Since we parted almost 3 years ago, he has been part of my thought everyday. In fact, i'm tired of it. Is it love? I do not want this feeling coz it's not right. Anyone can give me advice how to forget him...Or at least take this feeling off me.
2006-09-21 01:24:45 · 20 answers · asked by naive 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sounds like unfinished business between the both of you, does he feel the same. have you talked to him about this?
and why is it not right and does feel the same way about it. have you tried actually talking about it. and listening to him and not just hearing yourself speak.
why would you want to forget him, you there are always two sides to a story. what have you done and what has he done.
why did you guys part in the first place?
always need to hear both sides of the story.
and who is to say it woud not work out between the both of you, the problem there is that both of you have to follow through and act like grown ups and not run away as thing take their place.
hmmm
well if you would like to talk more on this subject message me and ill respond.
i went through the same thing i thought is wrong to but was willing to follow though if she would not run away but she would always freak out.
that just got really old fast
obviously you are in love and if you are going to do it then do it comon you only live once.
either you live your life in truth and swallow you pride and roll with the punches
or
you live it in a lie for beliefs that cause all of us to suffer needlessly
nexus658@yahoo.com if you need to talk
2006-09-21 01:39:07 · answer #1 · answered by concrete water 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not say how old you are, but the younger you are, the easier to forget. Because you have so many possibilities of meeting other people, and usually it is puppy love what you had to begin with, the sooner you will get over your ex I know it is hard, but 3 years is quite a long time. By now, you should have met someone new. Do not compare them to "him", everyone is different. Try instead to point out the good things about the "new" guy. If you work, maybe you can try going out in a group and meet someone, say like in an office party, or sometimes co-workers meet after work for drinks and there may be someone there that catches your eye. Maybe these co-workers have a friend they can introduce you to. Gyms and churches are also good places to meet a decent man. Bars are not recommendable, because you are liable to hook up with an alcoholic and get into a bad relationship. Try to look for someone with your same interests.
The good thing I see with you is that you realize that it is not right to keep on thinking about your ex and it is time to move on. You just need courage to do it. He could have hurt you so much that you are afraid of having another relationship because you fear it will happen again. Life is a game of chance. Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose. You won't know if you don't take that chance. Who knows, you might be lucky and find that "right" person for you. It is up to you!
2006-09-21 09:00:22 · answer #2 · answered by Sylvia P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did u get closure when u broke up? You know talk about why and set your feelings on the table, say youll still be friends, leave and never ever make contact again unless u really have to.
Have you got angry and hated him yet. Distroy everything he ever liked, the dress the lipstick the shoes, nothing that reminds u of him whatsoever should be left over. Cleanse yourself in a way. And if that doesnt work go c a phyc.
2006-09-21 08:31:49 · answer #3 · answered by chanD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always been of the view that if someone doesn't want to be with me there must be something wrong with them so good riddance to bad rubbish. Now don't start saying but boo hoo hoo he has all these good qualities. He's a jackass and you don't need him. Tell yourself that every time he enters into your mind. Even if you don't believe at first keep at it until you convince yourself. Never allow yourself to think of him in any other terms. Do this and you may still think of him from time to time but when you do you'll just shake your head and say what a jackass - why on earth did I waste so much time on him.
2006-09-21 08:53:17 · answer #4 · answered by Potcake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a hard one, but I know exactly how you feel. I went through the same thing and my best friends advice was that you will always love him if it was true love, you just have to learn to keep it in your heart like a treasure to look in on occasionally, remember the fun times and be happy and get on with your life and remember that if you are meant to be together the universe will make sure you end up together. Good luck..
2006-09-21 08:30:25 · answer #5 · answered by jam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there...you can do it!
You have to really want to though and not be fooling yourself. Sit down and set some new goals for yourself...where you want to be six months from now..one year...five years. Do it.
Then let your new "Big Picture" be your prime motivation. Start loving yourself all over again. Be determine to not let someone who is long gone( enjoying his life) continue to control yours.
Find a good book or start a new hobby. Try and at least one positive thing each day for yourself. Each time your mind drift toward him, think of how ridiculous that is and divert your attentions to something pleasurable.
Be determined...you must...your immediate happiness depend on it.
2006-09-21 08:36:03 · answer #6 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try doing things which would take ur mind off him
say u can try out with ur hobbies
try hanging out with ur frnds
the basic line is try doing things which would help divert ur mind off him
if this doesn't help ask ur self 1 question if u don't love this guy y do u think abt him try and go to the root coz do u really like this guy try to doge ur self wit different questions who knows u may find the ans
and yes if u like a guy or love a guy y do u think its not right
its absolutely normal at this age to like or get attracted
if u seriously like this guy and u think so much abt this guy u can cross check tht with urself
if u do go for it don't deny
denying the fact has always made situations worst
so chill tk cr
2006-09-21 08:37:16 · answer #7 · answered by mayu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to sit down with friends and let them help you forget this guy!
Take pen and paper and write down all the good things about yourself and focus on them instead of him
Just the fact that u are getting tired of thinking of him all the time is a; big step in being ready to finally leave him behind
Start goin out with other guys that interest u
2006-09-21 08:28:42 · answer #8 · answered by koleebear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am sorry it ended- you need to realize it's over and move on. I know it feels horrible and like it's the end of the world but everything happens for a reason. This person wasn't "the one" for you, you'll be okay :)
2006-09-21 08:29:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know falling out of love is so much harder than fallin in love..........speaking from experience it is a very unimaginable painful experience and believe me it will get better with time........it may not seem like it right now but it will it took me almost 3years but i tried to keep myself busy with other things and that was almost 5 yrs ago but everynow and again an old song will remind me......think about it this way he's moved on ...............it will be o.k
2006-09-21 08:35:13 · answer #10 · answered by mojajazmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋