I've had exam after exam to make sure my fertility is intacted since I under went several surgeries and procedures to treat my cervical cancer. I'm fine now. But my husband and I have been off of all birthcontrol for 6 of my cycles. And I've been charting my cycles for the the past 3. Nothing. and tons of money spent on negative pregnancy tests. I have two healthly children from a previous marriage so I say my hubby has something going on thats causing the hold up. I mentioned it last night and he seemed angry with me. And he begged me to go off of birth control and have his baby. So I'm not pushing him.
2006-09-21 01:46:52 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I have a little bit of the same problem. I have been ttc for a year and a half and nothing. The doctor wants to test my husband and he refuses to get tested in fact we got in a fight over it. Unlike you i have not done all the test they are asking me to do. I did find out with my periods being irregular sometimes i dont ovulate. So my husband thins it me. I did one cycle of clomid andi did not ovulate that month i have not done another because i had a period twice in august and i just had one this sept it was 16 days from the last so i am trying to see what my body is doing. I would take him to the doctor with you that is what my doctor recemonded. But i have yet got him to go. We still fight about it.. Just keep trying to talk to him tell him that you have done all you can do even have the doctor tell him that and maybe it will help or work good luck
2006-09-21 03:23:40 · answer #1 · answered by helpif i can 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's only been six months and you have already had exam after exam, spent tons of money on negative pregnancy tests and are charting your cycles? I'd say that you are too stressed about this whole pregnancy thing. Surely you have heard about people trying for years, giving up, and then getting pregnant.
Don't assume that there is something wrong with your husband. I don't know whether you had cancer before or after having your two children, but something may have changed.
Go together to see a fertility doctor but give it more time unless you are on some kind of a deadline. I noticed from your profile that you are 20. I think you should refocus your energies on the 2 healthy children you currently have and on building a strong marriage. There's plenty of time for more children. I hope your children don't know how stressed you are over this - that's sure to make them feel inadequate.
2006-09-21 02:03:04 · answer #2 · answered by nonna_barbara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start with your gyn and remeber that it isn't your problem or his problem but both of yur problems. You are going through this together. If you need to be tested your doctor should recommend testing your husband first. His test is easy even if it is embarrassing (which is probably the cause of his denial). The doctor would rather check him out first before putting you through the many expensive, invasive, and sometimes painful tests. Really, wouldn't you hate to go through al that only to find nothing, then his guys are tested to discover poor motility?
See your doctor, tell you husband that this problem belongs to both of you and he can get his part over with easily.
2006-09-21 02:03:15 · answer #3 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it would be best if both of you see a fertility doctor together. This will ease any tendencies to finger-point. After all, you are both the "team players." Your fertility doctor will probably want to run a blood routine on both of you, including checking some of your homone functions. Also she will probably want to count his sperm. There are many reasons that a pregnancy doesn't happen readily...and your doctor will guide you. I will leave you with a link to a helpful website to check out. Best wishes.
2006-09-21 01:55:05 · answer #4 · answered by magnamamma 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is asked by fertitlity specialists that both parties be checked. If he wont get checked there is not much you can do about it, but also realize sometimes it takes a year or more to become pregnant after birth control.
2006-09-21 01:51:45 · answer #5 · answered by j3572h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him that it does not make him less of a man if his little swimmers are having a problem. Take him to the doctor and have him checked before you waste anymore money. My wife and I did IVF for my son. It was somewhat expense but well worth it. Good Luck.
2006-09-21 01:52:23 · answer #6 · answered by loser 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should suggest that you both go to a fertility doctor as a couple, rather than pushing him to get checked out alone.
If you look at it as OUR problem vs. HIS problem, he may feel more comfortable.
2006-09-21 01:50:20 · answer #7 · answered by jennyc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i understand what you're saying, that you've gone through all the tests and now it'd be nice if he'd go through them and see what's going on.. however, men (as most women know) think completely different than us.. your hubby is likely thinking that you're trying to place all the blame on him.
i agree.. look at it as OUR problem and he should be a little more receptive
2006-09-21 01:53:28 · answer #8 · answered by ami 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes have him go to the dr.,but men are stubborn and they do not like going to the dr. They hate it in fact.So please sit down with him and say well if you want me to have a baby we need to have you checked because i have had several tests and they cannot find anything wrong with me . be honest. It is always the best policy. Good Luck.
2006-09-21 01:52:49 · answer #9 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you know just speaking from experience stop trying so hard I tried with my man for 6 years and we gave up all of the charts and 3 months after we stopped trying I was pregnant...I think stress was a factor........GOOD LUCK
2006-09-21 02:27:22 · answer #10 · answered by thunder_rainclouds 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋