how do i get my 13 year old son to respect his mother more she goes to work upset at the way he reacts when he is asked to do something but doesnt do it nearly as much to me.he raises his voice bangs his hands on the table,hes a good kid good grades plenty of friends and hes a happy child but he seems to have a problem with authority from his mum.
2006-09-21 01:02:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Are you the father? or the father figure? There could be many reasons for this behavior. With the info you've provided, i have to ask how strict is the mother? Does she let him get away with everything? Does she promise punishment but never delivers? Does the father disrespect the mother? if so, maybe the son is acting like dad, or whoever the man of the house is? If mom and dad are divorced, maybe the son blames mom for getting rid of dad. I did. Is mom in alot of problems, financial, emotional etc problems. Perhaps the son doesn't respect her abilities as a person and thus doesn't respect her....but at the same time he's 13, he's at the age where is gonna be connecting with his peers, and being a momma's boy is out, and learning to be a man is in.
2006-09-21 01:30:31 · answer #1 · answered by l_tone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the problem. YOU can't do anything about his behavior. Only his mother can do that. The reason is that you're not there every time he goes into his act. He acts that way because the rewards are greater than the consequences. If his mother would ground him a couple of times (or lower the boom with some other consequence) the behavior will go away. The reward may be as little as getting her upset and feeling pangs of guilt. Toughen up your wife (THAT'LL be a project, won't it) and the behavior will go away.
2006-09-21 08:15:01 · answer #2 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A way my mother dealt with my younger brother who had a similar issue is: They went camping together in a very quiet place with very few things for distraction. The way this helped them is that he had to rely on my mothers skills and say so to survive the week as he had never been camping and had no idea of survival skills. He learnt to respect my mother and still does. It might not work with your son but hey anything is worth a try :)
2006-09-21 08:08:15 · answer #3 · answered by Pink Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Iam also a kid even younger than yours..but i've watched movies and i think you have to be a little STRICt to your son and discipline him, try talking to him ask him whats the problem he wount act like that if theres no PROBLEM??or maybe bad INFLUENCES like friends,movies and tv's??
2006-09-21 08:26:53 · answer #4 · answered by LOVED:) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids r used to their mums being with them all the time and will never have the same fear of them that they do of their fathers ... try to get him to talk to her about his feelings ... if that doesnt work then u (cos he's not so rude to u) can just ban him from bein a **** at his mum and tell him u will have consequences 4 him if he keeps it up
2006-09-21 08:18:01 · answer #5 · answered by millie_mountbatten 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is that I'm glad my kids never tried that **** with me. They knew who the boss was and what I would and wouldn't tolerate.
2006-09-21 08:07:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may want to be more stern with him, maybe try sitting him down and talking with him, or maybe counseling,after all you are the mother
2006-09-21 08:06:36 · answer #7 · answered by wanda h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk 2 him & ask him whether he has some kindda problem with his mom
2006-09-21 08:17:39 · answer #8 · answered by b'By sTyK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋