I am 20 years old, a female, and I am a junior at an Ivy League University. I've been in a "long distance" relationship for over 5 years now. It's a weird story, but I met him randomly on the internet when I was 14 years old. We were insulting each other for fun in a chatroom and we ended up chatting more and more to each other since we enjoyed it so much. He is a European citizen who is a couple years older than me. I told my mother about it, and at first she was reluctant and thought he was probably an internet creep. She wanted me to stop talking to him, but after sorting things out, she permitted me.
Two years after we first started talking, we decided to meet. I was 16 at the time, and my mom let him stay at our house. He turned out to be who he said he was. The thing is, at the time, he was enrolled in a community college so he was going to have a decent future. However, due to financial problems, he had to stop going to college and moved to a different country in Europe
2006-09-20 23:51:23 · 10 answers · asked by Indubitably 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
with his family.
We see each other every 6 months or so for a month at a time. We speak for 2 to 3 hours every day and he's honestly the best friend I've had. My question is, now that I am almost done with college, and have plans to go to graduate school , and he has not finished college, would we work out?
2006-09-20 23:52:14 · update #1
He's very fun to talk to, he's caring, sweet, etc. We're also best friends...he's the best friend I've ever had and he knows me the best out of anyone in the world. However, he's not academically driven at all.
I wouldn't mind moving to Europe at a later age, that's not the issue. I'm just wondering in the long run how compatible we truly are?
2006-09-20 23:53:48 · update #2
Preferentially, I'd never want to get married, ever. It's not my thing. But seeing as we hold different citizenships, I'd have to.
2006-09-20 23:55:20 · update #3
I'd also like to add that on top of this, because I wanted to keep it an "emotional" conversational relationship, we did not exchange pictures for 6 months! Luckily, we're both very good looking (truthfully too--yeah, I'm modest..)), but I mean, that's another plus. Neither of us loves the other for appearances alone.
2006-09-21 00:09:39 · update #4
Clearly the relationship has passed some rigorous hurdles. What you are asking is if you can compromise on your partner's lack of higher education, which resulted from a financial situation, which may be a whole other issue. Finances tend to resolve themselves. Is it his intention to continue his education if money was not an issue?
You have a couple of other things going: One, you are young and in a long-term relationship. Do you really want to exclude all other choices at this point in time? And two, and this appears to be the larger issue, is he going to live permanently in the United States? If not, then the relationship may be just another life experience leading to the right man for you.
2006-09-21 00:12:04 · answer #1 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like college is your problem. Its proximity. If he's your friend and you want more out of it, then pursue it. It sounds like you both are going above most to be with each other over the years.
I see no reason it won't work. Just go on and make it permanent and move in together or get married or something.
2006-09-21 06:56:26 · answer #2 · answered by sugarapple25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The college factor IS a factor, but not a deal breaker. I certainly am not saying you two can or will end up together, just that the educational difference isn't what should determine any possible future for you two. You're young, so there is no need to hurry anything.
2006-09-21 06:59:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like him having at least a college education weighs heavily on your mind. But it also sounds like you two are compatible. As far as communication you seem to have that. I think if you keep it up you two will be fine. Do you love him? If so go for it.
2006-09-21 06:59:03 · answer #4 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But maybe he's sexually academic, and in Europe he is better off, some people come from school of hard knocks, know more than any school can teach you about life, all you know is what come from books
2006-09-21 06:58:57 · answer #5 · answered by captcruzer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you would last as friends!! But lovers I cant say!!! No one knows whats going to happen in the future you just have to close your eyes and hope for the best!
2006-09-21 06:58:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you like him lot, so why don't you have him as a friend, till you figure out what you really like to do, good luck with all that, hopefuly everything works out for all of you s...
2006-09-21 07:03:46 · answer #7 · answered by happydial 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not very good odds of success, but you never know. All you can do is wait and see.
2006-09-21 06:56:22 · answer #8 · answered by auld mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as you want it, it will work out.
2006-09-21 06:57:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not long, move on
2006-09-21 06:54:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋