Hi there, thanks all the people who answered my question about jealous partner. but is there anyone, with the same problem, either with jealous partner, or expartner, or some one,who is very very jealous and maybe went to c some therapist.has anyone of u, or someone u know been cured?
2006-09-21 01:13:01 · 4 answers · asked by Eli 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My husband is a very jealous man! When we first got together, it was flattering to have someone be jealous but eventually, his anger was directed at me. I saw a counselor for a short time because I was concerned about our relationship and didn't know the best way to sort through the issues. My counselor told me that jealousy was emotional insecurity and it was his problem, not mine. He also told me I shouldn't allow someone to make me feel guilty over nothing. He was right. I hadn't done anything to feel ashamed of, therefore, his jealousy was uncalled for. Once I figured that out (DUH!), I made it clear to him that if he pulled that foolishness anymore, I would pack up and leave. Well, he did and I went to a hotel, called a lawyer and started looking for a new house to buy. Over the course of 3 months, he swore that it wouldn't happen again and asked me to give him another chance. I did and that was his wake up call. I made him admit that he trusted me not to cheat on him and that it was his own issues he was dealing with. Now, if he even gives me a look that even closely resembles a jealous reaction, my eyebrows raise and I give him a VERY pointed look. The look says, "Do you REALLY want to go there mister?" No real problems since.
He never saw a counselor himself but the other approach worked pretty well. Now, if I see that something bothered him, I ask what is was SPECIFICALLY that bothered him so much and I expect him to answer me honestly and without screaming like an idiot. (like he used to) We talk about it and keep an open dialogue. He is getting better at facing his own inner demons.
You can't live with someone who acts like that because they will drag you down if you aren't capable of handling yourself. You need to assess whether or not it is worth it to stay with someone with that much emotional baggage. If it is, you need to make it clear that unnecessary emotional fits aren't something that you can deal with, then be fully prepared to leave if they can't abide by it.
2006-09-21 02:21:29 · answer #1 · answered by sunnygirl1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the more education a person has the better off he/she may be. I say may, because I have met some very astute individuals who, though intellectually are a cut above the rest, are still emotionally immature. However, I still feel that education is the key, but in this case, having an education on the workings of your own emotions and asking yourself are these behaviors that i exhibit maladaptive or constructive?
2006-09-21 01:19:13 · answer #2 · answered by l_tone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The person I am seeing is a very jealous guy, I can't even say hallo to my highschool buddies without getting the evil eye, I also don't know what to do if you have any solutions let me know!!!!!
2006-09-21 01:18:07 · answer #3 · answered by Princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know, I don't stick around to find out.
2006-09-21 01:32:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋