I had pretty,sweet woman, maybe a bit young for me, but she really loved me and showed it many ways.She had a habit of lying to many people, but in our relationship she was fathful and caring, available in many ways. I felt lucky, happy, until I did my usual thing in relationships: got bored, started to take it for granted, going out and flirting occassionally. I left for 6 weeks on business and she had an affair. I returned, over-reacted. She lost friends from her behavior, felt alone, so she left the area and found work in a large city 8 hours away. After a month she returned to get personal items from her mom's home, and I contacted her. We met for 3 evenings, she was hesitant but open to me, we made love each evening.Tomorrow she leaves, possibly to never return,says she is happy and busy in her new life, that she just wants to get established, get own place, doesn't want any guys.Tonight we meet.What can I say to win her love and trust. I would move there gladly if she accepts.??
2006-09-21 01:44:15 · 22 answers · asked by Nick N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yea darlin
u did screw itup
how about giving her the space she is asking for? obviously you both still care otherwise you'd not be together everynite
However, be prepared to carry the name 'sexbuddy'
You could just let her know that you'd like to try again and that you'd love to visit her
2006-09-21 01:48:12 · answer #1 · answered by koleebear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes two to tango!
You were a 'Sugar Daddy'! Of course, the sweet young thing is going to accommodate you.
You were bored and stepped out....she had an affair or two...or more.
I am pretty certain their were other problems between you two and it went ignored. The fireworks finale is over. What I speculate now, is that you are a friend with benefits. Are you willing to accept this, knowing she has moved on with her life?
Please! Don't beg! Others have already seen how much of a fool you made of yourself. Why precipitate it to a lower level?
2006-09-21 02:19:15 · answer #2 · answered by SLOWTHINKER 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 12:47:03 · answer #3 · answered by latia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well son, i've been married for 12 years, so i know what i'm talking about. pursue her with everything in you. if you have to leave your city, move and find a new job, do it. she's testing you. she wants to know if she is worth the effort.
there's a book called the five love languages. get it and read it. it's less than 15 bucks. you may have to order it, so go to borders and ask about it. i normally dont recommend books, but this is a good one. it will change your life. it's a test, so she probably wont say what she means. if you want her in your life, it is up to you. "mine is not the reason why, mine is the do or die"
2006-09-21 01:50:33 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if she had a lot of problems. You don't mention any of your own besides a love for her...so without that info, I could only say I hope she doesn't accept, for your sake, unless she is ready and willing to change her ways.
She has to want to learn trust for herself. You can try, but it's going to be hard without her cooperation.
She might need that time away from you to learn.
2006-09-21 01:57:26 · answer #5 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sure this hurts a great deal, but she cheated on you, there is no room for that kind of crap in anyones life. and i am sure you didnt over react. and if she dosnt want a man in her life right now probably means she has someone else out in the city. and she is using you the way she used the guy she cheated on you with.
2006-09-21 01:51:03 · answer #6 · answered by blondie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well,try talking to her,tell he straight all that you feel about her and get to know her feelings.....if she accepts good for you or else i suggest you leave her alone,cos if she doesnt want to be with you then you cannot force her cos that'ss look like desperation...she has moved on with life,its not an easy decision to move town,m sure somethings really hurt her and that hurt has moved her far away from all this.....i suggest it'll be better for you too to move on with life and learn from past experiences and mistakes!!good luck!!
2006-09-21 01:51:37 · answer #7 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her, let her go. If you are meant to be with this woman, you will be. Right now, you don't seem to have enough personal growth to deserve her.
Get some help with your immaturity, inability to commit and insecurities. Perhaps she won't look so attractive to you then.
2006-09-21 01:47:55 · answer #8 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She had a habit of lying to many people, she cheated on you and you think it is your fault!!
I understand your heart is broken but for heaven's sake don't take all the blame.
2006-09-21 01:48:46 · answer #9 · answered by toietmoi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude.what is your malfunction? are that much of a puss?.the ***** cheated on you.she must have a solid gold vagina.........dick her down one last time and when your done...kick her out and tell her that you hope she fails miserably in any endeavor she undertakes and that she never call or contact you again. Wishy washy milktoasts like you make it easy for women to step all over them. You give men a bad name. man up dude
2006-09-21 01:49:37 · answer #10 · answered by answering 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋