer #8 · answered by tanya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him
2006-09-21 01:56:40 · answer #9 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋