Think of your up-bringing...
Think of your behavior in your relationships, with family, friends, boyfriend or girlfriend.....
Do you think that all the "abnormal*" behaviors that we currently have is the cause of our parents poor parentting habits?
*Abnormal- not being able to adapt as well as others seem to, act out just to be noticed, when a person feels emptiness, when a person is secretive or sneaky, melodramatic......and so on.
2006-09-21 00:35:17 · 15 answers · asked by Tetyana R 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
That question is a HUGE debate among Psychologists worldwide. It's hard to say with. Bad Behavior can't be generalized to being cause by one specific reason, such as bad parenting. Other things that you must take into account is rebelion, peer influence, lack of parents or no parental figure to begin with, psychological health, one's own morals, along with many other reasons.
Rebelion - that's obvious the act of going against something/someone. So in this case, the parents might be great, but the kid might hate that idea of being like his/her parents and choose to act badly as a way to create an identity for his/herself.
Peer Influence - Who does the person hang out with? If surround yourself with thugs, you'll probably, 95% of the time, going to become a thug yourself.
No parental unit - a chid whom is an orphen may have never had any really parental figure growing up. So you can't even try to say it was the parents fault if there was no parent to begin with. That's just a different situation.
Psychological Health - Are they crazy? If so, can you blame the parent. Not always.
Morals - What do they believe is right? Jeffrey Dalmer, the murderer/rapist/canibal, didn't think he did anything wrong. He felt, at least while commiting the acts, he was perfectly within his rights. So regardless of what a parent may have said, the individual still has an opinion on the world around them. Also, think about Hitler. He was Psycho, right? Wrong, mostly he was just very opinionated and then actually acted on his opinion in a strong aggressive vashion. Not crazy, just had a different immoral way of seeing life.
Does this all make sence? This could be argued from different sides for ages. You have to look at an individual case completely before one can decide if it was bad-parenting that caused the bad behavior.
2006-09-21 00:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The funny thing is, many of the "abnormal" behaviors are actually quite normal. I don't know many kids that don't act out for attention, aren't melodramatic, or don't hide things from their parents.
Kids test boundaries. You have to train them to understand social norms and it doesn't happen overnight. Your kid isn't going to understand that yelling in the supermarket is making you look bad. All they care about is attention to the fact that the hate grocery shopping. If they yell, you'll take them home.
Now, if you use certain positive and negative re-enforcements, they will learn that screaming in the supermarket not only doesn't get them home faster, but it causes them to loose TV time and dessert. Parents need to be consistent. The bad parenting comes from a lack of teaching their kids what is expected of them, giving up when it gets tough or not giving a damn at all.
Melodrama = being a teenager. Have you ever seen MySpace? Dear God....
Emptiness? Only a very, very depressed kid feels empty. That's when you have a real issue. Of course, growing up presents one of the most psychologically demanding times in a person's life. You're learning where you are socially, and kids are cruel, cruel peers.
2006-09-21 04:26:21 · answer #2 · answered by Protagonist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there may be a few people who are maladjusted that had no problems and had excellent parents but I think a very large part of the problem now is that parents are not given free reign to discipline thier children.
Don't mistake me I don't mean abuse them but people who would be good and responsible parents are not able to truly discipline thier children without fear of being brought up on charges so they just don't parent.
The television has become a huge babysitter, video games and the internet have replaced sunshine, physical activity and creativity. Children don't read as much as they used to they would rather see it at the movies or on tv.
Parents are not involved enough in thier kids lives. They need to be nosy... ask who thier friends are, insist on meeting them, limit tv to 1 or 2 hours a day and only age appropriate programs, make sure to watch what your child does on the net, get involved at thier school etc.
It is a sad state of affairs when parents can call the school and complain that thier child didn't pass due to not knowing the material or being lazy and then the school will give in and pass the child anyway.
We don't prepare kids for being anything but selfish spoiled brats these days because as a nation we are too afraid of being carted off to jail or having our kids taken away that we fear correcting our children at all much less the way the generations prior to us did.
I could go on forever on this subject but I will step off my soap box now.
2006-09-21 00:53:14 · answer #3 · answered by morrigann_angelus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Bad parenting Can show you how bad is "bad behavior" and make you good
2. Bad parenting Can show you how things get easy sometimes with "bad behavior" and make you bad
3. Good parenting Can make you expect every body have "good behavior" and make you bad
4. Good parenting Can show you how good is "good behavior" and make you good
5&6&7&8&9&ETC
there are toooooo many situation for happen and it depends on you and what you think after any behavior and what result will you get. of course God's help is important, too.
2006-09-21 01:13:20 · answer #4 · answered by Don Eric Corleone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A large portion of the resposibility falls on the parents, but external influences also play a large part. A parent can help set their child up for life, but after that the child has to make the right decidions on their own.
2006-09-21 00:43:05 · answer #5 · answered by tgypoi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parenting is a big part of it but it's not the whole reason. There's the influence of the people you associate with, and you are born with a general temprament but parents can deal with that if you start right from day 1
2006-09-21 00:50:33 · answer #6 · answered by booboo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try to blame it on your parents if you want, but only you are responsible for yourself.
Sometimes bad parenting makes kids stronger and they are actually better for it. Sometimes good parenting makes kids weak and unable to take care of themselves. There is a fine balance, and you have to remember that parents are people with their own flaws and their own bad parenting.
You should work on yourself and stop blaming your parents.
2006-09-21 00:42:02 · answer #7 · answered by Don't Know 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can take a thirsty horse to water and make it drink it, but the onus to drink or not lies with teh horse.
In teh similar way parents have to do their best, to educate their children with moral values, and the rest is destiny.
Cheers :)
2006-09-21 00:38:58 · answer #8 · answered by donald 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I am a bad kid and it is all because of my parents.
2006-09-21 01:41:16 · answer #9 · answered by pinky_days 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,sometimes it is the result of a chemical inbalance in the brain.
2006-09-21 00:43:30 · answer #10 · answered by S.A.M. Gunner 7212 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋